The feeling of falling in love is of the most exciting, thrilling and
life changing events. Falling in love can change your entire outlook on
life. Falling in love can occupy your mind and seem to take away all of
life's problems. However, falling in love can bring about a serious
problem of endless heartaches if a person falls in love too fast. Let us
look at what brings about the feeling of needing to fall in love, what
defines true love and the string of broken hearts that can occur if one
falls in love too quickly.


Do you at times think that some fall in Love too fast and the
relationship is doomed from the start? By not given them enough time to
really get to know each other.

I have seen that happen with my best friend...I think she jumps too
quick, and i have told her this countless times...She just keeps on
jumpin....

I think it is because her self esteem is so low, she looks for happiness
outside of herself, and finds these men who just hurt her. I think that
she, or any other woman like her, should learn to love themselves before
they love someone else....

If you can't love yourself, how can you possibly say that you love
someone else...I mean, you need to know who you are and to love that
person, before you can love another...

that is how i feel 24/7 txsgal

The want of security/comfort/companionship is often mistaken for love.
I call it LUST, when we move to fast, try to hard & don't allow our "big
heads" to rule our bodies, odds are things won't last. We hear/say it
over & over; go slow, take time & be sure it is REAL LOVE.

Easier said than done.

I think we all have fell in love to fast atleast once. I know I have in
the past. But its been said many times to learn from our mistakes. So I
really try to take things slow and really get to know the person. I
think that low self esteem could cause this like Shenadra stated. Or
just not having many BF's or GF's in the past and they think WOW someone
really likes me.

falling inlove can be verry bad -.- i know from experience, and yes i
regret it

if u go to it to fast what i mean

Well I do see it the same way for some do fall in love to fast they seem
to get lost in the whirlwind at first. For at times having someone pay
attention to you and they say all the right things you always wanted to
hear you get lost in the moment and don't take the time. To see who or
what the other person is really like inside. Then later when you find
out they are not like you thought they were and they turn out being
totaly differnt than you thought. You have just set yourself up for a
heartache. No one intends to do that at times it happens before we step
back and really look at the situation. I have been guilty of this same
thing, but now when and if I feel things are moving to fast I step back
and think about the whole picture. And try to adjust to what is really
happening not that it always works. But we must make sure how both
really feel about each other and if both have the same goal.

u tock the words out of my mouth txsgal

a whirlwind is right. u have to grab on to something, get ur head
straight and make the right choices for urself.

I totally learned my lesson.

Believe me more than will admit at times have been caught up in that
whirlwind at times. The feeling takes ahold of you and before you know
it you are walking on air. Like Tricess said ya have to grab onto
something and get your thoughts straight and come back down to reality
for a bit. Hard to do that at times.

What I meant was if you go by emotion only you may get hurt. Using
intellect to analyze if its just a crush or a real, honest to goodness
spark may be a smart thing to do. When we are young we tend to jump
right in and take the chance but as we evolve into mature adults, we can
step back a bit and take a look at the big picture. My thoughts anyways.

well said Tricess

I agree with Tricess. IMHO, taking a step back and analyzing the
situation before jumping in with both feet is usually worhtwhile and
often prevents a lot of heartache down the road.

SheNerd :)

So true are Tricess words. And as adults we do seem to do that more
often we live and learn.

Txsgal, I do love reading your threads! You bring up thought provoking
stuff!! Hugs friend

We do Live and Learn some just learn at a slower rate,, When all else
fails I call Ms Txs....

I always say, when your head's in the clouds, make sure your feet are on
the ground.

It's ok to let yourself feel the good feelings that come with being in
love, just make sure you keep your eyes open for red flags. And make
sure you're getting what you need from the relationship, and you're not
the one doing all the giving. If you do you'll give out.

Love is about more than being in love. It's about really loving the
other person, and being loved in return. The butterflies you get from
being in love are great, but there's got to be more than that.
Butterflies fly south for the winter, and that's where your love affair
will be heading if that's all you've got.

Voice of experience here, I had to learn everything the hard way!

Thank you Auburngirl


Awwww Denise ya know I'll always be here for you and you would do the
same for me as well.


bamabeecee, words of truth, and I do think alot of us learn the hard way
for we just don't want to believe at times what others say. So we must
learn first hand. But then that is what makes us the person we are we do
live and learn for sure.