I'll take a LIIT .. thanks a bunch

your welcome

Actually, it is Pats. We do not enforce it heavily, because we wish to exclude no one. My point was, if you want to be popular...feeling sorry for yourself, and projecting it upon others, is not well received.

WHINEY is soooo like 90's

im the happiest drunk you will know! good night minglers! love you all!!

Z, I have read your posts for a long time, and you are wise well beyond your years (a compliment not to be taken lightly, especially considering the source). In fact, I was actually startled when I finally found out your age. Please don't think this is directed at you, because it isn't. It's just directed at the public at large as a general post.

I cannot speak for everyone, but as far as I, myself, am concerned, it's a completely ridiculous notion for me to be "upbeat" all the time. I never have and never will pretend to be Pollyanna. Being a seasoned veteran of forum boards myself, I can relate to others who have seen the same threads over and over, time and time again, like the song on the jukebox or radio that gets WAY overplayed. Granted, I realize to a new person who doesn't know any better that they probably don't know how often that thread has been done, and that's not their fault, while many veterans are also to blame to a certain extent for our snarky remarks....but can you really blame us? Even your favorite song gets old after hearing it for the 87,935th time. Personally, I simply cannot be Mr. Positive Attitude all the time. I just can't bring myself to do it. It would be lying, not only to others, but mainly to myself. To thine own self be true.

Nothing against the newbies, as we were ALL newbies at some point. However, it might be more beneficial to new people to take some time and actually do some reading of older material, a bit of research to see if there's been any mention before of something they'd care to discuss. I'm not talking about a full, in-depth analysis of every single thread, but at least take a day or two to just browse through, read other threads, read current threads, get a feel for who these people are, what they talk about, how they react, etc. Diving in headfirst is not always the best course of action. Sometimes it is, other times....not so much.

Anything anyone does in life (regardless of what it is) can be summed up in one, single, 5-letter word....

T-H-I-N-K

Lee hit it right on the head at the very beginning of this thread. It's a lack of imagination for the most part.

Nicely put Keith .. and I agree. Altho I have to say some of the tongue-in-cheek comments ARE said in F-U-N anyway, so sometimes the readers are the ones with the negative attitudes about them when reading them if that makes sense. IE .. they aren't being grouchy as much as just being facetious
Like you may respond to a post and be cynical, but it's a FUNNY cynical and makes me laugh, so all is well

ie .. LIGHTEN UP M2 PLEEEEEEEEEASE!!

I thought it was because I've noticed kojack closed one for that reason. Pity threads would keep you guys busy

I designate them as "Pity Threads" and "General Ridicule". I keep a detailed log here.

geesh isn't THAT the truth Pats .. WHY WHY WHY "MEEEEEEEEEEEEEEE" *sigh*

My question is "Why NOT you?"

You must have worn out keys then girlfriend, cuz there are a LOT

Sometimes whiney people have a purpose, like playing a victim in movies: No, please don't shoot "why me"

whiney has a purpose?

Thanks, Judy. I realize that most times, I make a lot of smartass comments (tongue-in-cheek), and generally just goof off a lot. I have a rather warped, cynical sense of humor, combined with a quick (sometimes sharp) tongue and a sarcastic wit. Many people tend to not understand me, unless they know me on a personal level (like yourself). Maybe it's a Wisconsin thing, I dunno. By the same token, I have a lot more depth to me than a lot of people would like to give me credit for. That part doesn't bother me. It's like, "if you do too good of a job, they want you to do it like that all the time," so I'd rather just "play dumb".

Now....considering the fact that most folks don't quite know how to take me, they may get the impression that my remarks are personal attacks on them. That's not ALWAYS the case (although, I will admit sometimes it is). Yes, I can come across as an ass, but I'm really not as completely insensitive as I portray (you know this, as you know me personally). I won't make excuses for my personal dichotomy, but neither will I apologize for it. It's all part of my personal composite. It's who I am. Outspoken, abrasive, opinionated, non-conformist, anti-politically correct....all this and much more.

Basically, for the newbies, it almost comes down to, "If you wanna run with the big dogs, you gotta stop poopin' like a puppy." This is NOT to say that any one "group" runs the site, but Common Sense is key when joining a site like this. Don't come on expecting this to be a sex site, 'cause it ain't. Don't come on here expecting this to be the Boyfriend/Girlfriend Store, 'cause it ain't. Don't expect this to be MySpace or Facebook, 'cause it SURELY ain't! We're all supposed to (allegedly) be adults here. Unfortunately, many people believe that just because they've reached the age of 18, they're an adult. Personally, I can't really understand how so many folks can't wrap their head around a simple concept as being friends first, work on a relationship after getting to know someone. That isn't done in the real world, why should anyone expect it to be any different here?

Anyway, this has gone way off on a goofy tangent, so I'm just gonna shut up now.

*But I'm still gonna continue with my one-liners and zingers.*

Totally agree. The biggest thing about this site IS the forums. We are a community. When someone comes in to that they need to recognize we already know each other and even tho we LOVE to include newbies, it takes time. Just like in real life. Same exact concept.

Whining about the site is not going to get them anywhere but in everyone's bad graces. It's a GREAT place to get to know people. So ya ................ a need to "Man up". Period. (I love your choice of words like the cereal commercial once had .. "If you wanna run with the big dogs, you gotta stop poopin' like a puppy.") .. well they didn't have the poop part


UHHHHHHHHHH ALL said in a HAPPY HAPPY attitude of COURSE

i got the purrfect song for this


"Poor, Poor Pitiful Me"

Well, I lay my head on the railroad track
Waitin' on the "double e"
But the train don't run through here no more
Poor, poor pitiful me!

[Chorus]

Poor, poor pitiful me!
Poor, poor pitiful me!
Oh, these boys won't let me be
Lord have mercy on me!
Woe, woe is me!

Well, I met a man out in Hollywood
And I ain't namin' names
But he really worked me over good
Just like Jesse James

Yes, he really worked me over good
He was a credit to his gender
He put me through some changes
Lord, sorta like a waring blender

[Repeat Chorus]

Well, I met a boy in the Vieux-Carres
Down in Yokahoma
He picked me up and he threw me down
Sayin', "please don't hurt me, mama"

[Repeat Chorus]

Poor, poor pitiful me!
Poor, poor pitiful me...

LMFAO



See 'z' we laugh all the time ..

I understand that no one can be upbeat all the time and we all have had issues in the past and at times are working through another issue. But to comment about what is going on in ones life and to drag the issue through the mud to get all the pity one can is two different things.

I feel for those that have been done wrong I've been there had it done and got past it. Which is what we must all do within life to move on we can’t just live in the past all the time we must deal with it and move on.

There is no one here that has not been hurt at one time or other. But what gets me are the select few that every post they make is a oh me oh my post as if no one but them have it bad.

You know it is the ones that are able to deal with the issues that come around and how they deal with them those are the ones that will catch my attention. We must learn in life as we go on and learn to handle the situations put before us. That is how others perceive us within our words followed by our actions.

The ones that whine all the time and never seem to do anything about the issues I just stay away from those. It is the ones that actually put and effort into what is before them that attracts my attention.

Those that don't let life get them down over what has been dealt to them instead they do the best that they can and move on. Those are the kind of people that draws others towards them not the whining ones those just push others away from them.

Because only an insane person would post:

"Why do I have so many dates?"

"Why does everyone like me?"

"Why is this place so busy and interesting?"

Why an Where...An all about,So what?
An with age comes comfort for yourself!