Topic: Why don't guys reply?
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Fri 02/27/09 07:00 PM

Why is it that when I "nudge" a guy, he doesn't even reply? I even emailed a guy here on Mingle who said he'd reply if a woman did more than just nudge. He hasn't even been true to his word. Why is this?


May-be you're older than a guy? I have some nudges like that, and they obviously lead nowhere... I'll reply, since I don't want to be rude. But, I can see how some guys would just ignore it.

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Fri 02/27/09 07:02 PM

Why is it that when I "nudge" a guy, he doesn't even reply? I even emailed a guy here on Mingle who said he'd reply if a woman did more than just nudge. He hasn't even been true to his word. Why is this?


there are a quite a few people that nudged me, and I didn't nudge back and vice versa. Not everybody is interested. What gets me is when they nudge me, I nudge back, I get there email address, write to them, and then they never reply. Or we are a mutual match, and they don't reply even to the first email (happens to me all the time.)

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Fri 02/27/09 07:03 PM



Why is it that when I "nudge" a guy, he doesn't even reply? I even emailed a guy here on Mingle who said he'd reply if a woman did more than just nudge. He hasn't even been true to his word. Why is this?


I will never understand that kind of behavior, but I know it exists.

Not too long after I first signed up, I tried e-mailing a few of the locals who were traipsing through my "People You Might Be Interested In," basically just trying to welcome them to the site, and get some sort of dialogue going.

Not one ever bothered to reply.

I really don't think the problem was with my e-mails -- I've written two books, and most people seem to think my writing and communications skills are pretty decent, so....?

My own policy is to write everybody back -- unless it's a scammer or a spammer or some obvious nutball whackjob (which have been few and far between on this site!)
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But I won't write to anyone first anymore. I learned my lesson on that one.











I was wondering why you never wrote....



Nothing personal, I assure you!

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I just figure it's a lot easier to be ignored WITHOUT wasting a lot of time trying to write interesting and amusing notes to people who never reply anyway!

Of course, now that I've been here a lot longer and have gotten myself "established" (whatever that means), maybe the situation would be different. I'm not sure I want to risk it, though!





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Fri 02/27/09 07:05 PM
there are those who arent repliers, its a regular thing on dating sites.

Godwhispers's photo
Fri 02/27/09 07:06 PM

Simple answerthink ...Most guys{not all} are @ssesindifferent


LOL...

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Fri 02/27/09 07:07 PM
Email instead of nudge?

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Fri 02/27/09 07:10 PM
I did that too-to a guy who said he'd rather have an email than a nudge or some cutsie contact thing. He never replied.

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Fri 02/27/09 07:11 PM
maybe I need a critique of my profile...

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Fri 02/27/09 07:19 PM
hell...my nudger doesn't even work lol...i figure if they don't have the balls to email,then they sure don't have what it takes for a relationship to work

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Fri 02/27/09 07:20 PM

I did that too-to a guy who said he'd rather have an email than a nudge or some cutsie contact thing. He never replied.


Just keep trying. However, I think emails usually work better than nudges. :smile:

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Fri 02/27/09 07:26 PM
I think that we need a "nudge" line that we can write ourselvesthink Then we might could get their attention a little bit more. Maybe for the ladies it could be "Throws you down and has her way with you!" Bet that would get a few more responses:laughing: :laughing: :laughing: :laughing: :laughing:

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Fri 02/27/09 07:27 PM
I will. I did change my profile to say that I'd always answer an email.

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Fri 02/27/09 07:35 PM

Why is it that when I "nudge" a guy, he doesn't even reply? I even emailed a guy here on Mingle who said he'd reply if a woman did more than just nudge. He hasn't even been true to his word. Why is this?
I go through the same thing. I have like 4 pages of people that looked at my profile but never say anything. I have send out a lot of nudges and email and nothing lol. I did finally start talking with someone and got their IM and we are still talking. So just keep trying. It takes some time but you will find someone.

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Fri 02/27/09 07:39 PM
Thank you. Think I'll just close for tonight.

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Fri 02/27/09 07:45 PM
Maybe it's rude, but I don't always respond to nudges from people I don't know. If it's someone I know, or someone I recognize from the forums, that's cool. But if it's a stranger, I don't always reply. I will reply to emails, though.

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Fri 02/27/09 09:00 PM
I get the same thing, the marjority of men that I initiate contact with don't respond...or if they do, then it's only once, they don't continue the conversation.

In looking at profiles, I may not contact someone because they smoke and I already know that I won't date a smoker so why contact them...I also may find something in their profile (or lack of one) that doesn't hold my interest, but once there is something there & I email 9 times out of 10 I don't get a response back...so it pretty much gets to the feeling of why even try. Just look, dream & wish...lol

Sorry, long day. And it's Friday night & look where I am.

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Sat 02/28/09 06:06 PM
It's really too bad we ladies aren't all located in one area. We could all go out for a ladies night and say heck with 'em.

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Sun 03/01/09 11:09 PM

If no one ever emails first, then there would be no communication. I'm pretty sure that people in my generation grew up with manners. What I want to know is what happened.


What happened is culture shift. For the most part, people are inundated with meaningless information, have less time, and are more stressed. Thus, lack of response, albeit abrasive, is direct.

Roco

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Sun 03/01/09 11:15 PM
Good reasoning, Roco.

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Sun 03/01/09 11:19 PM

Why is it that when I "nudge" a guy, he doesn't even reply? I even emailed a guy here on Mingle who said he'd reply if a woman did more than just nudge. He hasn't even been true to his word. Why is this?


The same reason why the wimmins won't reply when dudes send them emails. Dunno what that reason is, though. laugh