Do you think you should cut ties with an ex if you are in a serious relationship? Even if it's just a once in awhile thing to talk and you have no children together, should you put an end to that out of respect for your significant other?

if its causing issues perhaps its best

If your still civil to each other and get along then no. It's up to upit "other" to trust you and understand. The "other" can't pick your friends.

Well they cn, but its not right.

Depends on the relationship with the ex. if it is more than just friends then cutting ties would be the appropriate thing to do

put yourself in his shoes,how would you feel If he was chattin with his ex,would it bother you>?

I think each situation is different. I am good friends with most of my EX's to this day, I also have no problem with anyone I am dating to be good friends with their EX's as long as the boundaries are set and honored.

I also don't believe in a lot of the jealousy issues that a lot of people seem to.

there is nothing wrong with remaining friends...some people make better friends than lovers..

This doesn't apply to me. It is something a friend of mine is going through..i figured i would get some feedback...

I agree that every situation is different. And people shouldn't have to stop everything cuz they found love, if that's the case it isn't real love. I do think it should be kept at a minimum if you have no serious ties with that person. If they are invading in your life with your new bf/gf then it should be stopped. But all in all if there is trust and respect in your relationship then the world shouldn't stop spinning and you shouldn't try to change things unless it is affecting you or your relationship in a bad way.

YES,,,,,very fast..as your histories have already told you that it is over. So your life has to go forward.

If they got your back screw it i'd still be there friend,

that shows there insecure a little bit,

i mean, Who knows how long this new person will be around,

friend is a friend,

blood is thicker then water

Why should a friendship end? That is a loaded question sort of!

I believe in going foward but if they are just friends now and thats it then nobody has a right to change that.

isn't a relationship built on trust?

I think that people get too paranoid about their partner's exes. I got tricked into going out to eat with my ex from over three years ago just last week and I have no feelings for her whatsoever. But it was just dinner, and I was polite and didn't rip into her for anything that I could have and when the night was over I left and got a little peace of mind.

If there are no kids involved, I'm curious as to why you would move on without moving on (so to speak) in terms of wanting to maintain some level of relationship? Aren't they an ex for a reason?

I think its for the best. Its not fair to your new love interest to carry on like that. The past is the past.

are we talking a "friend" here or a acquaintance, ?

cuz friends are friends for life.. in my eyes anyway

This is why i like posting topics like this....so many different opinions, it helps you see situations in different ways

From what i know, his ex and him were together for 4 years when they were younger and it just didn't work, but they are civil and speak once in awhile on the computer i believe.

I totally agree that friends can be friends for life...

But one of the reasons people tend to be so careful about getting involved with a friend is that if the relationship doesn't work out, the friendship is usually impacted. If you've been romantically involved the friendship you had before will be different if it exists at all after a break-up.

That's why I wonder if it isn't better to just move forward with the new relationship.