NO offence but that would never be an option for me. and the point of the thread wasn't for attention. I realy wanted to know where some people get off trying to tell someone else how they should be. 9 times out of 10 they don't even have their own $hit straight, why are they trying to tell other people how to live?

I don't try to tell people how to live. I'll give examples of my life and experiances and then let them make their own decision. But only if they ask. If they don't its none of my business.

So I got told by my father today that I need to work on my people skills.

My question is; Why the hell do I eed to be worried about what other people think of me?

Did he mean how you relate to people, or how you understand and conceive people or how you convey your thoughts to people, or did he mean how you interprit others?

There are alot of venues to "people skills"

Personally if you don't care what people think, then don't worry about it, however the fact that you asked the question shows that you do indeed care what people think about you.

The whole thing started because we went out of town to pick up some part and stopped at a gas station to get a couple of sodas. When I went in there was a guy getting loud with a cashier working there. I went about my business, and got my sodas then got in line behind the guy.

we'll he got very loud the slapped the cashier so I tapped him on the sholder and toldhim to try that with me. when he turned I kicked him in the nuts. While he was on the floor I asked him if he liked that, then I walked out.

thats when I got told I needed to work on my people skills.

I don't see anything wrong with this....

but then I'm demented like that.

NO offence but that would never be an option for me. and the point of the thread wasn't for attention. I realy wanted to know where some people get off trying to tell someone else how they should be. 9 times out of 10 they don't even have their own $hit straight, why are they trying to tell other people how to live?

I don't try to tell people how to live. I'll give examples of my life and experiances and then let them make their own decision. But only if they ask. If they don't its none of my business.

The whole thing started because we went out of town to pick up some part and stopped at a gas station to get a couple of sodas. When I went in there was a guy getting loud with a cashier working there. I went about my business, and got my sodas then got in line behind the guy.

we'll he got very loud the slapped the cashier so I tapped him on the sholder and toldhim to try that with me. when he turned I kicked him in the nuts. While he was on the floor I asked him if he liked that, then I walked out.

thats when I got told I needed to work on my people skills.

Well, I'm glad things are good between your dad and you.

You're right in that when people tell others how they should live their life, usually it's BS. People *should* spend more time getting their own **** straight, rather than worrying about others.

Sometimes though, that person can have a point...and that person doesn't have to have his **** together to give advice either. I can be a bum on the streets, doping up just so I don't feel the cold, and I can still know enough about something to make a good point.


But all of this isn't the question you posted...you were asking if other people's opinions should matter to you. Well, here's my short answer:

Listen to the opinion if it doesn't take too much time. If it's good advice, then okay, if it's not, then **** it.

If you're talking about if you should care if people like you or not then:

Don't waste too much of your time on it, but it can be worth while to have people who like you.

There's your answer.

NO offence but that would never be an option for me. and the point of the thread wasn't for attention. I realy wanted to know where some people get off trying to tell someone else how they should be. 9 times out of 10 they don't even have their own $hit straight, why are they trying to tell other people how to live?

I don't try to tell people how to live. I'll give examples of my life and experiances and then let them make their own decision. But only if they ask. If they don't its none of my business.

Your father could have told you that because he cared and wanted the best for you. He probably wants to see you happy and socializing more.

I think that you're protesting so much because he hurt your feelings by telling you that you are lacking in this area.

I know I'm lacking in this area, and I'm good with that.

again......

<--------------Not a people person.

Then why are you on here looking for another "people"?

who said I was?

Your profile: "Looking for woman for relationship".

<----------Not a people person.

I try very hard to stay away from most people.

I just bought a pool table to putin my office so I don't have to go out to play pool anymore.

Why are you here, interacting with people then?