I just found the "ex"-wife to the father of my child. I say "ex" because he told me a couple of months ago they were reconciling, but on her profile on MySpace it says that she is divorcing him. He told me a lot of other lies as well, and it makes me wonder what lies he's told to her too.

Anyway, when he told me they were getting back together, he stated that she didn't know about the baby, and that he didn't want her to know because it would mess things up between the two of them.

So do I tell her or keep her in the dark and let her find out on her own? Would you want to know? What would you do? What do you think I should do?

I am really torn as to what to do, and I can't make up my mind!

Drop back five and punt.

Thanks Keith!

I would tell her about the baby. It might just be the deciding factor in what she is on the fence about. By the way sending out another package today or tomorrow of a few things. Sherry

Did you check the local court docket to find out if they are really divorcing? That is a matter of public information.

Thanks Sherry.

Why do people put their life stories on my space. That's crazy with this my space, twitter,facebook ,****!!

Ya gotta be nuts to conduct your personal life

with this


Sorry. Had to vent

Let it go, unless you want to continue this "Days of our lives" style drama. It gives me a headache.

As a matter of fact, I'm in the process of getting background information about him for Child Support. That information should be included. The only problem is, is if it is true, the divorce wouldn't be finalized until August as that was when they were filed.

Is the court docket available online? You can read it. If mediation and/or reconciliation was entered on the docket, you can read it. If not, you can go there and look at the docket. It is public information.

I've avoided him as much as I could during this pregnancy up until the last two weeks.

So you think I should just let her find out on her own?

I'll have to check it out.

If it was me, I'd just file for child support and stay out of any other drama. For your sake and the baby's sake.

Hi Ruth!!

Hey, Lilith!

Good to see ya!

...depends on how much drama you want to stir up. Being in my own shoes I've discovered that if you get punched in the nose enough times you stay out of other peoples domestic affairs. You are going to do what you are going to do anyway. My advice is wasted time and energy. Good luck in your choices.

Truly not being mean, but what does what he tells his wife, girl friend or significant other have to do with you? You and he will be forever in a relationship (as parents) because of the baby, granted. But why involve yourself in his personal life. jmo

Reason #10 why I ride motorcycles. Reason #23 why I kept my pecker in my pants. And reason #32 why I hate soap operas and the lifetime channel and do not own a tv. And reason #4 why I dislike this site. Just give me a reason.....ha ha ha!

All your going to get from telling is hatred, from both the wife and him.

Question: Are you afraid that he will try to hide your child together from his wife? Unless she's a total ditz, she'll find out sooner or later once he starts paying support...let THEM fight that battle themselves...