No it still would have been heartless...now because I have talked to him I know he's just joking it up, but still...lol

whats wrong with a maybe? could be something he saw or didn't see in the profile and like someone said.... e mail and find out what have you got to lose some time? sheese

maybe what

Mutual Match is useless.
Lately, I've clicked yes, then deleted them.
I used to send an email, but got tired of no replies.
Even more recently, my 'matches' have been on the other side of the country.

First, I need to know, is this person aware that you are/were interested and did he select 'maybe' before or after he was aware?

And that's my point-

For some unexplainable reason, men have had to walk on eggshells for what they say for a while now. If we say one thing, we're ostrasized... if we do another, we're STILL ostrasized.

All the while, womankind can say or do whatever it wants to the chants of "You go girl!!" with little chance of retribution.

The bottom line here is that if a woman had said what I said, no one would make a stink about it. But since a MALE said it, then it becomes taboo, which isn't fair in the least.

And -in the end, at least- it doesn't matter what the other person clicked on your profile. If you've found someone, then you've found someone, period.

aw look society has had the rules flip flopped

don't worry in time men will be able to say whatever without retribution again...and women will be taught to keep their mouths shut

Excuse me if I'm wrong, but doesn't maybe get the same effect that yes does? You get no different result by clicking yes or maybe. They still show up in your matches. I honestly could care less if they clicked yes or maybe, if it was someone I was interested in. I would just feel fortunate that they are possibly taking a chance on getting to know me.

That's not my point-

both sides of the humanity coin should be able to say whatever it is they want to say. Moreover, they should be able to say what they want without fear of some do-gooder goose-stepping in with some politically-correct garbage.

well it means just that, maybe, basically they like you but saw something that they thought wouldn't allow it to work out, maybe doesn't live close or something, wouldn't take it personal.

The only point I wish to convey is this...


Out of the abundance of the heart, the mouth speaks...



What each of us says...speaks volumns in regard to what is in our hearts....


Some of us.....have very rancid rotten hearts....










I'm just saying...

oh sweetheart don't get your nickers in a twist....
and don't avoid saying how ya feel because you might catch flack...really now...
it only matters that you get your hindquarters jumped because you let it matter
although I realize sometimes you are merely looking for empathy
take care hun

I don't even use MM, I go in there every once in awhile and click no on all of them just to clear it out. Not sure how my guy found me but he sent me an email like respectable person and we went from there. I've never taken mutual match seriously so I wouldn't care.

Maybe I'd feel good.
Maybe I'd feel bad.
Probably wouldn't care.
But maybe is always there.

huh huh...i'm a poet

It seems to me that ulitmately.....this is one of those "half full" "half empty" things.....

Well, Maybe is not no, and not sure, so ymmv. When maybe means something other than yes, maybe it'll matter, maybe.

Agreed

"Maybe" is the same as "No," in that it shouldn't appear in a person's mail if he or she clicked "Maybe." I could have received a hundred maybes but don't know because they don't notify you in the event of a maybe.

Yes they do.....they go to your mutual match. Or have it gotten this all wrong? Yes/Maybe's both will go into your mutual match category if you both have selected one of those.

that's the way i do it....most of the time.

i know it's kinda chicken sh*t, but sometimes i wonder if the the woman is sittin on the other end goin "wtf is this guy thinkin clickin yes?"