Ok, not sure if this the the right area, but it does somehow deals with friendship relationship? Anyways heres the long story...

I have a friend that I liked for awhile now. I know she really likes another person, so I didn't really tell her anything. One day she was talking with a friend about me and how i'm always nice to her, pay for dinner, etc. So, out of curiosity she asked if i liked her. I probably shouldn't of admitted that i liked her but i was hoping she had some feeling towards me. She told me that she only think of me as a friend. So yea, i was pretty bummed, but i wasn't really expecting much since she likes the other guy.

So whatever, I acted like nothing had happen and we were still friends after that incident. Later that night her and I went to a friends party. We had a few drinks and we got a little touchy touchy...nothing happened (I know she was drunk and i'm not a type of person that would take advantage of a girl) After the people had left she fell asleep on the ground for 40 mins so i woke her up and moved her to the couch. So, she was cold so i hugged onto her to keep her warm on the couch. Then friends came back from dropping off a friend so we decided to go since she was tired. When i dropped her home she gave me a hug and a kiss on the cheek.

Not bad for being tipsy and remember what happened through the night.

The next day, we talked about what happened at the party and she apologized for everything that had happened. Surprisingly we are still friends afterwards.

I told a few of my friends about it and they said that she might be scared to admit that she likes me too? Some also said cause since the person she likes wasn't there and she knew that i liked her thats why she acted that way?

Just need your opinion...

I'm drawing a blank.

I've heard it before.. once a girl friend always one. Bottom line is you may never get pass that and what happened is what happened.

Then again if she does have feelings for you.. who knows for sure.

sounds to me like she gave it a try and wasn't comfortable

I think it is a possibility that she may like you, but sometimes when you are really good friends, it is hard to cross that line.
Maybe leave it has it is and be happy. Don't change what you already have.

Take her at her word if she says just friends that's probably exactly what she means. The drinking may have loosened her up enough that she was curious about what being with you would be like after you told her you liked her that way. And if you are her friend she obviously sees good qualities in you. But trying to push it further when she is not ready or doesn't want it is only going to kill the friendship.


Best of Luck

sounds to me like she had a few drinks, she's your friend so she was comfortable with you. you took care of her, which is what it sounds like you've been doing anyway - paying for dinners, movies etc.
(she just might be taking advantage of you in that department) there is probably nothing there. women will usually let a guy know she's interested and she told you you're just friends. leave it at that and ms. right will be along...just be patient.

if she really was into you, she'd have thrown you on the floor and ravaged you. sober. so yeah...she is only in it for friends. my completely unjustifiable assessment is that if you find another girl to date seriously then your friend will decide that she suddenly has intense feelings for you and then you'll have trouble times 2!



but it could always be worse. they could both be twins!

You're not gonna progress past the "friends" stage, dude. You're better off just looking somewhere else.

Yea, most likely we're just staying friends. Just going to be there for her when she needs a friend. Pretty bummed out about the whole situation, oh well nothing I can do.

Thanks for all the comments though...if you guys were here beer would be on me...lol

yeah it sucks. but you never know...you might find someone new and exciting tonight on mingle through Mmmmmmutual Mmmmmmatch

^^ haha, i doubt it. Been on here for awhile haven't had any luck. Oh well...

I was just wondering if there is a chance that you're rating all the other girls compared to her. Some guys have a tendacy to do that when they have feelings for someone. If you do, then there is going to be hardly any chance for another girl. Maybe you should try to have other girl friends, or you may even let her set you up. If you can't get over her, then there is not need to look elsewhere. That's not fair to the other girls. The best thing you can do is focus your attention on other things and other people.

sometimes we girls don't really know what the hell we want....

I don't compare the other girls to her. I rate on their profile and interest. I get matches sometimes but when i try talking to them usually no response?...

im soo proud of all yalls responses!! they were honest/direct/friendly and wise i agree completely with yall am in the situation,so i completely understand and agree you guys are awsome! ive never been prouder of ppl i dont know