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Topic: keep complaints to yourself or not
misstina2 Joined Sat 11/01/08 Posts: 13508	Sat 04/04/09 02:27 PM Edited by misstina2 on Sat 04/04/09 02:28 PM
When having a disagreement with your SO do you usually complain to your friends and family about your SO?

PATSFAN Joined Mon 12/10/07 Posts: 42782	Sat 04/04/09 02:31 PM
I generally keep that stuff to myself, I feel my relationship is a private matter. I wish more people did this.

62easygoing Joined Thu 12/27/07 Posts: 4641	Sat 04/04/09 02:32 PM
no, i do not complain, but, i do try to compliment .

motowndowntown Joined Wed 11/19/08 Posts: 21801	Sat 04/04/09 02:34 PM
No, my friends don't want to hear that sh#$ about my relationships and I don't want to hear it about theirs. Unless it's funny.

misstina2 Joined Sat 11/01/08 Posts: 13508	Sat 04/04/09 02:37 PM
I think complaining to friends and family causes them to think negatively about the person after the disagreement is resolved they still remember the things that were said.I'd prefer to keeps things private myself

Poetrywriter Joined Sun 10/14/07 Posts: 22675	Sat 04/04/09 02:40 PM
Complain is too harsh a word to use here Tina. If someone did complain to their friends, then they should not have a SO since words can & do hurt. I feel some do talk to their friends about their SO, but do not complain. Sometimes they are just trying to get their friends viewpoints about some situation that has arisen between them and their SO.

ReddBeans Joined Sat 10/27/07 Posts: 6930	Sat 04/04/09 02:41 PM
That's what I got a therapist for. It's her job to listen to me B*tch and then help me figure out the solution.

misstina2 Joined Sat 11/01/08 Posts: 13508	Sat 04/04/09 02:43 PM
Complain is too harsh a word to use here Tina. If someone did complain to their friends, then they should not have a SO since words can & do hurt. I feel some do talk to their friends about their SO, but do not complain. Sometimes they are just trying to get their friends viewpoints about some situation that has arisen between them and their SO. I see your points I think theres a way to get a friends viewpoint without totally running the SO down

STARTRAVELER Joined Thu 02/14/08 Posts: 9691	Sat 04/04/09 02:43 PM
Personal stuff ? No way ! A funny trivial thing maybe !

misstina2 Joined Sat 11/01/08 Posts: 13508	Sat 04/04/09 02:44 PM
That's what I got a therapist for. It's her job to listen to me B*tch and then help me figure out the solution. I agree not everyone can afford a therapist advice from friends is free but not always helpful

ReddBeans Joined Sat 10/27/07 Posts: 6930	Sat 04/04/09 02:54 PM
That's what I got a therapist for. It's her job to listen to me B*tch and then help me figure out the solution. I agree not everyone can afford a therapist advice from friends is free but not always helpful All I can say is thank goodness for insurance. I tried talkin to friends and all I ever got was "leave him" or "U want I should kick his a$$?" not very helpful.In my opinion goin to friends with ur problems about SO is just not the thing to do. Cause yes, they then only think about the negative things you tell them when you happen to pissed about something at the time. We all get pissed at one time or another and feel the need to vent. Best to do it to a wall then with your friends.

misstina2 Joined Sat 11/01/08 Posts: 13508	Sat 04/04/09 02:58 PM
I make an effort when friends or family complain about their SO to look at things from each point of view and try and reason out why the person is acting in such a way unless it's a form of abuse in that case I think it's unacceptable to reason out that sort of thing

PATSFAN Joined Mon 12/10/07 Posts: 42782	Sat 04/04/09 02:59 PM
A therapist would need therapy after talking to me

Cutiepieforyou Joined Wed 10/17/07 Posts: 43085	Sat 04/04/09 02:59 PM
Most of my friends or family only want to hear the positives.

Jess642 Joined Sat 03/31/07 Posts: 22732	Sat 04/04/09 03:00 PM
If I have a gripe, btch or whinge about his behaviours, he knows in no uncertain circumstances...usually his response it, "get over it."...and I do...nowadays it is just usually mock btching, and much laughter.. Do I moan to my girlfriends? Nup... the more you go outside your relationship for other's advice, the more bad advice you get.

ReddBeans Joined Sat 10/27/07 Posts: 6930	Sat 04/04/09 03:01 PM
A therapist would need therapy after talking to me Could be why mine is leaving to work elsewhere

prisoner Joined Tue 01/06/09 Posts: 5129	Sat 04/04/09 03:02 PM
"I don't have any friends."...James Bond in Quantum Of Solace be seeing you

RainbowTrout Joined Fri 04/06/07 Posts: 13869	Sat 04/04/09 03:09 PM
Sometimes that is all I do is ***** but not today. I was off work.

PATSFAN Joined Mon 12/10/07 Posts: 42782	Sat 04/04/09 03:21 PM
A therapist would need therapy after talking to me Could be why mine is leaving to work elsewhere

ReddBeans Joined Sat 10/27/07 Posts: 6930	Sat 04/04/09 03:23 PM
A therapist would need therapy after talking to me Could be why mine is leaving to work elsewhere I drove my theraptist to find work elsewhere. Yay Me!!! By the way, anyone know the name of a good therapist?????