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Topic: When people are too nice
galendgirl Joined Sun 07/06/08 Posts: 24728	Mon 03/02/09 06:55 PM
Are they fake nice or genuine? Usually you can tell... the first is horrible, the second makes me want to be a better person. Its good when you find a genuinely good person that inspires you to be a better person Although I tend to get labeled as a little too "little Mary Sunshine" as it is, so maybe I should be looking for the baddies? Cuz "sometimes bad is good." I guess that would depend on what they are "bad" about

MirrorMirror Joined Fri 10/26/07 Posts: 89680	Mon 03/02/09 07:02 PM
Are they fake nice or genuine? Usually you can tell... the first is horrible, the second makes me want to be a better person. Its good when you find a genuinely good person that inspires you to be a better person Although I tend to get labeled as a little too "little Mary Sunshine" as it is, so maybe I should be looking for the baddies? Cuz "sometimes bad is good." I guess that would depend on what they are "bad" about Indeed, sometimes bad can be good about certain things

AndyBgood Joined Thu 12/25/08 Posts: 12437	Mon 03/02/09 07:04 PM
I think being nice at all makes people think I have "Welcome" tatted on my back. You have a history of people trying to use you as their doormat? Oh God yes! I wear my tread marks well!

Redsoxfan1 Joined Sat 12/29/07 Posts: 8388	Mon 03/02/09 07:10 PM
Not really, they just sometimes get on my last nerve!!

MirrorMirror Joined Fri 10/26/07 Posts: 89680	Mon 03/02/09 07:17 PM
I think being nice at all makes people think I have "Welcome" tatted on my back. You have a history of people trying to use you as their doormat? Oh God yes! I wear my tread marks well! Its a shame that some people have to be that way to a genuinely nice person

MirrorMirror Joined Fri 10/26/07 Posts: 89680	Mon 03/02/09 07:18 PM
Not really, they just sometimes get on my last nerve!! Yeah, mine too, and thanks for your input Erica. Im trying to get you to come out of your thread more often

misstina2 Joined Sat 11/01/08 Posts: 13508	Mon 03/02/09 07:55 PM
no matter what i'm going to continue to be a nice person nothing will change me ever

MirrorMirror Joined Fri 10/26/07 Posts: 89680	Mon 03/02/09 08:27 PM
no matter what i'm going to continue to be a nice person nothing will change me ever That is the best way to be Tina

special_guy Joined Tue 09/30/08 Posts: 6513	Mon 03/02/09 08:31 PM
When people are "too nice" .... They usually have an alterier motive

moofooga Joined Thu 01/31/08 Posts: 25515	Mon 03/02/09 08:33 PM
When people are "too nice" do they lose your respect? Not with me- the only ones I don't respect are the ones who are total a-holes. I HAVE been disrespected for being "nice" at times, though.

KimmiM Joined Sat 12/27/08 Posts: 1694	Mon 03/02/09 08:38 PM
They don't lose my respect unless they are idiots about it. For the most part they just annoy me.

JustAGuy2112 Joined Sun 12/16/07 Posts: 18033	Mon 03/02/09 08:50 PM
They don't necessarily lose my respect. But one of my ex g/fs was WAY too nice. She wouldn't argue with me about ANYTHING. To me...being too agreeable is about insecurity.

MirrorMirror Joined Fri 10/26/07 Posts: 89680	Mon 03/02/09 09:11 PM
When people are "too nice" .... They usually have an alterier motive indeed

MirrorMirror Joined Fri 10/26/07 Posts: 89680	Mon 03/02/09 09:12 PM
When people are "too nice" do they lose your respect? Not with me- the only ones I don't respect are the ones who are total a-holes. I HAVE been disrespected for being "nice" at times, though. bummer. Maybe someone will appreciate your niceness someday

MirrorMirror Joined Fri 10/26/07 Posts: 89680	Tue 03/03/09 05:19 AM
They don't lose my respect unless they are idiots about it. For the most part they just annoy me. me2

MirrorMirror Joined Fri 10/26/07 Posts: 89680	Tue 03/03/09 09:38 AM
They don't necessarily lose my respect. But one of my ex g/fs was WAY too nice. She wouldn't argue with me about ANYTHING. To me...being too agreeable is about insecurity. good answer

DragonFlyTat Joined Fri 08/29/08 Posts: 3759	Tue 03/03/09 09:39 AM
yes it makes me want to gag when they are to nice and overly sweet

MirrorMirror Joined Fri 10/26/07 Posts: 89680	Tue 03/03/09 09:52 AM
yes it makes me want to gag when they are to nice and overly sweet

Pink_lady Joined Sun 08/24/08 Posts: 2507	Tue 03/03/09 10:01 AM
When people are "too nice" do they lose your respect? I dont lose respect for someone who is way too nice. I do however think that bein overly nice can be detrimental to the persons personal growth. Not just cos they need to learn how to say no, and how to express their opinions, but also because some ppl around them may misread their lack of confidence in self (being ppl pleasers), as fake. Only very few things make me lose respect for ppl, but more so if it has involved me directly.

MirrorMirror Joined Fri 10/26/07 Posts: 89680	Tue 03/03/09 10:38 AM
When people are "too nice" do they lose your respect? I dont lose respect for someone who is way too nice. I do however think that bein overly nice can be detrimental to the persons personal growth. Not just cos they need to learn how to say no, and how to express their opinions, but also because some ppl around them may misread their lack of confidence in self (being ppl pleasers), as fake. Only very few things make me lose respect for ppl, but more so if it has involved me directly. I have had problems saying "no" and having my own opinions.