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Ok, long story short, I met a guy on the site and we've been talking on the phone every night for the past 2 weeks or so...He has asked me when we can hang out. I feel very comfortable talking to him and all that, but I am not sure if i'm ready to see him. It's not because I dont want to, rather, its because I have no confidence in myself, basically. I just don't know if seeing him will ruin everything. I feel that if he saw me in person he'd never want to talk to me again..But then at the same time, i know this phone friendship wouldn't go anywhere anyway..
What should I do?? please advise. |
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Ok, long story short, I met a guy on the site and we've been talking on the phone every night for the past 2 weeks or so...He has asked me when we can hang out. I feel very comfortable talking to him and all that, but I am not sure if i'm ready to see him. It's not because I dont want to, rather, its because I have no confidence in myself, basically. I just don't know if seeing him will ruin everything. I feel that if he saw me in person he'd never want to talk to me again..But then at the same time, i know this phone friendship wouldn't go anywhere anyway.. What should I do?? please advise. have a shoot of tequila and tell him; ;LET'S DO IT ! 
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getting over that initial scary meeting is a hard thing to do. some people say just sitting down for coffee and getting to know the person is the way to go? just a short introductory kinda thing? but if you two are already talking on the phone that much i say give it a shot
 look at the 2 choices. take a chance and hope for love? or simply let it go nowhere before it begins. GOOD LUCK!
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If you feel that the both of you have been HONEST with each other......I think you should meet.
You are a striking young Lady, Pump yourself up and go for it!!!!!! JMO..... 
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getting over that initial scary meeting is a hard thing to do. some people say just sitting down for coffee and getting to know the person is the way to go? just a short introductory kinda thing? but if you two are already talking on the phone that much i say give it a shot look at the 2 choices. take a chance and hope for love? or simply let it go nowhere before it begins. GOOD LUCK! yeah thats the thing...I am just really scared about the first meeting...I know i should just give it a shot but I'm really nervous about how it'd turn out... |
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Well the truth is....not to sound like an asshole, but you have to work through your shyness and just go meet him. If you dont, you will never have know what it could have been. Then...you'll sit here and complain about not having someone special when possibly it was sitting right in your lap.
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If you feel that the both of you have been HONEST with each other......I think you should meet. You are a striking young Lady, Pump yourself up and go for it!!!!!! JMO..... I've been really honest about everything I tell him, and I feel that he seems to be an honest person too...Pictures of me are real and nothing I'd told him was not true..but I always feel like i look slightly better in pictures....or rather, I always pick pictures of myself that look better to post...Not that I think i'm pretty or anything, but i'm just really worried that seeing me in person would REALLY disappoint him...idk.... |
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1. What's the worst that can happen if you DON'T meet him?
2. What's the worst that can happen if you DO meet him? Which will be easier to live with? |
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If you feel that the both of you have been HONEST with each other......I think you should meet. You are a striking young Lady, Pump yourself up and go for it!!!!!! JMO..... I've been really honest about everything I tell him, and I feel that he seems to be an honest person too...Pictures of me are real and nothing I'd told him was not true..but I always feel like i look slightly better in pictures....or rather, I always pick pictures of myself that look better to post...Not that I think i'm pretty or anything, but i'm just really worried that seeing me in person would REALLY disappoint him...idk.... If he sees you, and is disappointed.....He's a FOOL!!!!! and you dont need him anyway..... |
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yve, JUST DO IT. I have alot of the same issues for probably different reasons and I am happy to say I have actually started dating. You will win some and lose some. The winning is worth it. Good Luck and start living.
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Ok, long story short, I met a guy on the site and we've been talking on the phone every night for the past 2 weeks or so...He has asked me when we can hang out. I feel very comfortable talking to him and all that, but I am not sure if i'm ready to see him. It's not because I dont want to, rather, its because I have no confidence in myself, basically. I just don't know if seeing him will ruin everything. I feel that if he saw me in person he'd never want to talk to me again..But then at the same time, i know this phone friendship wouldn't go anywhere anyway.. What should I do?? please advise. i'm kind of the same way... but you just have to go for it... if someone from here wants to meet me, i get all nervous, because, with all the stress of my recent situations, i gained a lot of weight... i'm working on it... but its on my mind... maybe my pictures make me look prettier than i really am... what if they're disgusted by me? but how will you know unless you try? maybe they'll think you're even more amazing... never know... |
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Ok, long story short, I met a guy on the site and we've been talking on the phone every night for the past 2 weeks or so...He has asked me when we can hang out. I feel very comfortable talking to him and all that, but I am not sure if i'm ready to see him. It's not because I dont want to, rather, its because I have no confidence in myself, basically. I just don't know if seeing him will ruin everything. I feel that if he saw me in person he'd never want to talk to me again..But then at the same time, i know this phone friendship wouldn't go anywhere anyway.. What should I do?? please advise. i'm kind of the same way... but you just have to go for it... if someone from here wants to meet me, i get all nervous, because, with all the stress of my recent situations, i gained a lot of weight... i'm working on it... but its on my mind... maybe my pictures make me look prettier than i really am... what if they're disgusted by me? but how will you know unless you try? maybe they'll think you're even more amazing... never know... Jesus, we are twins, seperated at birth. 
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If you've already been this honest with him, then just tell him what that you are nervous, i'm sure he is as well. then just go for it. And if he is disappointed it wasn't meant to be. There are plenty of fish in the sea, so go, but don't expect anything and just let it go naturally.
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Just do it... make it a short meeting for the first time... and just relax... be casual. You are beautiful, and besides you may be the disappointed one. Don't worry about living up to his expectaions... make sure he is up to yours. Good Luck!!!
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Tell him you will be nervous and that its because you want to make a great impression on him..Talking always relaxes the
moment when it does come. He will know your worry and you both will fall into laughter after your first five minutes together. Then all will be cool....   
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 "Courage is resistance to fear, mastery of fear- not absence of fear." 'Pudd n Head Wilson'
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Face your fear by not showing fear. Just because you're scared doesn't mean he has to know it. Pretend you are fearless, look in the mirror before you leave the house, tell yourself you are beautiful, snap twice, do the chicken neck and walk out the door, lol.
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tell him how you feel and stand your ground if he doesnt get it then its probably not a good thing you have the choice to be you are w/ no exceptions you are who you are !LOL GDave
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