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does anyone have any prozzac because I could sure use some!!!
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Engraven..........your following me!!!  Now put that thing away or I will make you wear a thong!!!  |
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Hmmmmmmm.........relationship without sex........ Alcohol can make one impotent. So can Depression. So can some medications. |
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the details are too gray to really say. sometimes losing something is what it takes for someone to realize what they have maybe try a seperation first. if he really loves he will come for u trust me. but from the sounds of it thats pretty complicated because of the finances, try staying with your parents and if he really loves u he will chase u down. time heals but u have to be prepared if he doesnt come for u. Thats advice from a non professional keep in mind. im not responsible for this message.... lol good luck and it is important to find a way to make it work but sometimes u just cant fit a square peg in a round hole, u know
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dumped him...lol
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just to clarify 2 dui and since feb 08 held a job in shipping, not what he desired. depression started nov 07, new job 2/08. financialy we are stable paycheck 2 pay check.
Yes this is a dating site, also called mingle. on my profile im clear i am trying to reenter social scene. creat my own circle, I figure getting out once in a while will fill my gap, 2 miserable peopl cant help each other. |
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I want to say thank you to everyone. I am going focus, making me and my kids happy, and getting out to do hings Ihave not done in a long time. I was so worried i neglected myself and forgot, how can I help him if i resent him. Just because he is depressed and uninterested in our family. Im mommy and i need to get out the house and do things,by myself and my babies.
ALL OF YOU HELPED ME TO REALIZE, YES, HE HAS A PROBLEM, BUT ITS NOT FOR ME TO ENABLE HIM. Im not going to pack and leave. however, the kids and i are not going to sit around the house anymore. maybe if he sees we r moving on he will start to snap out of it. By the way he told me he will stare to wein off meds wish my family luck. |
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my dear that was awsome advice, I that way, but i also felt stressed. i havent really talked with him in 2 months im gonna make a nice night forhim maybe he'll be suprised and want to open up. I know, it stresses you out, you run out of energy. When you give and give until you got nothing left. You have to make sure to take care of you. Not sure if I mentioned this in my last post, but read up on depression, and seek counseling for yourself to help you deal and cope. Depression isn't a disease that just hurts the person with it, it hurts everyone who cares for them. As long as he is trying to "get better" then I would not give up on him either. If there was a time when things were good, when you were happy, and this is what has caused the problems, then hope is not gone. Does he go to counseling? Is he open to it? (If not, and it is really that bad try to enlist friends and family to talk to him) Why is he depressed? Is it something that is still a part of his life? Like bad job, or feeling like what he is doing is pointless? I know that depression zaps you of energy and motivation, but even if he had a hobby, trying to encourage him to get involved in it again. Something he loved. Ultimately, he needs to love himself, and make sure there isn't some other chemical/hormonal thing going on. Just don't keep doing the same old things, if they aren't working......let him know you care, and you are there, but also that you need "you" time to take care of you. 
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Edited by
Engraven_Image
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Sat 01/03/09 02:35 PM
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I am in a relationship with no sex, love or respect for each other,he refuses to be involved. supposly he would die 4 me,but he wont take me out. kicker is i am a stay at home mom who cant afford 320.00 for daycare. So all i can do is wait till kids are school aged  ...Controlling people are not who you should have in your life.
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I JUST DID
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just to clarify 2 dui and since feb 08 held a job in shipping, not what he desired. depression started nov 07, new job 2/08. financialy we are stable paycheck 2 pay check. Yes this is a dating site, also called mingle. on my profile im clear i am trying to reenter social scene. creat my own circle, I figure getting out once in a while will fill my gap, 2 miserable peopl cant help each other. From the sound of both of your posts, I think you're clear on what the problem is. Sometimes it's difficult to get to that point, but you're there. Good luck and prayers for you and your family. It sounds like you're headed in the right direction, making sure your kids are safe and that you can have a life, whether or not he gets better. Suddenly, don't you feel a little less helpless? |
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I am in a relationship with no sex, love or respect for each other,he refuses to be involved. supposly he would die 4 me,but he wont take me out. kicker is i am a stay at home mom who cant afford 320.00 for daycare. So all i can do is wait till kids are school aged Then TAKE your own road,,,OR,,,MAKE what you have BETTER with him and you through talking,,,,or tell him your walking. It YOUR kids who will suffer either way if YOU BOTH are not GOOD with each other. WHATS best for them is usually best for all.  Good luck and if you need an ear,,email me..  
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