...jerks, liars, cheats, headcases, gold-diggers, players, and on and on....but that's all we hear about. I know from posting/reading in the forums there ARE good folks around, why can't we find one another? Are we too picky or too set in our ways to look beyond the familiar? Have your dating experiences made you overly cautious to the point that you are unwilling to take a chance anymore? I don't get it, really. With the number of folks on this site alone, there should be a lot fewer folks single and miserable in this world.

I think sometimes it's just easier being single

Yeah, you're probably right about that...but it sure isn't as much as fun.

I think, maybe they should stop relying on just a website to find somebody. They should go out into public sometimes and mix it up. Get some sun and have some fun.

You got that right, man.

I think some of us just like these forums! Not really lookin'.

I do both.

You hit the nail on the head

You have a point, but if you think about the number of people on this site alone, there should be more people hooking up than there are.. I just can't figure why there isn't.

yep

I have my fun in real life, out amongst the wide world of wonderful people.

I just come here to waste time and chill down from running the daily whirl-a-gig life.

Besides that, I just don't have the schitzpah or whatever to handle a relationship AND live a real life.

Okay, obvioulsy this isn't for those who are here to just hang the forums and meet some new friends. I'm talkin about folks who are lookin for a relationship and aren't. All we hear about are the losers. I wonder if our standards are too high or if these labels aren't being thrown around a bit too casually.

Not everyone appears online as they are in real life! So with that said, I take longer to see if someone is actually interested and if they are who they represent themselves to be!

Alot of guys flirting on the threads, but none emailing me!

After several tries on several sites as well as the real world, I finally found the one for me when I really wasn't even looking. I almost didn't even send that first message because I thought there was no way in hell she would give me the time of day. I'm damn glad I did now.

If I can find it, trust me it's out there for everyone.

Yeah, I don't get why? Are we our own worst enemy? No one seems willing or brave enough to take it to the next level.

Your right...and I think some of it has to with the fact that some people are to caught up in their own pitty party to try and really find someone.

I am who I am online and offline. So any one who acts differently has a bit of a problem.

I understand about taking time or a little longer in getting to know some one a bit better etc, but I'm not any different in person then online, I have no reason to be.

Unless your a killer and or want money ... then I might act a bit different towards you.

Ya know, I was wondering about this too...if we don't write to folks because we think we already know they won't give us the time of day or are out of our league?

No clue! Most of the email conversations that I get going... are b/c a guy looked at my profile... then I looked at his and emailed him asking why he didn't email? And if he was interested but too shy... then he would admit to liking my profile I dunno! I can't always be doing all the initating.

I think you're absolutely right about that!

Yeah, I don't always want to be the one who initiates things either. Guess, I'm a bit old-fashioned, but I still like it when the guy makes the first move.