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Topic: Respect or Fear ?
MirrorMirror Joined Fri 10/26/07 Posts: 89680	Fri 12/19/08 08:09 PM
When you were a child, did you obey your parents out of respect, or fear?

misstina2 Joined Sat 11/01/08 Posts: 13508	Fri 12/19/08 08:10 PM
i rebelled

alonenotlonely Joined Thu 01/03/08 Posts: 2957	Fri 12/19/08 08:10 PM
Love.

RKISIT Joined Tue 01/08/08 Posts: 16721	Fri 12/19/08 08:11 PM Edited by RKISIT on Fri 12/19/08 08:12 PM
i was half assed raised by a single mother so i really can't answer this

beautyfrompain Joined Wed 03/05/08 Posts: 4696	Fri 12/19/08 08:12 PM
I seldom obeyed my Mom and she beat me with a switch lol

izzie Joined Wed 02/21/07 Posts: 31834	Fri 12/19/08 08:12 PM
both... honestly..

chickayoshi Joined Tue 12/11/07 Posts: 8621	Fri 12/19/08 08:12 PM
I respected my parents out of respect. The only time I was afraid was when they pulled out the big-brown-thick-leather belt. My brother, sister, and my worst nightmare as a child if we were bad.

WWRange Joined Mon 12/08/08 Posts: 1538	Fri 12/19/08 08:15 PM
I was a child in the 60s. Far different than the 70's or 80s. Therefore for myself and many other kids of that time we obeyed out of fear.

krupa Joined Thu 07/03/08 Posts: 18651	Fri 12/19/08 08:16 PM
Both..... Pretty much the same with the way I deal with subordinate employees at work. "You will obey me because you love me, you will obey me because you respect me, or you will obey me because you fear me....but, one way or the other...you will obey me." Quoted from my father. I swear to God that it works.

Ruth34611 Joined Sat 08/02/08 Posts: 32402	Fri 12/19/08 08:16 PM
Love. Precisely. And, once in a while, a good swift kick in the rear.

cityblues21 Joined Sat 07/05/08 Posts: 20033	Fri 12/19/08 08:18 PM
FEAR... we had no government agency to call and threaten parents with that we were going to tell ...

MisKim323 Joined Sat 06/28/08 Posts: 14563	Fri 12/19/08 08:20 PM
I was a child in the 60s. Far different than the 70's or 80s. Therefore for myself and many other kids of that time we obeyed out of fear.

rlynne Joined Sun 11/23/08 Posts: 2458	Fri 12/19/08 08:20 PM
I was obedient out of fear for disappointment...anger passes and injuries heal, but when someone looses faith in you thats the worst, so in turn more of a respect thing, the older I got the more I learned to behave out of respect, provided respect is mutually given...i was and still am one to question the motives and directive of others

Drifters13 Joined Tue 12/25/07 Posts: 1769	Fri 12/19/08 08:20 PM
Neather. I did what I wanted when I wanted from the time I can remember. My parents gave up an me when I was really young. They just figured that I wasn't going to listen anyways.

SitkaRains Joined Thu 10/09/08 Posts: 17228	Fri 12/19/08 08:20 PM
I was a child in the 60s. Far different than the 70's or 80s. Therefore for myself and many other kids of that time we obeyed out of fear. My answer exactly. My dad had a saying You had better respect your elders and if you don't you had better pretend well enough I believe you.

writer_gurl Joined Sat 03/01/08 Posts: 7673	Fri 12/19/08 08:20 PM
Well, fear of course What else can you do when your mother says, " I brought you into this world and I can take you out." Hey Tina Good to see you back

longhairbiker Joined Tue 09/04/07 Posts: 26589	Fri 12/19/08 08:21 PM
D. All of the above. What did I win?

jdcolvin Joined Thu 11/15/07 Posts: 508	Fri 12/19/08 08:23 PM
respect---the only two people that I ever totally respected.....Damn I miss them both everyday

alonenotlonely Joined Thu 01/03/08 Posts: 2957	Fri 12/19/08 08:23 PM
Love. Precisely. And, once in a while, a good swift kick in the rear. You got that right. I raised my daughters that obedience was better than righteousness: they could get into trouble for doing wrong and I'd be on their side, but if they disobeyed me, there was no one on their side.

longhairbiker Joined Tue 09/04/07 Posts: 26589	Fri 12/19/08 08:24 PM
Spent 40 years trying to get away from my parents. They moved next door to me. I gave up. Sheesh!