I agree, so they use their vjay as a bait so they can catch the big fish

Sad as it may sound, yeah. Not me personally. I try to find the best of both worlds. Someone attractive physically(by my standards), intelligent, and if she happens to be good in bed that's like the cherry on top(no pun intended).

Maybe thats all they can get, Maybe they realy want you

I am looking for that same girl...alas! so far no luck!

That's what I'm thinking and the little head falls for it.. I think that Etrain had a poignant point as well...

Just my opinion. I wouuld'nt care what a woman did for a living doesnt matter at all. The money thing is tough you want to be generous but you dont want to be taken advantage of either. Kinda nice to provide for a woman makes you feel good. I figure just spend the money if they dont appreciate it or see you as a cash register then just move on. you can always get more money... when i say that im not saying pay their bills just you know i personally feel obligated to pay. Sometimes if a woman has too much going on in her life you wonder where you fit in. The other thing is ive been told "i dont need anything from a man im independent". This is great makes for a healthy relationship but it may come across as im not letting you get too close cause im not gonna get hurt. Hope that helps

For them to mess with these girls is a turn off for me, so they better change tactics then! Ha ha

Are they doing it just to not be alone and that there is not chance of oh dare I say it COMMITMENT

why would they change tactics for you???....you said you are not interested in the guy...so you should be happy for him if he is happy! as a friend

The guys I talk about are good guys though. They make good money. The have what the want and need in life. They have dated much prettier and level headed woman in the past. These women now are the type, I don't mean to be rude, but the type you see walking all crazy at 4am from some club/bar wasted off their butts and shouting in the streets, make up smeared. Grant it they are nice and decent when not drunk but I meet them more drunk and acting like baboons more than anything else.

As for the money. They beg it out of my friends. One of the girls has no job. They both have children. All I hear them say ever is... please buy me a drink, or round of shots, take me here or there, pick me up food, buy this buy that. I know at times it bothers my friends because I see it on their face but they still give in!!!

I meant it as joking response to what Solitary said...

^^read above a few lines^^

IDK why they are doing it... they have had a run of the pick from the start... they are just choosing this kind these days... maybe the girls are just easy lays who knows...

I don't know. I really think that guys are intimidated by strong women.

I am busy but I still make time for a significant other, when I have one in my life. Oh well! Their loss!

Boy then im at a loss then..... lol i dont understand that at all and it doesnt suprise me it turns you off. I have a co-worker very nice, pretty and i was at one of those social drinking events after work and you know things where going really well between us for a minute but i know who else shes been with and it just ruined it for me. The guy she had a realtionship with was one of those braggers you know what i mean so its like the whole company knows. Just off topic for a second i think i work at a nympho factory.. lol they must be desperate has to be it.

flavor of the month maybe

Tell me about it. I am guilty of passing people by knowing who they been with. It is not nice but hey it happens.

I am going to have a sit down with them and see why. I really don't think it is because they are desperate. Ha ha.

Don't know why I even care who they date. Just bothers me that they have, well had, higher standards before and would totally crack on girls like these in the past. When we are all out too I feel like outsiders might take me to be like them.

Daddy always said.. Sleep with dogs you will wake up with fleas.

Ok, call me an a$$ for this don't care, but i'm going to be straight up...you may not have a thing for all of these guys...but you want/have at least one that you are/have been intrested in who's in this situation otherwise it wouldn't bother you. and you incriminated yourself by saying 'we are not each other's type' instead of 'they are not my type'. You see yourself as better then these other girls and wonder why they are getting men when they have nothing going for them....

well here's why, one flattery....if they as you said 'googooogahhing' over these guys one reason. Two could be a physical thing as well, guys liked to have their ego stroked..and having 'arm candy' is one way to do it. then as a previous poster said a 'rescue' complex...most guys want to be the provider, the 'man' and they don't want to feel inferior to a woman..all though i admit in order to feel this way some men go WAY below a healthy level and choose rather to be used. and last but not least she could be the bomb in bed...of course these are only my opinions...noone can truly be stereotyped for we are all individuals.

Maybe they have been burned by the higher class women in the past, now their self-esteem is lower and are going after the easy catch.

Because they party and put out

I will agree with the part that I am better with than this girls in a heartbeat. No issue with that and I don't care how that makes me look.
We (the boys and I) have been freinds for years, some only months, and we are just friends. We will be just friends.
I am not wondering why they are getting men. I am wondering why these men are dating them. Men who say they look for THIS and go out with THAT. That was the point of the post. Ha ha.



Ok so men like women who act like, or really do, need a provider. Men like women who are easily laid. Men like women who are inferior to them. Men like women who are not just easy lays but phenomenal in bed.


Gotcha thanks!