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| Topic: Does it take awhile for a guy to know if he's really interes | |
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...maybe he is shy ..in that case you might have to make the first move..so look him in the eye............and grab his package.... 
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Hard to get, is hardly got.
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...maybe he is shy ..in that case you might have to make the first move..so look him in the eye............and grab his package.... |
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You can usually tell from the "vibes" if he's interested or not. Comments he makes, the way he touches you, etc. There could be a number of reasons he's choosing to take things slow, and he's the best one to answer that. I'd hate to see you leap to a conclusion that tanks a potential relationship. I've never been an advocate of playing hard to get, but I know that others have success with it. I simply feel that if I'm interested, I state my interest. If he's not, all the game playing in the world won't change that fact, and I walk away. Agreed... What the heck to we know about what he's thinking??? Not to mention he could be weighing different thoughts, the friendship between your children, is he ready, is he really interested, are you ready, are you really interested.. I think rather than surmise on opinions that you should straight up and ask him what this is about.. If he can't answer then he's too closed up and or wishy washy so why bother... To me if something is that difficult it's too time consuming and I can't be bothered... |
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If he can't answer then he's too closed up and or wishy washy so why bother... To me if something is that difficult it's too time consuming and I can't be bothered... That's how I look at it. I work a demanding job, and lack residual energy to chase someone around. If they're interested, they're interested...if not, there's always another one out there somewhere :) |
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If he is a guy that likes to take things slowly, I think that's great... How many people jump into bed after a few dates and they're not ready to commit and one or the other will feel used or something, fatal attraction, all different things for different people...
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I agree with Prncs. Being in a "relationship" is a long-term thing, and can't be rushed. You can't just look at each other and expect sparks to fly right off the bat, as that's stuff found in a cheesy romantic movie with Tom Hanks and Meg Ryan.
So people need to "grow" on each other in a relationship. That's normal. |
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I agree with Prncs. Being in a "relationship" is a long-term thing, and can't be rushed. You can't just look at each other and expect sparks to fly right off the bat, as that's stuff found in a cheesy romantic movie with Tom Hanks and Meg Ryan. So people need to "grow" on each other in a relationship. That's normal. |
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Why yes! It IS like a growing, festering tumor!
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I can only speak for myself, I dont pretend to understand what any othe guy thinks. When I am interested in a woman, I know it pretty quickly, but it takes me a while to build up to letting her know. In my 20's it was all leap and never look. After having been burned a few times, I tend to look and look and look and look. I always made the mistake of letting the girl know early and often how interested I was, and it seemed that once they knew that, they knew they were in control of the relationship. I am not saying that is a bad thing, but going back to being burned, now as I rapidly head toward 40, I am less willing to give up too much too quickly. Right or wrong, I will talk and talk and talk to woman, without letting on too much until I know she is genuinely interested and not just going on spark.
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He's got gas?
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"Knowing about their family isn't a could unit of measure for every person... "
Hi there not saying it is, but what I meant was I tend to want to know if there are going to be very overly protective parents getting in the way of the relationship or not, coz generally I don't want to deal with that sort of thing. |
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Four date. Hmmmmm... Have you had sex yet? If I was the guy and we'd been on four dates and hadn't had sex I wouldn't be calling you again.
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Four date. Hmmmmm... Have you had sex yet? If I was the guy and we'd been on four dates and hadn't had sex I wouldn't be calling you again. |
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I actually think that the less guy carries on about sex, the more interested he is in you as a person. I know this sounds really bad, but in the past, when sex has come up, rarely do I assume that it means a relationship has started. In simple terms, for the woman I truly care for, I keep my sexual desires at bay, to demonstrate to her that I love and respect her and want her for much more then her body. Not saying that it's not my preference for sex to be part of a relationship, but you got to be logical about this, if you want a monogamous committed relationship, can you really expect your partner to be sexual active for the rest of their lives? Mind you, I heard 70 year olds have more sex then teenagers.
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Most guys don't really like women all that much, but they need them.
I am well aware this is a generalization. Some men like women. However, men need women for sex, for appearances, or to do things for them. They don't want a partner, or an equal. They are the man. If you are prettier than they are comfortable with, less attractive than they feel they deserve, too smart, too tall, lower or high class...etc... then they feel either superior or inferior. The mixture for them has to be just right. If a man, an actual man who likes women, comes along and is interested in you, not a moment will pass that you wonder if he is interested. |
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Most guys don't really like women all that much, but they need them. I am well aware this is a generalization. Some men like women. However, men need women for sex, for appearances, or to do things for them. They don't want a partner, or an equal. They are the man. If you are prettier than they are comfortable with, less attractive than they feel they deserve, too smart, too tall, lower or high class...etc... then they feel either superior or inferior. The mixture for them has to be just right. If a man, an actual man who likes women, comes along and is interested in you, not a moment will pass that you wonder if he is interested. |
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I actually agree with everything Lilith just said, the balance has to be right. I don't want someone who is too stuck up and upper class, nor do I want someone who is completely down the gutter, but that's just my personal preference, of course everyone is human and you have to be flexible and enjoy people for who they are, not who you want them to be.
But I don't think it's wrong to be fussy in what you do and don't want out of a relationship... |
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