Quit worrying sbout what they want and just be yourself, if that's not enough then it's not worth your time in the first place and it will never work anyway.

If they don't like you for who you are or even better who they perceive you to be, then the woman is not the woman you want to be with anyway. Sometimes you have to thank God for unanswered prayers.

This thread is still going?

Security and comfort is on the top of the list... At least I found out so far. Any one from North Chicago?

Hi , you forgot to add , less hair . lol

women know what they want-it's you men that don't seem to not understand-maybe just maybe if yuo took your head out of your ass and just for a minute really listened you would hear us!

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If you read my Post in the welcome area you'll see i know exactly what i want, thank u very much!

respect is what I think they want

while thinking about my past i concluded that women want better. your just a stepping stone for her next man. how sad do i sound? lol

Don't let them get you down.

What I want - is something that i can't have.

Let's go back to natural instincts..

birds:

1. During Spring, birds start to gather up, they choose a partner, they mate, lay eggs, raise the the little chicks.

What does a bird need to find a partner?

1. Male bird must be strong enough, and able to survive (fight off other male birds),
2. able to reproduce.
3. They need a safe place for a nest.
4. Both needs to be active enough to raise the little ones.

humans:

1. Male needs to have money, because without money you aren't "strong". Physical fitness to fight off other males is not necessary in this society. Money determines your survivability and money comes from work, and the amount of money depends on what kind of a job you got or how much you inherited.

2. A place to live (nest), if you don't have a house or a big enough apartment..you loose.

3. Able to reproduce..unless the female is looking for someone who has the vital organs, but not necessarily wants more kids.

The points are in an order. Basically, birds or humans you fail the first point...the rest doesn't matter.

So when a woman comes up and states they want a "stable man who can stand on his feet" - she means you have the financial backing of not only surviving on your own but also able to support her as well as possible children.
There is nothing to blame here...Women want financially stable (can survive) man.

The problem comes in, when you got an economy, that effects the jobs and work available, which is vital for survival and stability.
The bird depends on good genes, pysical strength and stamina to be able to find food and feed himself and the family, while men depends on having a job and get paid and paid enough to "survive". What I mean "survive" is...not only to provide enough food and having a roof above the head, but also fit into the society we live in..which includes having enough money to buy vehicles and add all the extra (big TV, pool,vacations) that has became the "21st. century lifestyle".
Basically, even if you make enough to meet ends meet, that's not good enough. Maybe enough in 3rd world countries, where eating 3 times a day is a luxury life, but not in the so called 'civilized' countries.
Unfortunately the global economic recession we are in right now, produces more and more of those who simply cannot afford the lifestyle of 5-10 years ago (21st century lifestyle) ..which has became the norm....or even lost their jobs..and this is something not a fault of the individual but the fault of the system.

So we go back to the question "What women wants"...well, I would say most want a financially stable and able man who can stand on his own feet and also raise a family...but this is becoming a little bit difficult search for many women...not to mention, each woman - just like man - has a different taste and looking for different qualities, different individuals.

So what will happen?

Well, if the economic downturn continues to raise the number of those who has to cut back on spending and live a "smaller" life instead, or God forbid..lost their jobs already and living off government aid or family aid, they are in a tough spot ....at least for a while.
Those, who are still stable and able to live just like before and not effected by what is going on..they will have no problem, finding that special one.
Back on the ones who are in the tough spot...as I wrote, they will have to wait for a while...I know it sounds kinda weird..but women must lower their expectations first and willing to accept those who cannot provide the same quality of life that trademarked the past few centuries.

I know...some of you gonna read this and say ...wht..the..f..k, but hey, I'm just running my thoughts about the topic here.

Most men are no different.

take it from someone who knows i really believe that women want to be with jerks more than the truly "nice guys" thats why we always finish last...thanx!

I disagree.

Oh, another nice guy.

I'm going to test this theory and try being a little bit of a jerk to the next woman I date!

No offense - but I don't want a jerk!!! I want a man to love me for me, not what he "thinks I should be". I want to grow old with someone and as we grow old together, look back and see, touch and feel all that we have accomplished together, instead of what I have accomplished. I want a man who will lie next to me in bed at night and hold me and make love to me instead of sneaking off to another woman. I want to be told "I love you" and be touched and kissed, not be told "you don't have to say it, I already know it". And dammit, I want a man who can at least remember my freakin birthday, on my birthday!

As far as jerks go, I would say that I have already been married to one. I do not need another one.






Sorry - I didn't mean to sound ugly.

I think I broke the thread.....

Soundslike good wants...It just doesn't seem to be what it all turns out to be