Topic: Can a guy and a girl be best friends?
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Wed 12/24/08 11:59 AM
Whats wrong with friends who just love sex together?

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Wed 12/24/08 12:07 PM

Whats wrong with friends who just love sex together?

Nothing. As long as the goals & objectives for their relationship and lives (both individually and as a couple), values/morals/ethics match - and they truly respect/have real affection for one another. Nothing. As long as the level of commitment each has towards the other and the relationship match. Nothing. As long as they both have the motivation to carry these things out - the willingness. And THEN, actually DO. flowerforyou

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Wed 12/24/08 12:40 PM

No, but maybe you're not thinking about the situation possibly being reversed

no need to guess, asked him outright and you're still wrong but it's the holidays

Happy Holidays!

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Wed 12/24/08 12:48 PM


you might think so, but i'm willing to bet your male friend had a romantic interest in you at some point. it's just the nature of man

I tend to agree; although I welcome being proven wrong.

You know, it may be because just like different people have different ideas about what constitutes "sex" - like deep kissing, a hand job, b_j, fondling/groping, cybersex, phonesex, oral, genital, anal, or even BDSM sans sex....so too may different folks define the boundaries differently of what constitutes a "platonic" friendship.

To this, throw into the mix that while you may have nothing but platonic feelings, your friend may have other feelings. Feelings which they may be either open to admitting to you or hiding. Sometimes we even hide our own feelings from ourselves.

No easy answer to this question, I suppose.


I have had the same friend since highschool. She took me to her prom, she has given me a bath, and now she's on her way to being married. We never kissed, never held hands, never got physical with eachother. We've had plenty of fun like jumping out art room windows and chasing seagulls around on the beach. We've been friends for 9 years going on a decade. If there were ever feelings involved to be indulged in, I was mostly single during this time period of which I never had any. As for her, I'd say she was with someone for at least 70% of the time *not just with one guy* and the thought of that guy being me to my knowledge never. That would be one.

Another ok when I was a kid I had this huge crush on her but she married and the years following the marriage I was not interested any longer. I wouldn't say we're friends but we used to be through many years of their marriage. This is 2...

I can't honestly say for other girls we could remain just as friends. My intentions on making friends with girls aren't solely to be friends. The first girl I listed above was a complete exception to this ruling. We became friends inside of school and from there our friendship grew. I could relate this to maybe a co-worker. The intention can't be to get to know said person with the idea that it may lead somewhere. To my knowledge never was going to.

The 2nd one I had a huge crush on her... I don't know how else to put that. From 1st grade on :).

It_Gyrl's photo
Wed 12/24/08 02:06 PM

flowerforyou In your opinion can a guy and a girl be best friends?flowerforyouWithout having any feelings for one another.:smile:



of course

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Wed 12/24/08 05:48 PM
yes absolutely, and the feelings would be those of love not being in love

JasmineInglewood's photo
Wed 12/24/08 05:57 PM
Edited by JasmineInglewood on Wed 12/24/08 05:57 PM
my closest friends are guys. we've been attending school together since we were 14. one of whom has a fully functional and loving relationship with his girlfriend. it indeed is possible

aztmom's photo
Wed 12/24/08 06:06 PM

flowerforyou In your opinion can a guy and a girl be best friends?flowerforyouWithout having any feelings for one another.:smile:


Most Definitely Mirror. I have lots of friends that are guys and always have since I was little. I was the only girl on both sides of the family for 14 years so guys were all I had to hang out with. My very best friend is a guy and we have been friends for over 16 years with no romantic feelings.

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Wed 12/24/08 06:25 PM
Absolutely I believe this, my best friend from the time I was nine years old was a guy he was 6 years older than me. We were so close it was uncanny, when he fell asleep at the wheel and died in a car wreck no one had to call me to tell me I knew.
So yes, I believe this totally I have many male friends that are really great friends.

I think alot of times when one person feels something that the other one does is due to miscommunication. I am very upfront. I let a guy know they are a dear friend and most of them know when that happens the male and female thing is off the table with me.



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Wed 12/24/08 08:27 PM
I'd love to be best friends with my lover and life partner.

A gal can dream, eh? bigsmile

Totage's photo
Wed 12/24/08 08:33 PM

flowerforyou In your opinion can a guy and a girl be best friends?flowerforyouWithout having any feelings for one another.:smile:


Yes, I have female friends that I grew up with, but would never date them because it would kinda be like dating a family member.

It just depends on the people I guess, some can, some can't.

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Wed 12/24/08 08:38 PM

flowerforyou In your opinion can a guy and a girl be best friends?flowerforyouWithout having any feelings for one another.:smile:



no even with friends there are feelings involved...

squonk's photo
Thu 12/25/08 07:20 AM

I'd love to be best friends with my lover and life partner.

A gal can dream, eh? bigsmile

I'd have it no other way.

MirrorMirror's photo
Fri 12/26/08 11:47 AM


flowerforyou In your opinion can a guy and a girl be best friends?flowerforyouWithout having any feelings for one another.:smile:



no even with friends there are feelings involved...
bigsmile truedrinker

Akinyahalo's photo
Fri 12/26/08 11:50 AM
my best friend of over 9 years is female and there has never been anything between us

DragonFlyTat's photo
Fri 12/26/08 01:02 PM
yes my daughters best friend is a guy...they have been friends forever through thick and thin

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Fri 12/26/08 02:00 PM
by now the men in my life have known me at least 25 years, i am honored to say i can call most of them brothers, certainly each is a 'best ' friend if anyone can categorize such a thing,

relationships are cultivated like a wonderful orchard, if one does not know what that means
this conversation is useless.

:o)

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Sat 12/27/08 05:56 PM

by now the men in my life have known me at least 25 years, i am honored to say i can call most of them brothers, certainly each is a 'best ' friend if anyone can categorize such a thing,

relationships are cultivated like a wonderful orchard, if one does not know what that means
this conversation is useless.

:o)




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misstina2's photo
Sat 12/27/08 05:58 PM
it would be wonderful to have a best friend that you fell in love withlove

freeonthree's photo
Sat 12/27/08 07:35 PM
Nobody can be friends withut having feelings for each other, but I see where your coming from with this. My landlady and I are best friends.