Being civil is fine...I thought you meant sort of pursuing a friendship. That's a different thing.

i dont think they should cut ties unless theres a problem like if she is trying to lour him back, then yeah they should cut ties. but if they're just talking like casual then its probly fine.

In my original post i said "even if it's just a once in awhile thing..

You have no way of knowing how often it is on the computer.

sure you do put a key logger

Well i'm going on what my friend said, she told me that was his answer. And they are together during all their free time and she said the girl never calls or anything. She just might IM him or send a myspace message once in awhile...

Sure if you are an obsessive compulsive. The point being is you cant know for certain if its restricted to online contact. It might be messager services and also emails.

At this point, aren't you way past the "trust required" place in a relationship???

I was being a smart ass

i would never do that....

it is what it is, if it's gonna happen,

it's gonna happen,

at that point you gotta make a choice,

YOU???

Hi Jamie82,

I would agree with misstina. "IF it is causing issues it is probably best."

However, It depends on the people. Are you close? Good friends? have you been through a lot? are you terminating the friendship for no other reason that Jealousy? Is your X a good, honest, decent person? Are YOU a good, honest, decent person? You new man....is it a serious thing?

The thing is, there are a whole array of circumstances that play factors. I think ultimately if it is a FRIENDSHIP...a TRUE friendship then, yes it's ok. Would your life be better with or without him in it? Weigh "it" I guess.

If you are just hanging on cuz you still have some sort of feelings then you should rethink your NEW relationship.

Either way, Good Luck Jamie82!!!! Hope it works out for all of you.

It depends. A few of the things it depends on is whether my significant other is trustworthy, honest, and faithful. I need these things from them to be able to RESPECT them in the first place.

and whatever is done a computer it can be traced, even down to a specific time frame

believe me i went to school for 4 years for computer science,

i may not have graduated but i did learn alot

btw your desk is kind of messy

I never said it couldnt be. But do you really want to feel the NEED to do that?

Or anything else, for that matter. Only the parties involved know for sure. They will disclose of it what they both choose to, imho.

This got out of hand...*sigh*

And to state it once again this isn't about me, it's an issue a friend has and i was giving her my advice. And then i decided to make a thread about it to see other people's oulook thanks.

Yes. Good observation.

do not cut the ties if the x is sending u money.

Sorry...