straight up bruda ^

youre gonna wanna keep her in school, if not for the overly-obvious reasons, let her be because it is what she wants.

if you want her to be happy, drop this and instead of trying to talk her out of it, you should support her. thats why youre married.

you have to give of yourself, even though it may not make YOU happy, it makes her happy. and seeing her happy should make you happy. seeing a pattern?

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Because that would make sense and be wrong.

I already have the job that I want.
I'm a wrestler and I play guitar for justen super.
any how I didn't need college to get it.

once again I don't want her to drop out I just want her to take some time off she tells me she needs time off but she don't want to take time off be cause of her parents all I'm saying is she need to go to college for her self it's to teach you about life anyway right.

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maybe try supporting her instead?....

Thank you
I can use this you're right I should be happy and I am as long as she is.

but you see she's not happy she is only doing it becouse of her parents I know cause thats what she told me.

care to explain?

I am glad and proud if you have reached your goals, what I dont understand is why you are so bound to hinder her progress??? You started other thread the same but in reality you just wanted her to boost your ego and say she'd stop because you asked - remember.

Be a good husband and support her, if she needs a break she will take it, all your good intentions will go out the window because it is truly coming across as you being manipulative. Keep in mind we are all outsiders and we are only sharing our opinions.

I do want her to go to college but she told me she is going becouse of her parents she's worried what they will say if she takes sometime off. she broke down and cried in my arms two days ago and she said college is really getting to her. so all I want is sometime off so she don't hurt her self. with the stress and all the other stuff that is going on.

sounds to me like theres a lot more going on than we could know.

if shes old enough to get married, then i would hope shes old enough to make her own decisions. let her decide and support her every step of the way. thats what you are there for. let her know that her parents shouldnt be the deciding factor for her, that her drive to better herself must come from within. although on the other hand, perhaps her parents understand that a degree is the best and possibly only way to land an actual job. one which doesnt come with pans of ketchup and mayo.

sounds like this transcends just going to school though. none of us can answer your question, you and your wife need to. good luck.

She apparently wants an education. She will also know when she can't do it any more. Its not up yo you. YOU should be supportive and take other burdens on your self to alievate her stress. Things like taking care of dinner, the home chores and everything else you might expect her to do. YOU step up and do it instead. And I sense your ia ability to deal here? are you jealous. intimidated that she has an education and you didn't continue yours? JMO

My ex was a student. and all I know is that being a student myself it is stress full. But I insisted she pay attention to her studies and I would do the rest..


quit making excuses here will you. you asked this before , so when this doesn't work for you what will be your next excuse here? Oh its destroying our relationship/ marriage? you being to sound like a little kid who doesn't get his way here. JMO

WOW look at what you just said..."I don't want her to go to college" but her parents do.? and she is doing it for them. Maybe she believes her parents made good sense? I mean. your a wrestler? play in a band? just how long will that last and support the two of you? be real man. grow up.

Take it from somebody that knows. It is hard to go to college once you have been out of high school for several years. It is even harder if you have kids to deal with and a full time job. My soon to be ex-husband did not do anything to help me continue my education and all it did was stress me out to no end. I don't know how your home life is, but if she is pulling full time school, full time work, and any other household responsibilities, she is going to be stressed whether she is going to school or not.

Your best bet is to support her to your fullest ability. If you make life hard for her, you will end up causing problems in your marriage and she will end up resenting you. Yes she may break down because she is stressed, but school may not be the main reason for the increase in stress. You need to look at the division of labor within the household and see what you can take on to relieve some of her burdens.


As for her going to school to please her parents, at one time or another each and every one of us has done what we could to make our parents proud of us. The question to ask yourself is "Why does she want to go to school to please her parents?" Is it because she will be the first one in her family to graduate college or some other reason.

Overall, just be the best husband that you can be and like durtydduck said, you really need to grow up. I don't know how old you are, but singing in a band and being a wrestler are not lifelong careers. It would really show your wife that you support her by enrolling in college with her...even if it is to just get an associates degree.

I said I do want her to go to college understand?

Then stay out of her college situation, buck up, be a man, and support your wife. Wrestling and guitar playing won't get you real far or last very long. You might want to consider a career fallback yourself. Worry about you, and just support her.

We all understand, but more importantly, do you really understand what we're saying.