i agree with durtydduck but i had my first at 26 and was sooooo scared but i think it makes you grow up and start planning for the future

Is there really a right time or wrong time? To me you have kids when you feel you're ready.

If you wait till you have feel you can afford them that could be too late. It's funny for actually even if we can't afford them some how some where it all seems to come together. So have them when you want them.

i agree with that

i had my daughter at 19 and my son at 23

my daughter is 26yrs old now she had her first at 14(2months before she turned 15) and had her 2nd at 17(she graduated 1yr early and had her daughter the day before she graduated) and the baby is 3yrs old

when you can afford them? nope its when you can love them unconditionally. be able to give of your self unconditionally. afford them what are you shopping for kids then? Oh by the way sweetheart we can afford a child now so lets have one? But are you ready mentally and emotionally for one?... geesh.. thats like saying I will get a new car "when I can afford one"






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There are so many considerations it can make it feel like a physics equation, if you love children and have a suitable genetic donor go for it.

When the kids are 35 and out of the house!!!

When it's too late to end it the pregnancy...

Seriously - NEVER!

There's too many of the little virus factories running around now! Bleh!

When you are fully prepared, and not a minute sooner.

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A minute is sometimes to long for some men.

No age, no money or no predetermine time is the right time, nobody is ready to have kids until they do and even then nothing is guaranteed that you will be a good parent.

Love to give, lots of love to give and lots of patience, if you have those then you might be ready.

Never?

I was 28, most of my girlfriends got married and had kids right out of high school. There's advantages and disadvantages to both. I know, I most certainly was not emotionally ready that young. I wasn't even sure I was ready at 28. NOW, I feel ready, but I can't have any more. So, there ya go

When they're 19, and off to see the world..



WHAT?

When you can financially AFFORD them, and are mature enough to know that they will come before you for the next 18 years at least, and ACCEPT that.
I consider it completely irresponsible to have them before either of these two factors are met. Just not right to be bringing kids into this world unless you are SURE!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Guess that is why I will never be anything but disgusted by the way sex has become a recreational activity instead of an expression of feelings for another.

I'd rather start with the grandkids

they are much more fun

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Obviosly you accidently answered her question by showing the right time is when YOU are no longer the most important person in your life.

LOL! Some truth in that.

But then a lot of it has to do with how I see children raised, what the government is involved in and how life in general is going. Just because one can pop a kid out, doesn't mean they should. I do believe in quality breeding, and don't see most people doing it.

IF I had a child, I would be wanting to have that child when I could be home to love and raise the child, be involved with his or her life totally, rather then dumping it at daycare when it was of age, and going to work for that 2 new cars, nintendo, super huge TV, mega-mansion that people seem to be working for nowadays.

Heck, I was lucky enough to have one parent home, and both parents HIGHLY active in my life, and school. I remember vividly the kids surrounding both my parents when they'd come out to school stuff, and eat lunch, because their parents couldn't because of work or no interest. Or mom playing football, with kids piling on, and everyone laughing. One friends mother would never do that, because she might break her nails.

Money is the least in having a child. It's the memories one creates with their children that's the most important, and there's so few parents home with their kids and involved in their life. People seem to be having kids, because it's the next "thing" to do.

I don't think there is a general answer for this...each person is different. I was 25 when I had my first child. She was planned and I was very ready. It was perfect timing for me.

I disagree with the first sentence in this reply. I am 23...will be 24 in a couple of weeks, and I am adopting a beautiful little girl ON MY OWN. I think it is when YOU are ready to be a parent. Being a parent is the greatest honor in the world and I was in a relationship with a guy that had a daughter of his own - she didnt live with him- he was not the type of father figure I wanted for my child. Needless to say I decided to adopt on my own, the relationship is over, and I am a proud single mother!! It makes dating a little harder, but you also become more aware of the men you date and the qualities they possess that you can/cannot live with in the long run. So it also makes dating a little easier. lol. I am more likely to think of the future and decide if that person can be added to the big picture.