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Topic: I need your opinions.
Mysticwriter612's photo
Sun 12/21/08 02:49 PM
I am asking for honest opinions of girls who are actually in this age group.

Guys with sarcastic remarks - please refrain and have some maturity =)

Ok so my question is this. What do girls (GENERALLY) in the age group 18-22 really look for in a guy? It seems if they aren't about looks, they are about money, or vise versa. Never personality.

I ask this because I'd like to think I am a genuinely nice guy and I'm prolly average in looks. I dont have money, and im not where I want to be in life (living at home still -_-) and also no license (long story half of the reasons were beyond my control) and have some serious trouble finding ppl interested in me.

What happened to girls wanting a nice guy who will treat them right? Or am I just looking in all the way wrong places?

Call me pathetic if you wish, but I am putting myself out here hoping for some honest opinions of this matter. Constructive criticism I do not mind, but insults...please refrain from.

MirrorMirror's photo
Sun 12/21/08 02:53 PM
flowerforyou They are looking for "love"flowerforyou

Mysticwriter612's photo
Sun 12/21/08 02:54 PM

flowerforyou They are looking for "love"flowerforyou


If that was the case I'd have no problem at all. The one thing I want out of life is true lasting love. Call me a sap if you wish. I want that above money, career, or w/e else there is.

Thanks for the thought though haha.

luv2roknroll's photo
Sun 12/21/08 02:54 PM
Oh hell...

Guess im TOO OLD to answer again.

<sigh>

markc48's photo
Sun 12/21/08 02:55 PM
Edited by markc48 on Sun 12/21/08 02:57 PM
A cool car and a fat wallet.:wink: and not living with your parents.bigsmile

misstina2's photo
Sun 12/21/08 02:56 PM
they are looking for someone who has their own place and has their finances in order

Mysticwriter612's photo
Sun 12/21/08 02:57 PM

Oh hell...

Guess im TOO OLD to answer again.

<sigh>


I'm still open to your opinion. It's just my age group seems to have shifted in values and desires out of a guy.

As it seems now, I can care and do everything in my power to take care of someone I love, but if I can't afford a shiney new necklace or can't be the one driving, then forget it. That's honestly how it seems now.

RKISIT's photo
Sun 12/21/08 02:57 PM
the age group of women you are asking about are mostly college(man do i miss those days)women or in the experimental stages of their lives.so it can be a pain to find a woman of that age that just wants to settle down unless they have already been married and has kids,or either one.jmo

Mysticwriter612's photo
Sun 12/21/08 03:00 PM

they are looking for someone who has their own place and has their finances in order


So stability? My mom's boyfriend of 15 years has stability. He pays all the bills and we live in his house. But, he treats her and myself like utter sh*t. So you're saying women/girls would rather have stability than a nice guy? Interesting...

I don't mold who I am to fit what girls look for, but it seriously seems I either need to come into some money, or become a total as*h*le in order start a new relationship.

Mysticwriter612's photo
Sun 12/21/08 03:03 PM

the age group of women you are asking about are mostly college(man do i miss those days)women or in the experimental stages of their lives.so it can be a pain to find a woman of that age that just wants to settle down unless they have already been married and has kids,or either one.jmo


I'm not looking to settle down yet at all. My life isn't put together enough for that yet. But I feel marriage is a commitment that should have many years of a relationship before the marriage starts. So with my beliefs, if I want a family and love and all that, I can't wait until my dating range is older and out of college. If I did, marriage wouldn't happen till I was 40. I'd like it to be alot sooner than that haha.

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Sun 12/21/08 03:05 PM


they are looking for someone who has their own place and has their finances in order


So stability? My mom's boyfriend of 15 years has stability. He pays all the bills and we live in his house. But, he treats her and myself like utter sh*t. So you're saying women/girls would rather have stability than a nice guy? Interesting...

I don't mold who I am to fit what girls look for, but it seriously seems I either need to come into some money, or become a total as*h*le in order start a new relationship.



Just because your Mom's B/F is a creep doesn't make all stable men so...

Winx's photo
Sun 12/21/08 03:05 PM


they are looking for someone who has their own place and has their finances in order


So stability? My mom's boyfriend of 15 years has stability. He pays all the bills and we live in his house. But, he treats her and myself like utter sh*t. So you're saying women/girls would rather have stability than a nice guy? Interesting...

I don't mold who I am to fit what girls look for, but it seriously seems I either need to come into some money, or become a total as*h*le in order start a new relationship.


No...we don't want stability instead of a nice guy. We want both.

Winx's photo
Sun 12/21/08 03:06 PM



they are looking for someone who has their own place and has their finances in order


So stability? My mom's boyfriend of 15 years has stability. He pays all the bills and we live in his house. But, he treats her and myself like utter sh*t. So you're saying women/girls would rather have stability than a nice guy? Interesting...

I don't mold who I am to fit what girls look for, but it seriously seems I either need to come into some money, or become a total as*h*le in order start a new relationship.



Just because your Mom's B/F is a creep doesn't make all stable men so...


Well said.

misstina2's photo
Sun 12/21/08 03:07 PM




they are looking for someone who has their own place and has their finances in order


So stability? My mom's boyfriend of 15 years has stability. He pays all the bills and we live in his house. But, he treats her and myself like utter sh*t. So you're saying women/girls would rather have stability than a nice guy? Interesting...

I don't mold who I am to fit what girls look for, but it seriously seems I either need to come into some money, or become a total as*h*le in order start a new relationship.



Just because your Mom's B/F is a creep doesn't make all stable men so...


Well said.
agreed

Mayhem_J's photo
Sun 12/21/08 03:08 PM
Are you going to college?

hgraham88's photo
Sun 12/21/08 03:10 PM

I am asking for honest opinions of girls who are actually in this age group.

Guys with sarcastic remarks - please refrain and have some maturity =)

Ok so my question is this. What do girls (GENERALLY) in the age group 18-22 really look for in a guy? It seems if they aren't about looks, they are about money, or vise versa. Never personality.

I ask this because I'd like to think I am a genuinely nice guy and I'm prolly average in looks. I dont have money, and im not where I want to be in life (living at home still -_-) and also no license (long story half of the reasons were beyond my control) and have some serious trouble finding ppl interested in me.

What happened to girls wanting a nice guy who will treat them right? Or am I just looking in all the way wrong places?

Call me pathetic if you wish, but I am putting myself out here hoping for some honest opinions of this matter. Constructive criticism I do not mind, but insults...please refrain from.


Live Right Now Just Be Yourself I Doesn't Matter If Its Good Enough For Someone Else: Jimmy Eats World

Who cares what a girls wants is a guy to be himself and treat her with respect.

Mysticwriter612's photo
Sun 12/21/08 03:10 PM



they are looking for someone who has their own place and has their finances in order


So stability? My mom's boyfriend of 15 years has stability. He pays all the bills and we live in his house. But, he treats her and myself like utter sh*t. So you're saying women/girls would rather have stability than a nice guy? Interesting...

I don't mold who I am to fit what girls look for, but it seriously seems I either need to come into some money, or become a total as*h*le in order start a new relationship.



Just because your Mom's B/F is a creep doesn't make all stable men so...


Did I say all men who are stable are as such? I was simply stating an example and got a bit carried away.

Sorry, I'm really frustraighted right now with this. I would think girls would be willing to see how things went and stuff, because I'm not living here forever, I'm not going to be licenseless forever. I'm in college to be an English Teacher actually...and I am about 400 pages into a novel series i am writing...idk.

Nevermind this topic, I shouldn't have started this.

Mr_Music's photo
Sun 12/21/08 03:11 PM
Can't help you with the "girl" part. I've outgrown that a long time ago, and I've moved on to women. However, it might be prudent to take a different approach.

1. Don't appear desperate. Not saying that you necessarily are, but it's very unbecoming, and it's a big turn-off.

2. Don't chase. You'll wear yourself out doing all the work.

3.
MOST IMPORTANTLY!! Do NOT come in with the mentality of this being simply a site to (possibly) find a date, nothing more. Think outside the box. To be more precise, think of it as a socialization site. Meet friends first. You must first be a friend in order for a potential relationship to blossom.

MsCarmen's photo
Sun 12/21/08 03:11 PM
I hate to say this, but living at home and not having a driver's license is 2 major things that might be going against you.

At least that's my opinion anyway.

Mysticwriter612's photo
Sun 12/21/08 03:11 PM


I am asking for honest opinions of girls who are actually in this age group.

Guys with sarcastic remarks - please refrain and have some maturity =)

Ok so my question is this. What do girls (GENERALLY) in the age group 18-22 really look for in a guy? It seems if they aren't about looks, they are about money, or vise versa. Never personality.

I ask this because I'd like to think I am a genuinely nice guy and I'm prolly average in looks. I dont have money, and im not where I want to be in life (living at home still -_-) and also no license (long story half of the reasons were beyond my control) and have some serious trouble finding ppl interested in me.

What happened to girls wanting a nice guy who will treat them right? Or am I just looking in all the way wrong places?

Call me pathetic if you wish, but I am putting myself out here hoping for some honest opinions of this matter. Constructive criticism I do not mind, but insults...please refrain from.


Live Right Now Just Be Yourself I Doesn't Matter If Its Good Enough For Someone Else: Jimmy Eats World

Who cares what a girls wants is a guy to be himself and treat her with respect.


I do care what girls want because the one thing I want out of life is love and I sure as hell can't have that alone now can I? lol. But yeah I WISH all girls had your mind set about respect and such, I wouldn't have an issue then -_-

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