Topic: Adoption
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Thu 03/05/09 03:02 PM
Edited by Bushidobillyclub on Thu 03/05/09 03:02 PM
I was wondering what everyone thought about a single guy adopting a kid?

Each year its more and more on my mind. I love kids and want some of my own, but I think my standards in a woman have made it hard to find someone who I think will be right.

I dont know. Is it even realistic that a single man could get an adoption?

I have not really researched it yet . . . I guess I remain ever hopeful of finding that special person . . .

Its tough.

franshade's photo
Thu 03/05/09 03:05 PM
I think it's great!!! Have heard it's a process, but I think it's great. So many kids and so little parents. flowerforyou

Urg04es's photo
Thu 03/05/09 03:06 PM
Women do it all the time so I don't see why a man can't do it. I would imagine you are going to have to have a fat wallet though. Good luck to ya. flowerforyou

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Thu 03/05/09 03:07 PM
Edited by brandynicole on Thu 03/05/09 03:08 PM
I think its a good idea but, some states do not allow singe parent adoptions.

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Thu 03/05/09 03:08 PM
Edited by Bushidobillyclub on Thu 03/05/09 03:09 PM

Women do it all the time so I don't see why a man can't do it. I would imagine you are going to have to have a fat wallet though. Good luck to ya. flowerforyou
I make good money. Money has never been an issue for me. I will just probably have much less to throw around for 20 or so year lol.

I think its a good idea but, some states do not allow singe parent adoptions.

I was worried about something like that . . . do you know of any place I can find out if Florida is such a state?

Dan99's photo
Thu 03/05/09 03:09 PM
I dont think that single parent adoption is preferable. Not that its necessarily wrong, just it isnt ideal.


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Thu 03/05/09 03:10 PM
wow...really? never heard of a guy wanting to do that. More power to you!! I think its a great idea..but then again.. do you have the time an money for a kid. They are a lot of work. I would make sure I have the time before you do it. Good luck to you. flowerforyou

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Thu 03/05/09 03:11 PM
Edited by Bushidobillyclub on Thu 03/05/09 03:13 PM

I dont think that single parent adoption is preferable. Not that its necessarily wrong, just it isnt ideal.


Certainly not. Whats the alternative for a kid tho? The state? Is that better then someone who loves them?


wow...really? never heard of a guy wanting to do that. More power to you!! I think its a great idea..but then again.. do you have the time an money for a kid. They are a lot of work. I would make sure I have the time before you do it. Good luck to you. flowerforyou
For sure, there are a lot of considerations. I would have to change my schedule at work, I have friends with kids that both adults make less money then me and have multiple kids, I don't think money will be the main issue, time certainly will be.

mry's photo
Thu 03/05/09 03:12 PM
LOL...Why don't you just borrow mine for awhile...you may change your mind...laugh

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Thu 03/05/09 03:13 PM

LOL...Why don't you just borrow mine for awhile...you may change your mind...laugh
My friend has 5 kids . . . I barrow his all the time . . . yea I am sure. In fact I get more sure each passing year.


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Thu 03/05/09 03:15 PM
my mom had a guy friend over 20 some odd yrs ago that adopted a handicap child. im not sure whatever happen to him. my mom hasent talked to him in yrs.

but he was awsome with this child.

but yea in some states they dont allow men to adopt. so you might want to contact children services and get more info on that..

even being a foster parent would be greatflowers

mry's photo
Thu 03/05/09 03:16 PM


LOL...Why don't you just borrow mine for awhile...you may change your mind...laugh
My friend has 5 kids . . . I barrow his all the time . . . yea I am sure. In fact I get more sure each passing year.




I was adopted...and nobody could be more of my parents than my adopted parents...so I do believe it is a wonderful thing...good luck to you...

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Thu 03/05/09 03:17 PM
hope this helps
http://www.dcf.state.fl.us/adoption/faq.shtml

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Thu 03/05/09 03:17 PM
Edited by brandynicole on Thu 03/05/09 03:20 PM

I think its a good idea but, some states do not allow singe parent adoptions.

I was worried about something like that . . . do you know of any place I can find out if Florida is such a state?



I did a little research and found that single parent adoption laws changed in the '70s but it is still harder for single parents and some agencies will not accept single parent applications. Utah is now the only state that does not allow single parent adoptions.


Keep in mind that you can expect an adoption to cost you anywhere from $3,000 to $20,000.

I also found this.....
Single men face even tougher scrutiny as they are asked intimate questions about their sexuality, motives, friends, and living arrangements. They may be qualified to parent and still be turned down.

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Thu 03/05/09 03:20 PM
Can I adopt as a single man?

Adopting as a single man or single woman can be harder than adopting as a married couple; however, both single men and single woman are accepted by many domestic child adoption agencies. In an international adoption many countries allow singles to adopt but they are much more strict in allowing single men as opposed to singe women. Some countries like China do not allow singles to adopt?

http://www.adoptionservices.org/adoption/adoption_questions_family.htm

good luck flowerforyou

LAMom's photo
Thu 03/05/09 03:21 PM
Edited by LAMom on Thu 03/05/09 03:24 PM
http://www.adoptionservices.org/adoption_special/adoption_single.htm

I wish you much success and happiness,,, flowerforyou

Queene123's photo
Thu 03/05/09 03:24 PM
a friend of mine that i went to junor high school with adopted 3 kids, and at the time i didnt know this. but the guy i was dating number of yrs ago had a issue with his ex wife as where they had to place his son up for adoption. but they had a open adoption where he was allowed to see his son.. well the lady i went to school with was the one that adopted the old bf son.. so he was at my house every weekend spending time with his dad... (his adopted mom was single)

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Thu 03/05/09 03:37 PM

http://www.adoptionservices.org/adoption_special/adoption_single.htm

I wish you much success and happiness,,, flowerforyou



Can I adopt as a single man?

Adopting as a single man or single woman can be harder than adopting as a married couple; however, both single men and single woman are accepted by many domestic child adoption agencies. In an international adoption many countries allow singles to adopt but they are much more strict in allowing single men as opposed to singe women. Some countries like China do not allow singles to adopt?

http://www.adoptionservices.org/adoption/adoption_questions_family.htm

good luck flowerforyou





Thank you all for the information!