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Topic: If you don't have kids do you want any?
lildudejoe Joined Tue 08/19/08 Posts: 232	Fri 03/27/09 02:43 PM
but..lol the mexican part of me says...why stop at 4? keep goin and goin... Kinda of selfish, don't you think? Kids don't ask to be brought in this world and being of a certain nationality or religion that says procreate (without concern for their welfare) is selfish. Unfit parents, people sucking up government assistance, and the earth being tapped out in terms of natural resources is reason enough to rethink having more than one or two. What burns my butt even more is when adults -- that have kids together -- aren't balanced enough to maintain a relationship with each other and still think it's a good idea to have kids. Shouldn't mastering a relationship, understanding WHO will be the father or mother of someone's kids, or the meaning of commitment even in the worst of times MORE important than actually having a child? If a person doesn't have the skills to be in a relationship, how will they teach their kids to have the skills to be in a relationship? This is a sensitive subject. I now defer. I must apologize dear Melody girl..I see your point and it's a very found and solid, a very intelligent and dignified answer. However, I would now like to inform you that I was strictly joking...I'm not that goofy.

Roweanne Joined Mon 03/03/08 Posts: 437	Fri 03/27/09 02:44 PM
And I don't want to have them in litters, either! one at a time, please! One guy that I dated joked about maybe we should wish for triplets adn be done in one fell swoop. I told him that I would do the medical procedure on him with a dull knife if I had a litter.

Peccy Joined Thu 06/28/07 Posts: 17181	Fri 03/27/09 02:48 PM
And I don't want to have them in litters, either! one at a time, please! One guy that I dated joked about maybe we should wish for triplets adn be done in one fell swoop. I told him that I would do the medical procedure on him with a dull knife if I had a litter. ow! wow, testicle threats!

Roweanne Joined Mon 03/03/08 Posts: 437	Fri 03/27/09 02:52 PM
Yeah, but certainly not directed at anyone here. You guys didn't say it, and the one who did is VERY computer illiterate. If he can't have a talking computer like on Star Trek, he won't use one.

MelodyGirl Joined Sun 01/25/09 Posts: 9452	Fri 03/27/09 02:55 PM
Can I fall head over heals for a woman that has children of her own? YES. youll regret that when you come to cross that bridge my friend...lol women who have kids are the best, well most of them. They have grown up early in a sense. They have my utmost respect because I wouldn't want their job! at least someone loves an old lady with a kid, thank u peccy I love you too!

SoulMate36 Joined Wed 03/25/09 Posts: 48	Fri 03/27/09 02:56 PM
Can I fall head over heals for a woman that has children of her own? YES. youll regret that when you come to cross that bridge my friend...lol women who have kids are the best, well most of them. They have grown up early in a sense. They have my utmost respect because I wouldn't want their job! at least someone loves an old lady with a kid, thank u peccy wake up call....they all play nice at first,... once they get what they want, they follow up telling you that typee of lifestyle isnt for them...sorry for blowing the whistle on you gentlemen....

MelodyGirl Joined Sun 01/25/09 Posts: 9452	Fri 03/27/09 02:57 PM
but..lol the mexican part of me says...why stop at 4? keep goin and goin... Kinda of selfish, don't you think? Kids don't ask to be brought in this world and being of a certain nationality or religion that says procreate (without concern for their welfare) is selfish. Unfit parents, people sucking up government assistance, and the earth being tapped out in terms of natural resources is reason enough to rethink having more than one or two. What burns my butt even more is when adults -- that have kids together -- aren't balanced enough to maintain a relationship with each other and still think it's a good idea to have kids. Shouldn't mastering a relationship, understanding WHO will be the father or mother of someone's kids, or the meaning of commitment even in the worst of times MORE important than actually having a child? If a person doesn't have the skills to be in a relationship, how will they teach their kids to have the skills to be in a relationship? This is a sensitive subject. I now defer. I must apologize dear Melody girl..I see your point and it's a very found and solid, a very intelligent and dignified answer. However, I would now like to inform you that I was strictly joking...I'm not that goofy. Very cool! You have to add smileys so we know you are joking! It's hard to discern the tone of one's writing! Thank you for being kind in your reply to me. I really put myself out there ....

TxsGal3333 Joined Tue 09/05/06 Posts: 76394	Fri 03/27/09 03:02 PM
Hummm nope no more mine are already grown and can't have any more there is no way I would start back over. So all the rest that want them have at it I will stay with just practicing how to have them

Peccy Joined Thu 06/28/07 Posts: 17181	Fri 03/27/09 03:04 PM
Can I fall head over heals for a woman that has children of her own? YES. youll regret that when you come to cross that bridge my friend...lol women who have kids are the best, well most of them. They have grown up early in a sense. They have my utmost respect because I wouldn't want their job! at least someone loves an old lady with a kid, thank u peccy wake up call....they all play nice at first,... once they get what they want, they follow up telling you that typee of lifestyle isnt for them...sorry for blowing the whistle on you gentlemen.... My gf of over a year has a kid and she is the nicest, most caring woman I have ever met. Before her I only dated single moms, it was a maturity thing with me. True there were some that had the IQ of a houseplant, I simply didn't date them any longer, but I refuse to group all single moms into a conglomerate of manipulative people. Sounds like you had bad experience, and now a vendetta

Unknow Joined Sat 12/15/07 Posts: 41170	Fri 03/27/09 03:06 PM
I'm done. Grandkids will be nice but no rush.

elwoodsully Joined Tue 05/01/07 Posts: 7477	Fri 03/27/09 03:07 PM
Can I fall head over heals for a woman that has children of her own? YES. youll regret that when you come to cross that bridge my friend...lol women who have kids are the best, well most of them. They have grown up early in a sense. They have my utmost respect because I wouldn't want their job! at least someone loves an old lady with a kid, thank u peccy wake up call....they all play nice at first,... once they get what they want, they follow up telling you that typee of lifestyle isnt for them...sorry for blowing the whistle on you gentlemen.... My gf of over a year has a kid and she is the nicest, most caring woman I have ever met. Before her I only dated single moms, it was a maturity thing with me. True there were some that had the IQ of a houseplant, I simply didn't date them any longer, but I refuse to group all single moms into a conglomerate of manipulative people. Sounds like you had bad experience, and now a vendetta No, Peccy.. He's saying that the GUY is the one that's out for the cookies, not the woman.

SoulMate36 Joined Wed 03/25/09 Posts: 48	Fri 03/27/09 03:08 PM
True there were some that had the IQ of a houseplant, I simply didn't date them any longer, your honor, the defense rests....

Peccy Joined Thu 06/28/07 Posts: 17181	Fri 03/27/09 03:10 PM Edited by Peccy on Fri 03/27/09 03:11 PM
True there were some that had the IQ of a houseplant, I simply didn't date them any longer, your honor, the defense rests.... lol......sorry bro' I misread

SoulMate36 Joined Wed 03/25/09 Posts: 48	Fri 03/27/09 03:13 PM
True there were some that had the IQ of a houseplant, I simply didn't date them any longer, your honor, the defense rests.... lol......sorry bro' I misread all in good fun my good man...lol no harm done..

trgirl Joined Tue 01/20/09 Posts: 2368	Fri 03/27/09 04:11 PM Edited by trgirl on Fri 03/27/09 04:17 PM
Can I fall head over heals for a woman that has children of her own? YES. youll regret that when you come to cross that bridge my friend...lol women who have kids are the best, well most of them. They have grown up early in a sense. They have my utmost respect because I wouldn't want their job! at least someone loves an old lady with a kid, thank u peccy I love you too! thank you 2 melody, i knew my good mingle friends would stand up for me!!!

mark77 Joined Mon 09/22/08 Posts: 198	Fri 03/27/09 05:52 PM Edited by mark77 on Fri 03/27/09 05:53 PM
I'm done. Grandkids will be nice but no rush. I have two sons, two step sons, one grandson and two more grandchildren on the way. It is way better to have the grandchildren, they like you all the time. In their eyes you can do no wrong. The one in my picture thinks Im just wonderful and I love him so much!

shutterbug Joined Sat 06/16/07 Posts: 34376	Fri 03/27/09 06:16 PM
I did my part for the world's population...my 4 children are grown adults now... ...<-------- this ole gal is now preapring for grandmotherhood...first grandbaby due Septemebr 30th! I do love children though, having worked in the education field for the last 10 yrs.

lildudejoe Joined Tue 08/19/08 Posts: 232	Fri 03/27/09 06:45 PM
Kinda of selfish, don't you think? Kids don't ask to be Very cool! You have to add smileys so we know you are joking! It's hard to discern the tone of one's writing! Thank you for being kind in your reply to me. I really put myself out there .... ahh...ok...from now on smiley's will be included...thank you for the helpful tip

FearandLoathing Joined Fri 12/28/07 Posts: 30121	Fri 03/27/09 06:45 PM
And if you do, do you want more? No one wants anymore of me running around...not even me.

MsCarmen Joined Wed 05/07/08 Posts: 6282	Fri 03/27/09 07:06 PM
I didn't want any more children but I guess God has a different plan in store for me. I guess I'll see how the plan goes once July gets here.