I've been thinking about something and I was hopping someone could
enlighten me. Why is it so hard for a man to accept a woman who is in a
wheelchair as a romantic prospect?? Because I am 20 years old, I'm in a
wheelchair, and I've never had a boyfriend. Could somebody ( perferably
a man perhaps but women are more then welcome ) please shine some light
on to this subject please???

they may feel guilty and feel like theyre taking advantage of a
handicapped person?

Umm because they are mornons? Some people just have issues and can't see
real beauty. Hang in there girl you'll eventually meet the right guy

and those who dont feel guilty , its possible that they are worried
about not being able to do certain things they like, such as hiking up a
mountain , skiing , etc

as far as not finding a boyfriend, i would not worry about that ,there
is plenty of men out there who look past that.

just stay positive about it , if it doesnt bother you then it will make
it easier for someone else to accept it.

look at the big picture though , if a man doesnt like you cause you are
in a wheelchair, then screw him , he wasnt the right man anyway.

Wish I had that answer for you. But really you don't want someone that
cannot accept you as you are. One day you will find that special someone
or he will find you. When you do meet them they will look past the chair
and see you for who you are. Just keep your chin up and believe in
yourself.

My dear some of it may be the fear of the unknown, somepeople do not
want to stray from what they consider the norm. Just let your heartlight
shine and I promise you, yoour knight in shining armor will appear, you
are still young and there are a lot of good men out there, be patient
and they will find you, as you look like a princess to me!!

MIkey - you made me a little teary with that


SingleinOhio-your light shines and one day a special someone will see
it.

I have a friend who was paralized in a car accident as a teen ... he got
married a few years ago to an amazing woman.

He will find you when the time is right. In the meantime, a life rich
in friendships is truly wonderful indeed.

I agree with Mikey.
My ex-sister-in-law is in a w/c
she has had numerous boyfriends

singleinohio

God made each and every one of us different..He didnt intend for us all
to be the same. Anyone that judges someone because they are in a
cheerchair, does have issues and U Dont need them, do you?? And they r
right, they may feel quility about it too..There r alot of good hearted
people in the world. you will get yours and find your prince. I know
it!!

men havent grown up yet at that age mentally in time they will see the
inner beaty that you posess . Wait for it to happen and dont push it .
it will find you when the time is right

My cousin (whom I'm very close with) Aaron has been in a wheel chair
practically his whole life since he was born with Spinabifita. He has
the same problem with women, alot of people are ignorant and can't see
that a wheel chair is simply where you sit and how you get around. I
dont' even notice those things.

Just love yourself sweetie, and the right man will come along. You are
a beautiful young woman, any man who is worth your time will see
that.

best wishes and be patient

yes be patient...

and keep your chin up high...

love will come your way...

A lot of people are just uneducated about people with disabilities. In
fact most are ignorant about it.

Stay postive, focus on your abilities and people will come to you.

dont forget you are young....Lots of time to find love and the right
person for you.

Single
You should know that you are not alone. Its hard for everybody. Just
work on yourself. Work on your life and the things that make you happy,
and good things will come for you.
If this helps---- My little brother is in a wheelchair. (C 5
quadriplegic) He has been in a wheelchair for over 12 years. No
girlfriends. He has worked on himself. He also found God.
He met a very nice girl and he is getting married in July. Nobody
thought it would happen. So just hang in there baby and work on what you
need to do for yourself. Don't worry about finding love. It will find
you when you are not looking for it.
LOVE
BigPaul

aww you guys are amazing!!! if i could make you guys have a group hug
with me.. I would.. hahahah

singleinohio I have been sick all my life, its hard for people to
understand and accept things they dont understand. But you will find
someone have hope.

Honestly because there aren't enough MEN in the world today, only guys
tryin to act manly, and it may be that most of those kinds of crackers
think that they won't look as cool with a girlfriend in a wheelchair. I
think once an actual man gets to know ya, you won't have many problems.
Have faith, it'll happen.

I think you're a very beautiful person, SingleinOhio.
Have patience and just be yourself.

It feels like I've been alone most of my life.
That's because I'm not like everyone else,
I've sort of marched to the beat of my own
drummer and it make me feel like a misfit
some times.

But I know who I am, and I know that I'm
worthy of being loved of someone will give
me a chance. But most people don't know me,
they judge a book by it's cover and don't
look for the real person inside.

I hope you find your happiness someday.

Like Sherrie, I have a friend who has been in a wheelchair since he was
19. He is 40 now and married. He has had many girlfriends in between.
There are people out there who understand and would be glad to date
someone in a wheelchair. On another single's site, in the personal
profile questionaire, it asked if you would date someone in a
wheelchair. I put yes I would, and I think all dating websites should
offer this option also.

You are 20 years old...still very young, but I know you are probably
lonely and wondering when it will happen for you. I can tell you it will
happen for you. Be patient, follow your dreams in the meantime, and
before you know it, you will be telling us how much in love you are!!
Good luck and my prayers are with you!!