Well my kids are grown now but if anyone that I dated would have referred to them as baggage. I assure you they would not have been around long. And yes I did consider my kids first for a long time. Due to the fact they were the first and foremost on the top of my list. If it meant putting my personal life to the back burner then so be it.

Now I did date and when they finally meet my kids it was very important to me that they got along with them. My kids were always repectful to others and never caused any problems with the ones I dated.

But baggage no way would I ever refer to my kids as such nor would I let anyone else.

I can understand those that do not have kids and don't want to date those that do that is their choice.

That is pretty much why no one ever lived with me while my kids were growing up. Now they are grown and I'm able to spend the time with another person that is when ever I find that special one.

As far as I know, my man Myth is waiting excitedly for Nicole to come home from Israel and can't wait to have some video conversations with her in the meantime.

He is also trying to patiently wait till the right time for us to start having kids of our own together, but regardless if we do or not, he is anxious to get to have Nicole in his life.

He is a bit worried about overstepping his boundaries and is afraid to be too affectionate with Nicole, so I explained it to him like this:

"Nicole has an Abba, that is her father she is with now. She knows that her Abba and her Mommy won't be getting back together and she is becoming okay with this. She has a Mommy, that is me. She knows Mommy has a boyfriend and one day he will become Mommy's husband and her step-daddy. She is okay with calling Mommy's new man Daddy, but not Abba. When Abba remarried, his new wife will become Ima, but never be Mommy. But Mommy will not stop Ima from loving Nicole to the fullest. Just like Abba will not stop Daddy from loving Nicole to the fullest.

And if you think it is okay to love Nicole but treat her a little bit less affectionately than our children, our relationship will end, because Nicole will then feel inferior, like she is not good enough to receive all your love because she is not genetically your child. I promise to love ALL my children equally. I have no favorites. If you had kids before you met me, I would welcome them into my world as my own. That is how you raise a healthy child. Never treat them differently than your own. Treat them all equally and with the same amount of love, and they will grow strong and shine."

Kids are NOT baggage. To me, they are a WONDERFUL and BLESSED addition for me to love! I don't care if I never have another kid again, if I get to love on other people's children. (Okay, I lied a little bit, I DO want more kids. But I would be okay with loving Myth's kids if he had some and didn't want to make more.)

It is not "the clothes that make the man" anymore. It's the children that show you the true personality of a person. If they are harsh and rough with their own kids, you have to think how will they treat you and your kids? Or you even?