I've missed you too lori, and was glad to see you here.

Now...donuts? Where'd they go?

i came over with the first banned and in exile members of the old
site.....


it felt like fresh air.

i was very conscious of the "guest in a new house" situation and posted
my poetry in a thread titled MINE.....it does not get much more personal
than that. I don't like a spotlight or a welcoming committee or to be
noticed... i like growing into someplace and becoming part of the
biodiversity so to speak.. quietly and elegantly fitting in.

I found that very difficult . I even deactivated for a week because i
knew i could not handle what was happening.

Some of the people that moved to JSH were not banned and actually had
alot of attitude towards those of us that were...why did they follow?
why have they messed up this house too?


they are still members over there, or because of the sheep mentality
have gotton deleted for "guilt by association".......soooooooooooo ya
mix together a left over soup that's gone sour and with missing key
ingredients and add it to a new soup that tastes just fine....well the
result is no longer edible


we can do our best to doctor the soup and add a little of this and a
little of that...throw in some strong spices even.... but anyone who
knows how to cook will agree with me....it's not going to be the soup
you would serve to someone you like.

i am not sure how long it will take for the transformation......
it is like so many things representative of the microcosm/macrocosm .

we are not just ingredients of a soup, we are human beings. WE HAVE A
CHOICE
water will lower to find it's level...i am not going to lower myself.
i will seem aloof and maybe even arrogant to some and that's fine.
but i will not bend over to stupidity or banality or the ridiculous
mentality that i was happy to get away from.

and so i appreciate Morena's post, and i regret that she feels this way
but she is not alone.

this unwelcome attitude we pick up...this invasion...has a more subtle
perspective as well.

it is the narrow mindedness ...the attachment to territory, the
immigration attitude of exclusiveness..this is mine ....blah blah blah
the attachment to beliefs...the operative word here being ATTACHMENT ,
NOT BELIEF.

it is this that i find so horrible... the lack of flexibility of spirit
and mentality...I am a Doctor.... many of my perspectives are rooted in
adaptability/ flexibility/and growth to facilitate healing.

as humans we are like a cancer on this planet...no respect for the
abundance and beauty around us or for each other...and now we expect to
see it here?

it seems to be the human condition that when we are forced from our
environments into new territory we meet with conflict from the
locals/indigenous ....

we will not actually get over this until we wake up and begin to look at
a much bigger picture...give up our judgementalism (which is NOT
necessarily giving up judgement) and begin to flex and adapt.to one
another and to a determined effort to evolve consciously...that takes a
willingness .....I DO NOT SEE THAT HERE. i see people very attached to
their ideas and concepts and methods of communication.. religion,
politics, and sex ......(from all sides)

i have an unconventional mind and lifestyle.... if i spoke about it
freely here i would be crucified..... i am aware that one cannot make a
silk purse out of a sow's ear..........so i am not even going to try


when i find the little openings of curiosity and kindness, i will make a
step...i have alot to offer....but just as with so many things...it's
allll about the timing...pace....and humour



peace


alex



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Alex,you make it sound like ring -around - the -rossie


I don't play follow the leader,and your coming off like your a leader of
sort.

Its a open playground,can not everyone play nice,and those who care not
to,ignore,feeding them just makes them hungry and gives them what they
want,let the lions fend for themself.

Sand castles anyone?

Have my bucket at the ready

Scouse stop trolling

And lose the idiotic behavior For The Love Of God!


If you need to follow someone follow people to meet...and get to know
them.....


You are on my last nerve I know you mean well but........


Have a boundry or 2....

No It is not me you are trolling but your getting sickening!

Listen Kimmy if i want to troll then i shall troll..I will also choose
to behave in whatever manner i see fit if you deem that to be idiotic
then so be it..I certainly wont lose any sleep about that...I am my own
leader and follow no one..I have no boundrys and never will..As for
getting on your last nerve if that is the case i suggest you go and do
something less stressfull instead.

Welcome, too JSH, Hal

That welcome was for Arabella.

cherie....................what is your problem...........



get over it

you come off sounding like a *****

for you kim and blant

cherie, don't be so damned *****y.

I emailed you while back... and noone asked anyone to follow...

jeez. what the hell anyway?

I'll take one sand castle to go, please


Maybe there's another site, somewhere....

It probably just would have been alot easier to deal with if it did not
weem like an organized thing with everyone moving over at one time.

I think I qualify as one ot the old timers here on the forum but I do
not post much these days. I may not have been around as long as some but
I think that once a person is on a site like this and attains a
reasonable amount of postings they are a bit more experienced then
others.

The site has taken on a different feel then it used to have for me. I
used to spend all my time day and night posting on this forum now I
doubt if I post even on a daily basis.

I have met alot of great people on here and am sure anyone can if they
give it time. It would not suprize me if the other site failed because
of what has happened and the people migrating here. This is a better
site then that anyhow.

Enough of my rambling. Welcome to all the new members and future new
members as well. Maybe I should setup an account with the other company
and psot a welcome to all its members as being future JSH members. I
guess that woud be askig for trouble huh?

Have a great day.

No I love alex,
lisa but ty xxxx kim

I wasn't even close to organized.

A handful of us decided we wanted to be treated like human beings and
came along...

gold membership... and they invite, and we invite...

news spread like gossip does, and it became lost as to reasons behind it
all...

the blowout happened when the usual OH OH! Me, too!
and, all at once the bunches came...

As has been mentioned MANY times, folks will vow they were mistreated
somehow... and, some where... but, the majority were not. It became a
game.

I found this site to be awesome, and the staff to be more than patient
and real. Members have been good to me...

Like anywhere you go, not everyone will be bestest buddies, and true
freinds. that's life.

Sometimes when things are hard, and bad things happen, we find how true
some folks are about themselves... oh well...

anyway, we have been welcomed again and again...

some folks just have an insatiable need for attention, lol.

I don,t see how you can compare a computer terminal to someone actually
being in your home morena. If this is truly how you feel then you need
to consider establishing a real social life.

NICE TO SEE YOU KEVIN!!

Yada,yada next,I"m outta here.

gold membership... and they invite, and we invite...

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Oh my gosh, the light in my brain is finally ON

See, many of us were INVITED here by friends.

And why were we invited?

To get the gold membership thingie





Now I understand

i am bound to fumble whereever I type...lol

joanie, your' gonna get it.

I invited close loves... I also explained about the gold part as folks
were asking about smilies and other stuff...