You know those questions that ask what would you do in such a such situation. Or how would you feel if particular things happened?

I've read a lot of those because I love questionnaires. They are fun.

I remembered a question where it asked if you were in and accident, and someone died, even if the accident wasn't your fault, would you still feel like you killed someone?

Well, even thought neither of us were seriously hurt at all, I can say that, yes, I would feel that way.

Now that I'm no longer worried about the claim, and what is going to happen with my car, and so on, I keep remembering the moment of impact.

And I keep seeing the way the cars ended up and how I hit her. I'm thinking that she didn't move from going to the right lane to going to the left lane. The way I hit her car, I think she changed her mind about turning and was going to go straight.

If she hadn't started to turn and then straighted out, but pulled straight from the start, I would have hit her in the driver side door at 40mph. I keep seeing what could have happened.

In fact, I can't stop thinking about it. It didn't help that most of the loss calls I took today were almost exactly like my accident Sunday.

Each time I walked someone through it, I felt like I was going though it again. And each time someone asks me what happened when they hear I was in an accident, .......

How do you know if you are just feeling the normal stress from an accident or if it is more than that?

I completely held it together at the accident and yesterday. I'm feeling like I'm having a delayed reaction to it and maybe it would have been better if I had completely broken down and got it out of my system the same day. Does that make sense?

I've been a couple accidents before. But I've never felt like this before.

You went through something traumatic... it's okay to feel the way you do and think how you are... your a smart cookie you know and realize what really happened and how it could have been worse... be glad what happened was all that happened...
this feeling will pass soon you are just going through stages..


Hope your knee is better really soon

I know, I started one way, went a different way, and turned in a third way. But that is rather how I've been all day long. Having a terrible time staying focused.

I can not say I know where you are coming from, but I remember when I was in a life-threatening accident.

After getting out of the car as quickly as I could (I had flipped it and slid down a hill towards a lake, landing literally 2 feet from the lip of the lake) all I could do is think of my daughter.


Even to this day I have nightmares about it. What if she had been in the car with me?

What if she had been sitting next to me, instead of where I had moved her in the back behind me?

What if I had died that day? Who'd take care of her? (Her father lives in Israel with her now.)

Would I have been able to live with myself if she had been in the car with me and died and I lived? Could I live after losing her?

I keep replaying the day's events in my mind, and every time I wake up crying and shaking.

Sometimes my daughter is in the car with me, sometimes she is with my ex-boyfriend, exactly where she was the day of the accident, safe and warm in his kitchen making mommy dinner.

Soon after, I made a will. And got life insurance. She will be protected and provided for should anything happen to me.

It takes a life changing event like an accident to make you think twice about what you do.

I'm sorry you're going through this. I don't really know what to say, so......(hug!)

Have a good cry.
Really

I'm happy both of you are alright , take your time your nerves have been through a lot.

A fellow scuba instructor friend of mine was indirectly involved during a diving incident where a newly certified student of his was seriously injured by a air embolism during a toured, guided dive.
There was an investigation and he was determined not at fault since the student had a pre-existing condition that was attributed.
Even though he was found not to blame, he really tore his own heart out about it and not long after he divorced his wife of ten years, lost both his jobs and went completely grey within a year.