Well I thought about this somemore last night and I think I have a few things that lead people into giving up and just hanging out.

1. The first thing people see when they join a dating site is the profile. I know that it was daunting to me, I don't have the best writing skills, nor am I grammarly perfect. So my first profile was a mess. That turned alot of people off. I do think some of the greatest people I have met had some pretty crappy profiles.

2. Next we are asked what are we are asked what are we seeking in a partner. Heck alot of us may not have that grocery list of the do's, I know I have a small list of do's and don'ts' but I would have a hard time articulating that to someone.

3. We meet so many people out here that are so jaded that they can't see the good people right in front of them. Like someone said this am on another thread. On the internet dating world you are guilty til proven innocent. That really rankles me, since that is a concept I can't wrap around. But if the majority feels this way isn't that like shooting yourself in the foot before the race.

4.Then the distance thing comes into play. I honestly believe alot of people won't take the chance and move across the country for a person. I know when I came out on the sites I had already thought this through I live on a small island in Ak chances are that most men aren't going to find employment here. I can do the relocating since I can find work pretty much anywhere. That is something people do alot Heck I have seen where some people won't even date someone that is over 2 hours away. I scratch my head at that one.

4. I think alot of people haven't worked on themselves yet, hence you get the negativity out on some sites,

5. On the internet I am and always will be amazed at the in a hurry concept out here. I have always said that I will be friends before I ever enter into a relationship. Yet on the internet if you talk to someone in emails for a month you are in this unspoken relationship. Heck I talked with someone a total of 11 emails on a different site when I decided that a fist meet wasn't going to happen he hated me because I played him. I didn't play him, I was getting to know him. I am not saying everyone is like this but so many are that is throws a damper in the fire for me. Makes me even more cautious.


Sorry for the long post but these are some of the things I have come up with.

I think, maybe they should stop relying on just a website to find somebody. They should go out into public sometimes and mix it up. Get some sun and have some fun.