Thats a good one!!

Men claim that they hate girls that play games, but yet they love a girl they can chase. The whole playing hard to get game..THEY LOVE IT!
Funny thing is, if we are really interested in a guy, it's tough playing the hard to get game. Its the ones that we don't want that chase us, cuz we blow them off..*sigh*

Anyway to answer the OP's question..

I am thinking he is really not that interested at this point. Actions speak louder than words. And if he was really digging you, he'd be more than just texting! He would be over at your place having a good time. :)
You could play the hard to get game, but it seems at this point you have not much to work with. If you were doing a bit more than just texting, I would say play the hard to get. But I think if you blow him off now, he would just stop texting. JMO

Just have fun, don't make him a priority when he is making you an option. Keep him on the backburner, and find some other guy to play with.;)

Yeah, I think I just realized all this myself.

Yeah, I think I just realized all this myself.



That is unfortunately what I was going to say. It's like the saying "he's just not that into you". You say you've seen each other 4 times, but did I miss you say in what length of time? 4 times in 3 months isn't much. 4 times in 10 days is. I think if it is early still, I would not ask. I would watch and pay attention to the actions. He WILL show you either in word or in deed what he wants. Good Luck

Oh yeah...Cinderella is right...you go girl
Tell me...has he ever seemed a little boring?

wrong answer

I think you knew from the start, just needed someone to assure you.
Good Luck!

make it obvious if you like him,ask him out,guys love that.i do anyway

Oh yeah...Cinderella is right...you go girl
Tell me...has he ever seemed a little boring?


No, can't say the time we've spent together has ever been boring. We can talk for hours.

I think you knew from the start, just needed someone to assure you.
Good Luck!


Thanks! That's why I like these forums. Getting other peoples' thoughts, helps to make me realize I pretty much had the answer all along, but just didn't want to see it.

Well, I haven't asked him out, but he knows that I am very interested in him.

he's being a gentleman,duh huh

Cool...what didn't I win?

Well, I can hope that's what it is, but I'm betting that it's just that he's not that into me.

hi there, if it helps, with me it takes a long time to get to know if i really want a woman in a relationship sense, at least a month of getting to know the woman, and securing a friendship. but that's just me.

the reason for that is because i would want to know everything about the woman's family, as much possible about the "whole package" before I get too involved. Does that make sense?

Makes perfect sense.

as long as she's got boobs,i'm interested...

We know right away if we want to shag. We don't think straight until after shagging, because if we did we would have seen better options.

You can usually tell from the "vibes" if he's interested or not. Comments he makes, the way he touches you, etc. There could be a number of reasons he's choosing to take things slow, and he's the best one to answer that. I'd hate to see you leap to a conclusion that tanks a potential relationship.

I've never been an advocate of playing hard to get, but I know that others have success with it. I simply feel that if I'm interested, I state my interest. If he's not, all the game playing in the world won't change that fact, and I walk away.

Send him a text "Can we meet to talk". See what happens from there.

Knowing about their family isn't a could unit of measure for every person...