Ok simple question but i'll tell you why i'm asking.

tonight broke one of my rules and went out on a date with someone that is 21... 13 years younger. My normal standard is no less then 10, but she seemed nice and muture - ok fine she was also cute as hell...

Night started with me waiting an extra 30 minutes while she got ready (her mall trip with her friends went long lol.) no big deal wasn't on a time limit so figure whatever.
Next came the texting though dinner, which she informed me was just her friends asking questions about our date... ok but 50+ texts? Put the blackberry down for a sec.. PLEASE.
Then the movie.. Texting continues but she finally wants to get to know me better in the middle of the movie... so think texting / talking- then came the popcorn fun. For some reason ( to be cute i guess) she kept throwing popcorn at random people and the movie screen- not once but a dozen times or more.
Lastly end of the night and i get the.. so you coming back to my place to hang out? Needless to say i'm home early. Even cute has its limits.

So.. is it the age thing or just me finding out she is not as mature as i thought she was.
Lately dates have been with people 24-31 and havn't ever had these problems.

Stick to 10 year buffer?
Or try again and take my chances?

You're .....34? anywho the age gap does make a big difference. Life experience is one of the biggest factors. 10 years might be pushing it.

i stick to abt 8 years.. but its negotioable... but my dad is only 36 so... no one over 30.

You date 11 year olds? sick..

Well...I have to say that if a woman is within 7 years of my daughter's age....I'm not very likely to date her.

Havn't had a problem with 10.. but seems to have had one tonight with 13. Yes i'm 34.

math is hard.

You are so going to jail... so baddddd...

older i dont date younger silly.

yeah I'd say that too...

Really...the only thing you can actually do is go with what you are comfortable with. If you run into another one that is 13 years younger, but it would seem that she is pretty mature....what's the harm?

If this last experience has made you uncomfortable with dating someone that young again...stick with the ten year maximum.

you guys suck...

mmmhmm...

Tell it to the judge!

Can't imagine locking it down to a 5 year buffer, even though most of my friends do... meh guess i'll stick to 10 for now. Live and learn i guess.

yeah...sorry bout that.

had similar experience. I would have left after dinner 50+texts, no way!!

Especially during a movie. Draw the line.

"So does an Age GAP really matter?"


When I was 21, I thought that 34 yr. old men were creepy.

10 years is the max

Yeah if i have to spend half the date teaching you manners and feeling like your dad - i would feel creepy also.

Age seems to be more of an issue at certain stages of life. The 20's is definitely one of them.

Of course, there's the 'men mature slower' bit that leads to a lot of women dating older men.

Obviously, you found out where the line in the sand gets drawn for you. Granted, there might be exceptions, and you have to take those on a case-by-case basis. For instance, when I was 21 I had started my second company, had my first child, my own house and vehicles, etc.. I had practically nothing in common with people my age, so I dated older men.

You might find a 21 year old living a life where she's had to grow up fast, someone that isn't into the normal 'kiddie' crap and it wouldn't hurt to give it a chance. Overall though, I'd say it's safe to draw a line where you feel comfortable.