How important is a physical attraction in a relationship?

If you meet someone who is perfect in every other aspect (personality, chemistry, etc.), but you aren't attracted to them physically, would you still want to get involved? Would turning them down be shallow?

Think about all aspects here. (ie. Would really want to kiss or have sex with this person? Would you want kids who resembled them? What would your friends say?)

~jAs.

I hope they let you down gently.

You need some physical attraction. Its not all about the looks, of course otherwise I would have never married my ex husband

I don't know if you have noticed but people of all shapes colors and looks have relationships. There is beauty in everyone. Just because we don't see it doesn't mean that their potential mate doesn't. Who are we to judge someone by their looks? If you love someone you love them unconditionally.

I think if you have chemistry, then you ARE attracted to them on some level. Maybe you don't want to be, but you are. Chemistry is not just about looks.

It does have importance

Sometimes with initial attraction you'll find out that the other person is a tool, because they're used to the attention.

Sometimes it's better to let the physical attraction develop, and if it doesn't then it doesn't

Well, it's not like I'm looking for an Adonis, but there HAS to be some physical chemistry and it really doesn't have to have anything to do with looks, per se.

Of course physical attraction plays some part.

This is surely true, I know that everyone is beautiful in their own way. From what you are saying I can make the inference that If I, particularly, am not physically attracted, then I may not be the one they are meant for? Is this correct?

You don't know someone has a great personality until you actually talk to them. Looks matter because they are the initial reason for attraction. So yes they matter and are very important.

very good point

Looks may get my attention......
but there has to be more to keep it.

I don't think in general that it means much..If YOU BOTH feel in-love with each other. THAT won't matter...

NOW, just let me say that I have lost friends here in the past for my views and own personal experience with this subject.

I am not attracted to BIG ladies. So would their size stop me from falling in-love with them. Yes.
Because THAT would prevent me from ever going out with them.
But its not just a preference, its a personal issue...

Yup. If there's nothing else there, I'm not going to be attracted to them very long.

I have been caught up in this situation where everthing was good but I wasnt attracted to the person..........I eventually went out with them and I thought things would get better but they didnt and I ended up being the person who was dishonest because I was dishonest in myself..........its misleading and it never works..........you need attraction for a relationship to develop and progress........and now I know and will never do it again.....

It's important. It may not always be in the top three, but it's up there somewhere.



It's hard for me to even theorize about meeting someone who would be "perfect in every other aspect" -- I can't even find anybody who's remotely suitable in ANY aspect -- but, assuming they had THAT many positives, I think I'd try to see
if things could go somewhere interesting....Being called shallow doesn't bother me. I embrace my shallowosity.



Possibly -- I've been with people before who didn't particularly appeal to me on a physical level -- but there was always something else there that outweighed that fact.



A non-issue, as I will not have kids and I will not be with anyone who does.



Does it matter? They have their lives, I have mine. They can say whatever they want -- it has no bearing on anything.

it's not all about the looks, but they gotta be there,

someone probbally throw term shallow out there,

but that spark has to be there,...mentally and physically

And let's not forget, the term "attractive" has an extremely subjective definition. What utterly repels one person (be it weight, color, freckles, whatever) may be just what the doctor ordered.

And let's not forget, the term "attractive" has an extremely subjective definition. What utterly repels one person (be it weight, color, freckles, whatever) may be just what the doctor ordered.