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Topic: Should I let him know?
MirrorMirror Joined Fri 10/26/07 Posts: 89680	Thu 05/07/09 08:38 AM
My bf and I have been together for a year.We finally told each other "I love you".Now my ex is trying to contact me again by email and he is saying if I do not talk to him he will just show up at my house.Should I let my bf know that my ex is bothering me? Now see Mirror...it's questions like this that confused me in the beginning as to your gender! Man, was I surprised...remember that? That was so funny to me, anyway. You have a great day! I wrote this question to sound like something a chick would say

jedigirl Joined Fri 02/02/07 Posts: 1070	Thu 05/07/09 08:38 AM
foiled again!!! drats

MirrorMirror Joined Fri 10/26/07 Posts: 89680	Thu 05/07/09 08:40 AM
foiled again!!! drats Perhaps you should change your screenname to Sithgirl

MirrorMirror Joined Fri 10/26/07 Posts: 89680	Thu 05/07/09 08:44 AM
ummmmmmmmmmmm I would probably also think about a protective order....have all the back-up you can. I would consider that a threat and not take it lightly. If he knows you don't want to see him and you are in a relationship...then he should be man enough to back off....if he is set on seeing you, regardless of how you feel....that spells danger.

Mr_Music Joined Wed 10/22/08 Posts: 10677	Thu 05/07/09 08:53 AM Edited by Mr_Music on Thu 05/07/09 08:53 AM
My bf and I have been together for a year.We finally told each other "I love you".Now my ex is trying to contact me again by email and he is saying if I do not talk to him he will just show up at my house.Should I let my bf know that my ex is bothering me? Is this something that really needs to be wondered about? This is a no-brainer, it ain't rocket surgery.

MirrorMirror Joined Fri 10/26/07 Posts: 89680	Thu 05/07/09 08:56 AM
My bf and I have been together for a year.We finally told each other "I love you".Now my ex is trying to contact me again by email and he is saying if I do not talk to him he will just show up at my house.Should I let my bf know that my ex is bothering me? Is this something that really needs to be wondered about? This is a no-brainer, it ain't rocket surgery.

auburngirl Joined Fri 04/27/07 Posts: 18811	Thu 05/07/09 08:57 AM
"Rocket Surgery"???? Is that like rocket science or brain surgery??

Mr_Music Joined Wed 10/22/08 Posts: 10677	Thu 05/07/09 08:58 AM
Yes.

auburngirl Joined Fri 04/27/07 Posts: 18811	Thu 05/07/09 08:58 AM


lilith401 Joined Wed 10/31/07 Posts: 19593	Thu 05/07/09 09:08 AM
"Rocket Surgery"???? Is that like rocket science or brain surgery?? This is AWESOME..... thanks for that!

lilcupcake25 Joined Thu 05/29/08 Posts: 1	Thu 05/07/09 04:46 PM
i think you should tell your bf maybe he can do something about it.

PATSFAN Joined Mon 12/10/07 Posts: 42782	Thu 05/07/09 04:49 PM
abuse the both of them

auburngirl Joined Fri 04/27/07 Posts: 18811	Thu 05/07/09 04:54 PM
I think she should tell her boyfriend! What if he DID show up at her place as he threatened!?? I mean, he could chop her up into little tiny pieces!

GG2 Joined Tue 08/14/07 Posts: 2120	Thu 05/07/09 04:55 PM
ummmmmmmmmmmm I would probably also think about a protective order....have all the back-up you can. I would consider that a threat and not take it lightly. If he knows you don't want to see him and you are in a relationship...then he should be man enough to back off....if he is set on seeing you, regardless of how you feel....that spells danger. Agreed.

Totage Joined Sat 10/13/07 Posts: 24210	Thu 05/07/09 04:58 PM
My bf and I have been together for a year.We finally told each other "I love you".Now my ex is trying to contact me again by email and he is saying if I do not talk to him he will just show up at my house.Should I let my bf know that my ex is bothering me? I would want to know something like that

xdreamangel Joined Sun 03/08/09 Posts: 64	Thu 05/07/09 10:19 PM
I have the same problem... My ex still hasn't gotten over me and from the start of my new relationship I let my new bf know that I do have baggage but it's not my fault. My new bf is very understanding, however; there are some guys I dated who if I would tell them I was being harassed, it would cause a butt-kicking lol I would send a very firm e-mail to my ex in that case and tell him he is not welcome at your house. If you still feel like you have no control over the outcome and your man is understanding, bring the bf into the situation. Good luck (:

unreal1 Joined Wed 05/06/09 Posts: 7	Thu 05/07/09 10:47 PM
hiya you should tell your ex your seing some one else now and you dont want any more contact with him if he carrys on tell your bf stright away

bithaway Joined Thu 05/07/09 Posts: 109	Thu 05/07/09 10:51 PM
yep but in the mean time tell your ex if he shows up at your house your gonna put a BOOT in his BEEP!

MirrorMirror Joined Fri 10/26/07 Posts: 89680	Fri 05/08/09 09:33 PM
My bf and I have been together for a year.We finally told each other "I love you".Now my ex is trying to contact me again by email and he is saying if I do not talk to him he will just show up at my house.Should I let my bf know that my ex is bothering me? I would want to know something like that

Monier Joined Sat 03/17/07 Posts: 3337	Fri 05/08/09 09:46 PM Edited by Monier on Fri 05/08/09 09:48 PM
I don't want anybody that I'm seeing to have to deal with my baggage. I actually feel insulted when I have to deal with somebody's ex. Like why is this even happening, why am I even hearing about it why do I need to fix your situation? is how I respond to being told about an ex. Tell the ex to get lost and tell the person you're with if you think anybody's safety is at risk. More often than not, discussing other people drives a wedge between partners.