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$0.00 But how much in pounds? |
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In this age of equality what does the women have to do to show how much she values her husband? tolerate him?  
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Do some women want a ring worth 3 months of their mans salary even if it puts him in major debt? Would that cash not be better invested, or just sitting in your bank to provide a little financial security for you both? Or maybe be put into the actual wedding fund? Traditionally it's been 3 months. But..I don't if anybody follows that. It depends on one's finances. |
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Blah, I would not go crazy on expenditures for items such as this. You dont want to go into your marriage with a bunch of crippling credit card debt. That will only lead to additional stress and fighting. Personally, I would be more interested in a nicer honeymoon. Egypt or some place incredibly exotic or romantic. I would be able to give up the ring for that instead. You have to talk to Lisa though and get a feel for what is most important to her.
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Well since I have never been to go with what others say or magazines prints I think it is best to go with the woman’s taste as far as jewelry. Some women do not like big rings they prefer smaller ones that are daintier instead.
As far as how much again that all boils down to the woman’s taste within jewelry. My self I don’t care for the 14kt gold rather have the 10kt where some would rather have silver. As far as the stones some want the perfect stones which are much more expensive but the lesser stones are just as good as far as the eye can see. Regardless unless you get one they really like no matter how much money you spend or how less you want them to be happy with what they have. So my self the cost should not be and issue but instead what the person prefers should be the main goal. Most women would not want it to cost so much that you are in dept above your means. If so then you better be looking at the other problems that may lie ahead after you have married them. For their spending habits is something you will want to look at before hand and if in fact they may have a budget problem and live above their means |
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My grandpa gave my grandma a toy ring. It worked for 68 years.
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Do some women want a ring worth 3 months of their mans salary even if it puts him in major debt? Would that cash not be better invested, or just sitting in your bank to provide a little financial security for you both? Or maybe be put into the actual wedding fund? Traditionally it's been 3 months. But..I don't if anybody follows that. It depends on one's finances. No matter if i had 3 months salary clear in my bank already, that still seems like a lot to me. That would maybe be enough even for a deposit on a new property. I guess there are just other things i would rather my money went on. |
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an Engagement Ring? (And Lisa, dont get your hopes up! im just wondering! haha!!) Right.  
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an Engagement Ring? Ive heard varying amounts, one was up to 3 months salary. Im thinking 3 months is pretty excessive. Maybe if you work in the third world and earn a dollar a week.. Elsewhere i read a months salary. What do you think, is that too much or not enough? (And Lisa, dont get your hopes up! im just wondering! haha!!) 
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Do some women want a ring worth 3 months of their mans salary even if it puts him in major debt? Would that cash not be better invested, or just sitting in your bank to provide a little financial security for you both? Or maybe be put into the actual wedding fund? Traditionally it's been 3 months. But..I don't if anybody follows that. It depends on one's finances. No matter if i had 3 months salary clear in my bank already, that still seems like a lot to me. That would maybe be enough even for a deposit on a new property. I guess there are just other things i would rather my money went on. Well .. your 3 mos is not someone else's 3 mos .. I would think that would buy a lot for you. Also .. ask LISA!! My new SIL took my daughter shopping to LOOK at rings .. just 'window shopping' mind you. But .. and here's the key .. ((((((( HE TOOK NOTES )))))))) 
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I have always heard it should be 10% of your annual income...you could always call a jeweler and ask them
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Blah, I would not go crazy on expenditures for items such as this. You dont want to go into your marriage with a bunch of crippling credit card debt. That will only lead to additional stress and fighting. Personally, I would be more interested in a nicer honeymoon. Egypt or some place incredibly exotic or romantic. I would be able to give up the ring for that instead. You have to talk to Lisa though and get a feel for what is most important to her. She has always wanted to go to Egypt! I made this thread out of interest, rather than because im planning to go out and buy a ring right now. But yeah i would discuss it with her, like she said, she will have to wear it everyday for a long time. Though one thing i was unsure of, was whether or not you should already have the ring when you propose? Its hard to do that if you have been talking about it in detail. |
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Do some women want a ring worth 3 months of their mans salary even if it puts him in major debt? Would that cash not be better invested, or just sitting in your bank to provide a little financial security for you both? Or maybe be put into the actual wedding fund? Traditionally it's been 3 months. But..I don't if anybody follows that. It depends on one's finances. No matter if i had 3 months salary clear in my bank already, that still seems like a lot to me. That would maybe be enough even for a deposit on a new property. I guess there are just other things i would rather my money went on. Well .. your 3 mos is not someone else's 3 mos .. I would think that would buy a lot for you. Also .. ask LISA!! My new SIL took my daughter shopping to LOOK at rings .. just 'window shopping' mind you. But .. and here's the key .. ((((((( HE TOOK NOTES )))))))) I dont DO shopping, especially window shopping! I get moody and we would end up having a row! lol |
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Edited by
lilith401
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Thu 02/12/09 07:24 AM
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At least a carat.... just get the right style!
If you can fly to Antwerp and spend 15k, great. If you can go to the local jeweler and spend 2-5k... great. Just put thought and care into it. If you can't afford it.... well. Not all women want diamonds. Oh, and platinum is where it's at.... 
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I have always heard it should be 10% of your annual income...you could always call a jeweler and ask them They would probably tell me it was higher! |
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At least a carat.... just get the right style! If you can fly to Antrewp and spend 15k, great. If you can go to the local jeweler and spend 2-5k... great. Just put thought and care into it. If you can't afford it.... well. Not all women want diamonds. Oh, and platinum is where it's at.... I wouldnt go to Antwerp just to buy a ring if i could fly there by helicopter! We have plenty of shops here! |
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Blah, I would not go crazy on expenditures for items such as this. You dont want to go into your marriage with a bunch of crippling credit card debt. That will only lead to additional stress and fighting. Personally, I would be more interested in a nicer honeymoon. Egypt or some place incredibly exotic or romantic. I would be able to give up the ring for that instead. You have to talk to Lisa though and get a feel for what is most important to her. She has always wanted to go to Egypt! I made this thread out of interest, rather than because im planning to go out and buy a ring right now. But yeah i would discuss it with her, like she said, she will have to wear it everyday for a long time. Though one thing i was unsure of, was whether or not you should already have the ring when you propose? Its hard to do that if you have been talking about it in detail. Yeah you still need to present her with the engagement ring when you propose. Its a symbol of the commitment to come so to speak. What kind of jewelry does she normally wear? I personally like semi precious stones like amethyst and you could get something like that which is gorgeous but not all that expensive. Not comparatively to a diamond anyway. I honestly dont like diamonds and find them boring. Everyone is different though. If you know she wants to travel, I might just take a risk on it and get her the less expensive engagement ring and then start arrangements for a nice honeymoon. You can also set up an account that your friends and family can donate to your "vacation fund" instead of getting you a wedding gift. You can set that up online. |
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At least a carat.... just get the right style! If you can fly to Antrewp and spend 15k, great. If you can go to the local jeweler and spend 2-5k... great. Just put thought and care into it. If you can't afford it.... well. Not all women want diamonds. Oh, and platinum is where it's at.... I wouldnt go to Antwerp just to buy a ring if i could fly there by helicopter! We have plenty of shops here! Fongul! You quoted me before I could fix the typo! |
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Blah, I would not go crazy on expenditures for items such as this. You dont want to go into your marriage with a bunch of crippling credit card debt. That will only lead to additional stress and fighting. Personally, I would be more interested in a nicer honeymoon. Egypt or some place incredibly exotic or romantic. I would be able to give up the ring for that instead. You have to talk to Lisa though and get a feel for what is most important to her. She has always wanted to go to Egypt! I made this thread out of interest, rather than because im planning to go out and buy a ring right now. But yeah i would discuss it with her, like she said, she will have to wear it everyday for a long time. Though one thing i was unsure of, was whether or not you should already have the ring when you propose? Its hard to do that if you have been talking about it in detail. Yeah you still need to present her with the engagement ring when you propose. Its a symbol of the commitment to come so to speak. What kind of jewelry does she normally wear? I personally like semi precious stones like amethyst and you could get something like that which is gorgeous but not all that expensive. Not comparatively to a diamond anyway. I honestly dont like diamonds and find them boring. Everyone is different though. If you know she wants to travel, I might just take a risk on it and get her the less expensive engagement ring and then start arrangements for a nice honeymoon. You can also set up an account that your friends and family can donate to your "vacation fund" instead of getting you a wedding gift. You can set that up online. When i do think seriously about proposing, i will set up the vacation fund AS WELL AS expecting gifts! haha! (Im dreaming now!) |
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At least a carat.... just get the right style! If you can fly to Antrewp and spend 15k, great. If you can go to the local jeweler and spend 2-5k... great. Just put thought and care into it. If you can't afford it.... well. Not all women want diamonds. Oh, and platinum is where it's at.... I wouldnt go to Antwerp just to buy a ring if i could fly there by helicopter! We have plenty of shops here! Fongul! You quoted me before I could fix the typo! No i saw you, you changed it after i quoted you when you saw how it should be spelt! Thicko! |
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