Topic: Question for the "Nice Guys"
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Mon 01/12/09 07:26 PM
Edited by Citizen_Joe on Mon 01/12/09 07:26 PM

Have you ever outright told the girl that you are "trying to win" that you are a nice guy and not like all the others?

I've been talking to someone who said this to me and it's not something that I've had said to me before. He also went on to explain why he is different from "the others".

Whats your take on this? Could he be legit or just full of $hit?


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Mon 01/12/09 07:40 PM

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Mon 01/12/09 07:42 PM

I never explain , I let them see for themselves.


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Words are cheap...

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Mon 01/12/09 07:44 PM


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Mon 01/12/09 08:26 PM


Have you ever outright told the girl that you are "trying to win" that you are a nice guy and not like all the others?

I've been talking to someone who said this to me and it's not something that I've had said to me before. He also went on to explain why he is different from "the others".

Whats your take on this? Could he be legit or just full of $hit?


K, I know I'm not a guy but...what the hell does "trying to win" mean? win what? do what with the victory? I dunno watch the words..most truly nice guys (that don't have some sort of "walk away slowly/ run, now aspects to themselves) point is the good ones don't have to tell you they are nice.


" Nice guys always lose "...this guy is " trying to win " to disprove that theory.

One thing to keep in mind Amanda is that almost every guy will try to say exactly what he thinks you want to hear.

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Mon 01/12/09 08:32 PM
Every single man I have dated since my first boyfriend has given me that line.

Was it real?


What do you think. ohwell

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Mon 01/12/09 08:32 PM



Have you ever outright told the girl that you are "trying to win" that you are a nice guy and not like all the others?

I've been talking to someone who said this to me and it's not something that I've had said to me before. He also went on to explain why he is different from "the others".

Whats your take on this? Could he be legit or just full of $hit?


K, I know I'm not a guy but...what the hell does "trying to win" mean? win what? do what with the victory? I dunno watch the words..most truly nice guys (that don't have some sort of "walk away slowly/ run, now aspects to themselves) point is the good ones don't have to tell you they are nice.


" Nice guys always lose "...this guy is " trying to win " to disprove that theory.

One thing to keep in mind Amanda is that almost every guy will try to say exactly what he thinks you want to hear.


so when you find the one that just says what he thinks..let the world know...It can get soooo boring hearing what "they think you want to hear"

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Mon 01/12/09 08:33 PM
trust your instincts, some of us are truly rare gems, others invent "nice" personas

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Mon 01/12/09 08:33 PM

I never explain , I let them see for themselves.

Actions, not words. drinker

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Mon 01/12/09 08:34 PM

One thing to keep in mind Amanda is that almost every guy will try to say exactly what he thinks you want to hear.

Good tip.

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Mon 01/12/09 08:35 PM
what do you think? thats what matters

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Mon 01/12/09 08:36 PM




Have you ever outright told the girl that you are "trying to win" that you are a nice guy and not like all the others?

I've been talking to someone who said this to me and it's not something that I've had said to me before. He also went on to explain why he is different from "the others".

Whats your take on this? Could he be legit or just full of $hit?


K, I know I'm not a guy but...what the hell does "trying to win" mean? win what? do what with the victory? I dunno watch the words..most truly nice guys (that don't have some sort of "walk away slowly/ run, now aspects to themselves) point is the good ones don't have to tell you they are nice.


" Nice guys always lose "...this guy is " trying to win " to disprove that theory.

One thing to keep in mind Amanda is that almost every guy will try to say exactly what he thinks you want to hear.


so when you find the one that just says what he thinks..let the world know...It can get soooo boring hearing what "they think you want to hear"


The thing about that is....there really ARE guys out there that are different ( i.e. Not exactly like most " normal " guys ).

The problem with just saying " what he thinks " is....doing that could cause him to live a life in the doghouse. Most guys are smart enough that, when a woman asks " does this make me look fat? ", he is NOT going to say what he thinks. He's gonna say what he knows she wants to hear.

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Mon 01/12/09 08:38 PM




Have you ever outright told the girl that you are "trying to win" that you are a nice guy and not like all the others?

I've been talking to someone who said this to me and it's not something that I've had said to me before. He also went on to explain why he is different from "the others".

Whats your take on this? Could he be legit or just full of $hit?


K, I know I'm not a guy but...what the hell does "trying to win" mean? win what? do what with the victory? I dunno watch the words..most truly nice guys (that don't have some sort of "walk away slowly/ run, now aspects to themselves) point is the good ones don't have to tell you they are nice.


" Nice guys always lose "...this guy is " trying to win " to disprove that theory.

One thing to keep in mind Amanda is that almost every guy will try to say exactly what he thinks you want to hear.


so when you find the one that just says what he thinks..let the world know...It can get soooo boring hearing what "they think you want to hear"


..is that like him just talking and talking away about everything on his mind, to the point where i may need to say "open mouth insert foot"?

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Mon 01/12/09 08:44 PM
It's like the guy who say they have a big pecker, 80% don't. Try a little four play and find out. Meaning stand back and get to know himbiggrin

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Mon 01/12/09 08:54 PM
..is that like him just talking and talking away about everything on his mind, to the point where i may need to say "open mouth insert foot"?


not at all, men shouldn't babble like women on a shopping spree...thats a totally different issue


The thing about that is....there really ARE guys out there that are different ( i.e. Not exactly like most " normal " guys ).

The problem with just saying " what he thinks " is....doing that could cause him to live a life in the doghouse. Most guys are smart enough that, when a woman asks " does this make me look fat? ", he is NOT going to say what he thinks. He's gonna say what he knows she wants to hear.


Being told I'm fat would probably get a pillow thrown at said person, but I'm not big on throwin' anybody in the dog house..its really not worth it, hearing what I want is good sometimes... other times I'm ok being told I'm interrupting the football game could I go get some beer....chances are I forgot there was a game on...

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Mon 01/12/09 08:55 PM

It's like the guy who say they have a big pecker, 80% don't. Try a little four play and find out. Meaning stand back and get to know himbiggrin


That sounds good :) We set a dinner date for Saturday, what kinds of things should I ask him, or should i just sit back and see what he does?

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Mon 01/12/09 09:01 PM
just sit back. watch the thing he dose.he open doors for you...you know thing like that. look for thing he dose not says. good luckbiggrin

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Mon 01/12/09 09:02 PM
flowers Thanks for all your advice guys!! :thumbsup:

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Mon 01/12/09 09:10 PM

Have you ever outright told the girl that you are "trying to win" that you are a nice guy and not like all the others?

I've been talking to someone who said this to me and it's not something that I've had said to me before. He also went on to explain why he is different from "the others".

Whats your take on this? Could he be legit or just full of $hit?


I've never told the girl I've been trying to date that I'm a "nice guy", nor have I ever told them that I'm "not like all the others". It would be pretentious on my part to try to present myself in such a matter to anyone.

What HAS happened is that most of the "ladies" have often said that about me, which can have either good or bad results (hint- mostly bad).

Chances are that he's trying to lull you into a false sense of security over his "niceness".

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Mon 01/12/09 09:12 PM
From me (a nice guy) Trust him