how do you "punish" a significant other for doing something that made you mad?

for me its the silent treatment. i tend to ignore his calls and messages for a day or two... or longer depending on how mad i am.

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Trying to punish a partner, is a very bad idea... It's also childish... That's just my opinion though...

I don't try to punish my partner, I will tell them that what they did hurt, or what ever happened and we can talk threw it...

If my partner tried to punish me for something, I would try to talk about it, if she were to refuse to talk to me and continue to punish me, that tells me one of two things. Either she's to immature for a real relationship, or she no longer wants to be in a relationship...

Good luck!

That or she just talks to them. That's usually punishment enough.

let that be a warning to you guys

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YOU!!! Get back in your box!!!

wheres the fun in that!?

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Sshsshshs I get out the handcuffs and send him to my room what else

I don't play games in a relationship.

If I became angry with my partner -- and that it rare -- I would talk to him, and get it over with -- move on.

I'd rather smile with him, and spend every moment happy, rather than waste time being distant.

I actaully don't recall the last time was I angry with any of my SOs. We might disagree but not get angry.

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A spanking.

Does that help the situation?

this method allows his imagination to take over. he may imagine me in a fit of tears, or throwing things against a wall, or going out with my friends ready to move on with my life without him. by letting him fill in the blanks he comes to his own conclusion of how grave the situation is with me depending on what he did. (this is useful especially since i rarely show anger, i sometimes even smile and carry on like nothing happened, which might be mistaken for me being a pushover)

it allows him to reflect upon the situation, what he did, how it may have affected me etc. coming up with the answers to these questions on his own makes the issue concrete in his own brain, more so than if i came to him and confronted him about it. during a confrontation he is focused more on being on the defensive than on what i am saying and how i may feel. if there may be uncertainty about what the issue is then i may send a short text identifying the problem and thats it. everything else he figures out.

gives him a chance to know what it will feel like to lose me if he does it again.

and allows me a cooling off period where i might otherwise be inclined to say or do something i may regret later ( like dump his butt).


and in my experience, yes it does help the situation. i only do this when something has been done that makes me particularly mad. things like pet peeves and annoyances i talk through. if this is overused it may get old and loses its bite.

you may call it immature but i'm 20, i'm practically just dating and having fun at this point in my life. i leave the serious stuff to you folk.

I normaly give the silent treatment. But then I always forgive before the sun goes down. I believe in not letting the sun go down on your anger

Honestly, i agree here....who has the right to punish another? We all get a bit pizzed off with eachother, but we r adults. Punishment solves nothing, it just carries it on longer and is childish.

Dan being p1ssed at me is enough punishment, i dont like it when hes not happy, and im sure he is the same with me.