I would like that short & sweet answer...so I can just move on. However, I actually have been doing the same thing right back at him...and even told him I felt he wanted me gone - and that was not a problem with me. I asked him, "you agree?" A great easy out right there. He looked as if he just lost his best friend...and said, "Are you searious?" I'm still scratching my head. I will just go- no prob. loss is nothing new here.

A possibility, other than infidelity, though, in a way maybe worse.. Has he ever had a drug or alchohol problem in his past?

From what you're saying, this could be symptoms of a relapse into something of that nature too.

Hopefully he's just preoccupied with something at work and tyring (unsuccessfully) not to worry you, but...

I tried to be more detailed in a couple of responses or few....without writing a book:)

Wow. Awesome insight. He is actually on a 2 week break from work right now. It only happens once a year! Thank God. Alcohol- yes. Drugs I doubt it...but there is a dummy in his circle of friends that has that rep.

great...I am 4 yrs older than he is. He just turned 31. ahhhh

You know that is the actual "change" thing I have in my my head the most. I made an attempt to talk...calmly I swear. The guy talking back at me...I dont know that person. I got no where.

right--I know..but if I just happen to be wrong- OMG.

Is it possible that he may be gay?

no...for sure...really. but thank you :)

maybe hes decided he likes guys now funny but not! happened to me before

Sometimes you just move on with separate lives - even if you still love each other. I've done it, and we're so much more fun when together now that we're not - especially knowing we'd never go back.

Make it fresh. Do something new. Something you know would pull him in, then go from there. If it is all still the same.... I am a firm believer in direct and clear communication. List it out, be honest and hope for the best.

Sorry, just read this one and have to change my response a bit.
Oh how we all get accustomed to the way we communicate with our partners. When that changes, so many of us want to think the worst. Usually all that is needed is that change in the way you communicate with him. Life happens, things change we question ourselves. We forget what it was that really was exciting about that person upon first meeting or connecting. For me in the past having gone through times of questioning, it has been difficult to maintain the right kind of communication in relationships. What has most effectively gotten me out of those "funks" was something fun, free-spirited, honest, bold, or simple silliness.

What I am saying is try to break the momentum of fear and all the bad possibilities by doing something different.

5yrs is the usual make or break point for both men and women, all the things we put up with that were overlooked when dating, are now surfacing, and without respect and understanding during any conversation about the changes will most certainly lead to a slow death of the relationship, if it has not already happened, john

I sooo appreciate everyone for responsding to me!!! I just read the last 2...I am so amazed the time taken to give me advic. A peace of mind is what you gave me! I love all of you now!! I am starved for the differnt...a change of pace at the very least. The wondering, accusing, not knowing, ya da ya da...is exhausting. I hate not knowing...but it is what it is right now. So be it.
Thanks again- all of you. Look me up anytime for chat! lol

yeah you're right, I did the same with my ex

Just an FYI: It was / is/ will always be I'm sure...all of the bad things I was thinking it might be!!! I AM DONE with that joke!! and...I love it! I can breathe again. lol to all of ya for the support! You kept me somewhat sane...
oh---ya he's begging now. Amazing how that works, hu? Once I decide to move on- that's final. I hate rollercoasters....

there are alot of concerns here.....

but sounds more like a dope thing than another woman.......

just gotta read the signs, between the lines...

what kind of change in behavior, can you like be more specific?

My advice is RUN. Cant be a good thing sorry. I agree with what you are thinking.