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Topic: What is the enemy of love?
Thoughtfulthug Joined Tue 05/05/09 Posts: 514	Mon 05/25/09 12:33 PM
in-laws Girl friends who think thier opinion matters Guy friends who don't give a sht if it works out for you or not Everylast magazine or internet article telling you the "Top 10 things to tell if your mate is thinking of Cheating"...great idea!!!! Give em something to be paranoid about without thier mate having actually done anything wrong. People who actually buy into those bullsht articles. Depends on whether you have been cheated on. So the articles can be relevant to only to people who had the same experience.

Monier Joined Sat 03/17/07 Posts: 3337	Mon 05/25/09 12:37 PM
Cynicism is better than paranoia. I guess paranoia can be one of the many symptoms of having such a cynical world view (or viewing women or men in a way that they are inherently selfish). Paranoia is much simpler and can be the result of a variety of perceptions. Jealosy, self worth and general misunderstandings to name a few can cause paranoia not to mention the general fear of love that some have.

Thoughtfulthug Joined Tue 05/05/09 Posts: 514	Mon 05/25/09 12:42 PM
Cynicism is better than paranoia. I guess paranoia can be one of the many symptoms of having such a cynical world view (or viewing women or men in a way that they are inherently selfish). Paranoia is much simpler and can be the result of a variety of perceptions. Jealosy, self worth and general misunderstandings to name a few can cause paranoia not to mention the general fear of love that some have. That is interesting that you contribute the notion that these list of things - such as jealosy, self-worth, and miscommunications- are in fact what cause paranoia. I think that is an erroneous description and meaning of the word paranoia. Have you even consider looking up the etymology of that word?

krupa Joined Thu 07/03/08 Posts: 18651	Mon 05/25/09 12:42 PM
I donno thug....been cheated on plenty of times. But, I would have to be a friggen 'tard to assume that some gossip columnist half way across the country would have even the slightest idea about my personal relationships. I would have to be even more bone headed to accept some random strangers heavily generalized advice over my own powers of observation.

Thoughtfulthug Joined Tue 05/05/09 Posts: 514	Mon 05/25/09 12:46 PM Edited by Thoughtfulthug on Mon 05/25/09 12:46 PM
I donno thug....been cheated on plenty of times. But, I would have to be a friggen 'tard to assume that some gossip columnist half way across the country would have even the slightest idea about my personal relationships. I would have to be even more bone headed to accept some random strangers heavily generalized advice over my own powers of observation. Quite true indeed. To let you know, I don't endorse these silly columnists who I don't even know, and how they can publish such nonsense anectdotal evidences which are questionably vague if you ask me.

SirQuixote Joined Mon 05/04/09 Posts: 212	Mon 05/25/09 12:51 PM
Cyproterone and Medroxyprogesterone seem to do the job nicely, short of chemical or surgical casteration.

krupa Joined Thu 07/03/08 Posts: 18651	Mon 05/25/09 12:56 PM
I donno thug....been cheated on plenty of times. But, I would have to be a friggen 'tard to assume that some gossip columnist half way across the country would have even the slightest idea about my personal relationships. I would have to be even more bone headed to accept some random strangers heavily generalized advice over my own powers of observation. Quite true indeed. To let you know, I don't endorse these silly columnists who I don't even know, and how they can publish such nonsense anectdotal evidences which are questionably vague if you ask me. I hear that bro! Had to talk down more than one borderline hysterical bird who read something and immedeatly assumed I was doing wrong.

Dragoness Joined Wed 10/17/07 Posts: 23320	Mon 05/25/09 01:21 PM
What is the enemy of love? It is usually ourselves at some level. We choose those who are not right for us by imagining them as something they are not. We hold the sins of others against those new to us. We never look at ourselves for part of the responsibility in our relationship failures which doesn't allow us to fix ourselves for the new partners. Etc...

Sapraim75 Joined Mon 05/04/09 Posts: 90	Mon 05/25/09 01:28 PM
My GF broke up with me cause she said we are too different after a 1 yr and a half of being together.

Sapraim75 Joined Mon 05/04/09 Posts: 90	Mon 05/25/09 01:34 PM
I am hurt and Heartbroke. She said I was not a roughed and a Rough enough guy or her and I am too nice. WTF! LOve Stinks. To make matters worst my brother came to visit and now she is with my lil bro

Thoughtfulthug Joined Tue 05/05/09 Posts: 514	Mon 05/25/09 01:40 PM
I am hurt and Heartbroke. She said I was not a roughed and a Rough enough guy or her and I am too nice. WTF! LOve Stinks. To make matters worst my brother came to visit and now she is with my lil bro Love only stink when the feeling and declaration is not reciprocal from the object of your love.

Suhnshine Joined Tue 01/27/09 Posts: 161	Mon 05/25/09 01:40 PM
confusion, and haters

Zazanna Joined Mon 05/04/09 Posts: 220	Mon 05/25/09 01:41 PM
Apathy - being unwilling to take a chance or let go of the past and embrace the future. That's it. Yes I agree with this one also. I know its somewhat cliche but the old adage that "the opposite of love is not hate, but indifference" is still true in my mind at least. Hate is an emotion that requires passion not unlike love and it also means that you feel strongly enough about the hated individual to muster that emotion from within yourself. Apathy requires zero effort. It just means that the person means nothing or doesn't bother you enough to even sway you one way or another.

Sapraim75 Joined Mon 05/04/09 Posts: 90	Mon 05/25/09 01:51 PM
I think she could have gone after anyone but my younger Brother. She did wrong me, but what is worst is that I do love her and she doe not want me.....So I will move on.

Zazanna Joined Mon 05/04/09 Posts: 220	Mon 05/25/09 02:22 PM
I think she could have gone after anyone but my younger Brother. She did wrong me, but what is worst is that I do love her and she doe not want me.....So I will move on. Although I would say that people cant help who they are attracted to in some cases, if she really needed to be with your brother, she could have done it secretly so as to not rub your nose in it. You have the right idea. Move on. Being happy is the best revenge.

Sapraim75 Joined Mon 05/04/09 Posts: 90	Mon 05/25/09 02:44 PM
Thanks ZaZanna. I will Rise Above this Bad Break up.

cityblues21 Joined Sat 07/05/08 Posts: 20033	Mon 05/25/09 06:48 PM
Doubt....

TexasScoundrel Joined Wed 10/29/08 Posts: 3693	Mon 05/25/09 07:22 PM
Head games. Head games are all about gaining power over the other person. You start playing games to get your lover to do what you want. But, when you learn you can manipulate them you lose interest. They have become your dancing monkey and you no longer have any respect for them.

galendgirl Joined Sun 07/06/08 Posts: 24728	Mon 05/25/09 07:23 PM
indifference

Thoughtfulthug Joined Tue 05/05/09 Posts: 514	Mon 05/25/09 07:24 PM
Head games. Head games are all about gaining power over the other person. You start playing games to get your lover to do what you want. But, when you learn you can manipulate them you lose interest. They have become your dancing monkey and you no longer have any respect for them. ...and what can you say about people who willingly by their own volition chooses to place themselves in that role?