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Topic: Does it take awhile for a guy to know if he's really interes
Cinderella75 Joined Sat 12/22/07 Posts: 10049	Fri 05/08/09 02:43 PM
When in doubt play harder to get... Thats a good one!! Men claim that they hate girls that play games, but yet they love a girl they can chase. The whole playing hard to get game..THEY LOVE IT! Funny thing is, if we are really interested in a guy, it's tough playing the hard to get game. Its the ones that we don't want that chase us, cuz we blow them off..sigh Anyway to answer the OP's question.. I am thinking he is really not that interested at this point. Actions speak louder than words. And if he was really digging you, he'd be more than just texting! He would be over at your place having a good time. :) You could play the hard to get game, but it seems at this point you have not much to work with. If you were doing a bit more than just texting, I would say play the hard to get. But I think if you blow him off now, he would just stop texting. JMO Just have fun, don't make him a priority when he is making you an option. Keep him on the backburner, and find some other guy to play with.;)

shebop Joined Fri 02/06/09 Posts: 27	Fri 05/08/09 02:48 PM Edited by shebop on Fri 05/08/09 02:48 PM
Yeah, I think I just realized all this myself.

auburngirl Joined Fri 04/27/07 Posts: 18811	Fri 05/08/09 02:50 PM
Anyway to answer the OP's question.. I am thinking he is really not that interested at this point. Actions speak louder than words. And if he was really digging you, he'd be more than just texting! He would be over at your place having a good time. :) You could play the hard to get game, but it seems at this point you have not much to work with. If you were doing a bit more than just texting, I would say play the hard to get. But I think if you blow him off now, he would just stop texting. JMO Just have fun, don't make him a priority when he is making you an option. Keep him on the backburner, and find some other guy to play with.;) Yeah, I think I just realized all this myself. That is unfortunately what I was going to say. It's like the saying "he's just not that into you". You say you've seen each other 4 times, but did I miss you say in what length of time? 4 times in 3 months isn't much. 4 times in 10 days is. I think if it is early still, I would not ask. I would watch and pay attention to the actions. He WILL show you either in word or in deed what he wants. Good Luck

beauty314 Joined Sat 04/19/08 Posts: 1709	Fri 05/08/09 02:52 PM
When in doubt play harder to get... Thats a good one!! Men claim that they hate girls that play games, but yet they love a girl they can chase. The whole playing hard to get game..THEY LOVE IT! Funny thing is, if we are really interested in a guy, it's tough playing the hard to get game. Its the ones that we don't want that chase us, cuz we blow them off..sigh Anyway to answer the OP's question.. I am thinking he is really not that interested at this point. Actions speak louder than words. And if he was really digging you, he'd be more than just texting! He would be over at your place having a good time. :) You could play the hard to get game, but it seems at this point you have not much to work with. If you were doing a bit more than just texting, I would say play the hard to get. But I think if you blow him off now, he would just stop texting. JMO Just have fun, don't make him a priority when he is making you an option. Keep him on the backburner, and find some other guy to play with.;) Oh yeah...Cinderella is right...you go girl Tell me...has he ever seemed a little boring?

coz1976 Joined Sun 07/13/08 Posts: 1196	Fri 05/08/09 02:53 PM
When in doubt play harder to get... wrong answer

Cinderella75 Joined Sat 12/22/07 Posts: 10049	Fri 05/08/09 02:55 PM
Yeah, I think I just realized all this myself. I think you knew from the start, just needed someone to assure you. Good Luck!

coz1976 Joined Sun 07/13/08 Posts: 1196	Fri 05/08/09 02:55 PM
make it obvious if you like him,ask him out,guys love that.i do anyway

shebop Joined Fri 02/06/09 Posts: 27	Fri 05/08/09 02:59 PM
Oh yeah...Cinderella is right...you go girl Tell me...has he ever seemed a little boring? No, can't say the time we've spent together has ever been boring. We can talk for hours.

shebop Joined Fri 02/06/09 Posts: 27	Fri 05/08/09 03:01 PM
I think you knew from the start, just needed someone to assure you. Good Luck! Thanks! That's why I like these forums. Getting other peoples' thoughts, helps to make me realize I pretty much had the answer all along, but just didn't want to see it.

shebop Joined Fri 02/06/09 Posts: 27	Fri 05/08/09 03:02 PM
make it obvious if you like him,ask him out,guys love that.i do anyway Well, I haven't asked him out, but he knows that I am very interested in him.

coz1976 Joined Sun 07/13/08 Posts: 1196	Fri 05/08/09 03:02 PM
he's being a gentleman,duh huh

beauty314 Joined Sat 04/19/08 Posts: 1709	Fri 05/08/09 03:04 PM
When in doubt play harder to get... wrong answer Cool...what didn't I win?

shebop Joined Fri 02/06/09 Posts: 27	Fri 05/08/09 03:05 PM
he's being a gentleman,duh huh Well, I can hope that's what it is, but I'm betting that it's just that he's not that into me.

Stephen101 Joined Thu 04/02/09 Posts: 3243	Sat 05/09/09 05:48 PM
hi there, if it helps, with me it takes a long time to get to know if i really want a woman in a relationship sense, at least a month of getting to know the woman, and securing a friendship. but that's just me. the reason for that is because i would want to know everything about the woman's family, as much possible about the "whole package" before I get too involved. Does that make sense?

shebop Joined Fri 02/06/09 Posts: 27	Sun 05/10/09 03:04 PM
Makes perfect sense.

Jtevans Joined Fri 08/10/07 Posts: 30654	Sun 05/10/09 03:06 PM
Or do most know right away? I've always heard that most guys know fairly quickly if they want to keep seeing a woman or not. I've just been getting very mixed signals from a guy that I started seeing. We've seen each other a total of 4 times now. Not really dates, just hanging out and talking. We text every day (which I HATE, as I would rather talk on the phone), and he says that he is looking for a real, rest of his life, type of relationship. We live in the same town, so it would be very easy to get together more often, if he wanted to. So, I am thinking that maybe he doesn't want to. But then why does he keep contacting me? Could use some insight..... as long as she's got boobs,i'm interested...

mistarr Joined Tue 09/23/08 Posts: 177	Sun 05/10/09 04:48 PM
We know right away if we want to shag. We don't think straight until after shagging, because if we did we would have seen better options.

ladywolf9653 Joined Fri 05/18/07 Posts: 1012	Sun 05/10/09 05:06 PM
You can usually tell from the "vibes" if he's interested or not. Comments he makes, the way he touches you, etc. There could be a number of reasons he's choosing to take things slow, and he's the best one to answer that. I'd hate to see you leap to a conclusion that tanks a potential relationship. I've never been an advocate of playing hard to get, but I know that others have success with it. I simply feel that if I'm interested, I state my interest. If he's not, all the game playing in the world won't change that fact, and I walk away.

metalwing Joined Fri 11/14/08 Posts: 26218	Sun 05/10/09 05:17 PM
Send him a text "Can we meet to talk". See what happens from there.

IndnPrncs Joined Sun 11/04/07 Posts: 58420	Sun 05/10/09 05:40 PM
hi there, if it helps, with me it takes a long time to get to know if i really want a woman in a relationship sense, at least a month of getting to know the woman, and securing a friendship. but that's just me. the reason for that is because i would want to know everything about the woman's family, as much possible about the "whole package" before I get too involved. Does that make sense? Knowing about their family isn't a could unit of measure for every person...