First off before posting this I realize how one could pull desperation or pity from it but I assure you I am soliciting neither.

Ladies, what grabs your attention with an online personal ad? Does a shorter ad leave you wanting more and make you more likely to respond to an email or does a more complete ad give you more to go on? Is it what a guy writes in his ad or how he writes it?

Guess I'm asking for some insight in the Woman's Handbook of yours.

Yes, it does matter what you write, but I don't need a whole book either. Just a brief blurb that will give me something to use to send you that first email. Also, it helps to know what you are looking for. I appreciate guys who write that they are polygamists and looking for their second wife. It saves me a lot of trouble.

The Womans Handbook????? It does not cover Nice Guy questions.......LOLOL...

well, you've got a good honesty policy, and be real, and stay on here and make some good friends, good luck to ya.

I'm not a woman, but I am pretty sure that there is no magic bullet for everyone. Different things appeal to different people.

It depends on what is on her mind...ask 10 girls and you'll get 10 different answers.

Even back in the index?

When you're right, you're right.


Just be yourself. And people who enjoy that will follow... **** the rest!

Just write about yourself. Give us an idea of who you are.

Well I realize everyone is different but I bet there is a common denominator. Besides I wanted to see some different answers and based on those members profiles I could measure up what different women like to see and if they are the kinda women I'd be interested in.

If I get an email and go to look at the profile and don't find enough information to work with, I won't answer the email.

you know something ..you don't even want to draw attention but yet the wrong nerve gets pinched and i will not allow the .....nevermind

Want the ' common denominator '???

Look through a bunch of profiles and look at how many women say they want a " nice, intelligent " guy.

Then write out your profile like it's written by a Neanderthal with A.D.D. and they'll come flocking.

That's just wrong on so many levels!

First and foremost... be yourself. By trying to "measure up" you are short changing yourself and not being honest with anyone.

Well..it's not like I am way off base. I see hundreds of profiles saying that same thing....but yet, when a nice, intelligent guy actually shows up, the women run for the hills. lol

I have a friend who I am attracted to and she tells me that I'm too good for her. She thinks she's f'ed up, crazy, annoying, and can't understand why any guy would want to be with her. "I pity the guy that gets stuck with me." On the outside I don't see any of the attributes she describes. I wonder if many women feel that way, that they somehow don't deserve a "good guy".

As for the common denominator I didn't mean I was gonna re-write mine to reach out to the most people or be someone I'm not. I'm far to bullheaded to change for someone. lol Perhaps I worded that wrong. I'm just plain curious. Is it the hot guy in the pic, is it the poetic wording, is it bluntness. I'm wondering if there really is attraction that can happen without the physical realm. Can someone really like another based on the other persons narrative alone?

honestly you are going to have to read womens profiles that you like...do some research but dont try to be somone your not..cuz if you do fined that somone your looking for..and they meet you and your not who you have been acting like...im sure it would be over...

also diffrent women like diffrent things....older women mite like one thing as a younger woman might like another....

sound like a smart kid..nothing wrong with benchmarking...but there will be something wrong if the adjustments that are made to reach or exceed the benchmark is not the genuine you..

roco