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Topic: 150 or More?
Jill298's photo
Sun 02/08/09 11:17 AM

wow, i didn't realize it was a tag team thread.

We're after world domination devil

Krimsa's photo
Sun 02/08/09 11:17 AM
Edited by Krimsa on Sun 02/08/09 11:25 AM
Same rationale for hunting down Witches laugh

Ruth34611's photo
Sun 02/08/09 11:18 AM


wow, i didn't realize it was a tag team thread.

We're after world domination devil


pitchfork pitchfork pitchfork

TxsGal3333's photo
Sun 02/08/09 11:21 AM
offtopic Please go back to the topic in hand do not bring personal issues against each other within the threads.

And subjects or issues from other threads need to stay within those threads or taking to e-mails. Leave drama from other threads within those threads.

We all have and opinion and it is great that we can discuss how we in fact see things within life. There is no need to attack anyone for their opinion or take offense to their opinion when it is within a statement form and not directed to anyone in particular.

With that said please return to the topic.


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Sun 02/08/09 11:21 AM

I don't think a raw number makes anybody anything.

I've been with a fair number of people -- though not as many as you have -- and it means nothing, really, because none of them are still around.

Agreed.

However, you haven't created a thread indicating the number of women you've slept with, like it was some sort of conquest.


I know a lot of guys see it that way -- I don't.

For me -- speaking strictly for myself, and not trying to cast aspersions on anyone, whether their numbers are minimal or Wilt Chamberlainesque -- it's really more of a mark of failure. I had *this many* opportunities to make things work -- and none of them did.

Failures in judgment, failures in follow-through, failures in giving enough of myself -- and more.

From that standpoint, I can't see it as anything to be proud of. At the same time, I can't "erase" it and pretend it somehow never happened.

Hopefully -- and this has yet to be tested -- I've learned something from it.


Drago01's photo
Sun 02/08/09 11:34 AM
Edited by Drago01 on Sun 02/08/09 11:37 AM


I don't think a raw number makes anybody anything.

I've been with a fair number of people -- though not as many as you have -- and it means nothing, really, because none of them are still around.

Agreed.

However, you haven't created a thread indicating the number of women you've slept with, like it was some sort of conquest.


I know a lot of guys see it that way -- I don't.

For me -- speaking strictly for myself, and not trying to cast aspersions on anyone, whether their numbers are minimal or Wilt Chamberlainesque -- it's really more of a mark of failure. I had *this many* opportunities to make things work -- and none of them did.

Failures in judgment, failures in follow-through, failures in giving enough of myself -- and more.

From that standpoint, I can't see it as anything to be proud of. At the same time, I can't "erase" it and pretend it somehow never happened.

Hopefully -- and this has yet to be tested -- I've learned something from it.



Me too Lex. Ive harbored a sense of loss(a bad feeling)for my relations for quite sometime. Life and Age does shape our views. I havent tried to appear as some kind of hero, being proud of some kind of accomplishment and I apologize to those who see it that way. My sentiment has been a graduation towards quality and fidelity for several years now. One day I do hope to find HER.

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Ruth34611's photo
Sun 02/08/09 11:37 AM

Me too Lex. Ive harbored a sense of loss(a bad feeling)for my relations for quite sometime. Life and Age does shape our views. I havent tried to appear as some kind of hero, being proud of some kind of accomplishment and I apologize to those who see it that way. My sentiment has been graduation towards quality and fidelity for several years now. One day I do hope to find HER.


After reading all your posts I see your original post in a much different light (a more positive light). I hope that one day you are able to find and stay in a relationship that makes both you and the girl happy. flowerforyou

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Sun 02/08/09 11:42 AM

Me too Lex. Ive harbored a sense of loss(a bad feeling)for my relations for quite sometime. Life and Age does shape our views. I havent tried to appear as some kind of hero, being proud of some kind of accomplishment and I apologize to those who see it that way. My sentiment has been graduation towards quality and fidelity for several years now. One day I do hope to find HER.


I think there's an inclination on the part of many to equate statistics with accomplishment -- it's a sort of natural outgrowth from "bigger is better, more is better," etc.

But I prefer to think of it more in terms of experience as a way of learning what works and what doesn't -- and there are moments when I see that as a disturbingly hollow rationalization, but -- well, maybe you learn more from the negative experiences than the positive ones. Or maybe at least you learn there are things you don't want to go through again....?


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Sun 02/08/09 11:46 AM
Your hand might be a safer alternative.

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Sun 02/08/09 11:46 AM
You know, whats funny about ex man hoes is that they usually "wake up" when they are about 50, and wonder what went wrong??? Most find themselves alone and sad.

RKISIT's photo
Sun 02/08/09 11:47 AM
Edited by RKISIT on Sun 02/08/09 11:47 AM
you know that a male porn star and athletes,plus actors have had sex with alot of women but yet alot of women will look past it if they had an opportunity...just sayin:smile:

TxsGal3333's photo
Sun 02/08/09 11:47 AM


Me too Lex. Ive harbored a sense of loss(a bad feeling)for my relations for quite sometime. Life and Age does shape our views. I havent tried to appear as some kind of hero, being proud of some kind of accomplishment and I apologize to those who see it that way. My sentiment has been graduation towards quality and fidelity for several years now. One day I do hope to find HER.


The only thing that in fact I see within what you have posted. Is the fact that you have admitted your sexual past and in fact been honest about it. If we can not be honest with ourselves how are we to ever be able to see where we might have done things different now?

But regardless our past is a part that we all must deal with in our lives.

As far as not being able to commit to a long term relationship I would rather someone be honest within that aspect. Heck I know several that say they can commit and well shshsh they are only fooling themselves.

Besides really when we think about it how long is a long term relationship? No one knows and they are rare and far between if you really look around you how many do you know that were High School sweethearts or met shortly after and still together.

My self I only know of one couple and they are still like Newlyweds the love they have for each other is a rare find.

Krimsa's photo
Sun 02/08/09 11:50 AM
There clearly is an existent double standard firmly rooted in western culture. For both men and women the real difficulty comes with actually maintaining and developing a relationship. That’s the tricky part. Women can acquire sex whenever they want and a LOT of it. No challenge there at tall.

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Sun 02/08/09 11:50 AM
Edited by Drago01 on Sun 02/08/09 11:52 AM
OK so here it is for those of you who have asked.

http://mingle2.com/dating-report


I dont regret making this Topic. At least not yet. I do have regrets about my lifestyle in the past.
I do look forward to a loving, monogamus, relationship in the future.

Drago01's photo
Sun 02/08/09 11:54 AM

You know, whats funny about ex man hoes is that they usually "wake up" when they are about 50, and wonder what went wrong??? Most find themselves alone and sad.

Thats a pretty good assessment Gypsy.

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Sun 02/08/09 11:55 AM

OK so here it is for those of you who have asked.

http://mingle2.com/dating-report



Oh, I'm going to hell for sure now....!



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Sun 02/08/09 11:56 AM


You know, whats funny about ex man hoes is that they usually "wake up" when they are about 50, and wonder what went wrong??? Most find themselves alone and sad.

Thats a pretty good assessment Gypsy.
WEll....Im not saying you are but Ive seen this in too many instances in real life. The man in his 20s, 30's, 40's being a playboy, messing with anything that walks....suddenly realizes all the things he has missed.ohwell

Ruth34611's photo
Sun 02/08/09 11:58 AM

WEll....Im not saying you are but Ive seen this in too many instances in real life. The man in his 20s, 30's, 40's being a playboy, messing with anything that walks....suddenly realizes all the things he has missed.ohwell


That'll be my ex-husband in a few years.

Krimsa's photo
Sun 02/08/09 12:03 PM
150 spread out over a lifetime from the point that you lost your virgnity correct?

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Sun 02/08/09 02:32 PM
If I see some one who seems to change partners so often that it is clear that there is minimal consideration of the partners and they have been used for the temporary entertainment then I am going to pass.

If I see someone who takes there time to develope and maintain a relationship; not just get into it and stop, then I am going to show some serious interest.

Lot of people have a holyier than thou attitude because they have been a years long relationship but you know for a fact that it looks more like a war zone plan than a supportive relationship.

I do understand how people who strive to treat people right all along feel frusterated that those who have been self centered for years and get to do and about face and seems like everything passes.

That is probably because there are a lot of people who do turn around so they might not like it but accept it and you don't know what their histories are. Sometimes still waters run deep. Many partners don't have a clue and just think they hit the jackpot. Sometimes ignorance is bliss.

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