The important people in my life know me and understand when I need to go underground for a time.

Yes it is mean, I agree, you should let your s/o know you need some time for a mental break from whatever problem. Situations change people, and if others truly care, they need to understand and be ready to be supportive. Those are the times you find out if you should really be with somebody. Having to deal with something real.

Don't shut yourself off from people for too long. It'll become a habit and you can end up a virtual recluse. I was too confused about my situation and afraid that the people closest to me wouldn't support my decisions. I figured better to escape and close myself off than disappoint them so I did. I was afraid to do anything because I didn't want to do the wrong thing. Finally figured out I had to do something even if ended up being wrong. Turned out I made the right decisions but I lost my friends and family in the process trying to prove I could do it all alone. Just some friendly advice...take the time you need for yourself but don't shut out the people that love you. Alone is not the place you want to reside in permanently.

Pretty much my Boyfriend of 3 years did that to me.. thats why i am here : ) hahaha

sometimes you have to have alone time. It's good for the soul...

i went through a really rough time and decided the best solution was to drink alot and party all the time, which just made things worse. finally i came clean with the people that really care about me, got out of the gutter, and started my own business. i quit drinking and you find out who your friends are when you change certain areas of your life. i think everyone needs their space at different points in their lives but too much space for too long of time can destroy a person and make them feel really depressed. meeting new people is a great way to cure being lonely.

Been there done that, recently. I closed ranks on my circle of real friends, and kicked the frenemies to the curb, metaphorically. For a period of time, fears caused me to isolate completely but in the end, I just moved forward. It's more of a survival instinct, really. I also ended up changing my life's priorities dramatically and decided to set a few goals before going into my next relationship, while still being open to new friendships. Probably the first and most important goal is to enjoy life while I'm pursuing those goals. It occurred to me that if what I was doing wasn't working that I should try something different.

So, instead of trying to find someone to make a complete family with, I've opted to first make a family (adopt), and eventually find a woman that fits into my family. The means to an end for that goal involve enough financial success to afford to hire lower life forms (lawyers) to do my fighting for me, which means about 6 months of planning. Proving mental competency will likely be the biggest challenge and will likely involve appeals but I see it as a much better plan than the one I've had for the past couple of decades that proved to be fruitless.

yea.

i rode it out and then forced myself out of hiding. i had to. it was either that or let the depression win. ya know? i called my sisters for help.

im trying really hard not to do just this at this exact moment.
but its pretty much the only thing i know how to do when things get this bad..
*shrug* we shall see.

Often.

Depression

The only way out of it is through it (the sadness and mourning).

living it with someone I care about ... don't understand it ... and it is heartbreaking ...



Izzie ... let the people who love you support you sweetheart ... just like you do for them

"non ci sono rose senza spine"

No. I keep things to a minimum to avoid that.

(((art))
im not sure how many of those people there are anymore.

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=8VmRNr9QbxQ&feature=related

Lean on Me
Bill Withers

Sometimes in our lives we all have pain
We all have sorrow
But if we are wise
We know that there's always tomorrow

Lean on me, when you're not strong
And I'll be your friend
I'll help you carry on
For it won't be long
'Til I'm gonna need
Somebody to lean on

Please swallow your pride
If I have things you need to borrow
For no one can fill those of your needs
That you don't let show

Lean on me, when you're not strong
And I'll be your friend
I'll help you carry on
For it won't be long
'Til I'm gonna need
Somebody to lean on

If there is a load you have to bear
That you can't carry
I'm right up the road
I'll share your load
If you just call me

So just call on me brother, when you need a hand
We all need somebody to lean on
I just might have a problem that you'd understand
We all need somebody to lean on

Lean on me when you're not strong
And I'll be your friend
I'll help you carry on
For it won't be long
Till I'm gonna need
Somebody to lean on

Lean on me...

I am the queen of shutting down. The people who truly love me find a way in and bring me back. You never really realize how much you need people until you can't see the forest for the trees.

So true, so true...

I get those "spines" off by taking time for myself; a walk through my favorite museum, listening to my favorite tunes, and then relaxing in a warm bubble bath and weep. And then call my best friend.

Listening to this helps me:

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=w2XcqKaXDIY&feature=channel

Yeah.. after my mom passed away I shut down and shut a lot of people out of my life. I may regret it sometime but I have'nt as of yet.

we all go through a period of being emotionally unavailable,its just the ones who make it permanent that hurt themselves and others.it will pass with time though