He's an unsuccessful 48 yr. old man boy, and his hands are always on me and affectionate. He's stroking my face, my back, my side and it's like a drug that keeps me sedated. He gets all serious and focused then and only then addressing my needs.

I hate to be so hateful, but I despise his lack of sophistication and couth and I cringe when he speaks cause he has he nerve to use his voice and he'd really be better off to hold something back. You have to wonder about that kind of self importance and that it's typical of an unaccountable childish creative type.

It was his happy nature that drew me but what boy wouldn't be happy at home with mom keeping things neat and orderly.

I must've grown EERILY BORED to mix into his lackluster world.. bj's on a faux print blanket, hj's at a picnic table, splitting tabs, a round on me for you and your friends.

I tried calling it off and he accused me of using him and reacted badly questioning 'what? the nice guy doesn't catch the prize,' then threw me a bunch of flattery which is nice cause of my middle range insecurities.. 'If you weren't so good looking, I'd let you go.' He also has the nerve to be superficial.

Maybe it's a match made in hell. I can feel sorry for him and lift him on a pedestal he doesn't deserve and he can keep overcompensating and licking my feet.

Wow... I'm speechless.

Hmm, a little high on yourself!!

Sometimes I like to date girls beneath me; other times I like them on top.

Nah on a more serious note, if you don't like who he is, get rid of him. There are plenty of classier perverts who would still give you your back scratching and other hands-on drug.

just a little writing on relationships..

You betcha!

but not really

meh. see you underground.

Great idea!!

Thanks for pointing it out

it is not a good situation if you do not feel comfortable with him intellectually. there are a lot of very affectionate guys who can be your intellectual equal as well as exciting erotic partner.

seek them out, tell the guy in question that you like him but that he is not the one and go find one of the ones.



it will be very gratifying on a number of levels...

Yeah, seems a little more like a superiority complex to me. Simple... don't like his ways, move on. But maybe, just maybe, you like having him around to make yourself feel a little better on the high horse.

Thank you for the quality advice s1owhand. He will not allow me to break it off without a pout then somehow the back of his hand winds up stroking my chin..

looking forward to days (and nights) alone...

My mother always taught me .. " if you have nothing nice to say " ...
Have a nice day anyway

LOL I'm with TwoTallOne on this, and am backing slowly out of the thread.

I sorta kinda hate myself for posting this. I don't fully understand my problems, or I understand them then recreate some scenarios.

Indeed...he's only around because you LET him be around.

Well, the last line made me laugh..

and he did call me ugly names the first time i broke things off with him..

I know. I realize this is a sad situation. A land friend has already advised I tell him squarely that it's not working out, goodbye, and good luck..

He does sound like an immature guy who is also a manipulator. But, if you don't want to be manipulated, don't let him. Take the wind out of his sails. But, you have to really look at why you keep allowing him in your life. Are you trying to resolve him, make him grow up? If so, don't bother!!!

I feel the need to be very nice to him now.