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Ok so I dated this guy for like two and a half months and in that time he was dating another girl I didnt find out about till the end of our relationship. He had called another girl from my phone and she called me asking for him. We "broke up" over halloween and I found out that he was messing around with a nother girl. Turns out he got her pregnant and she ended up having an abortion. Then after all of this I still took him back no questions asked and then a week later he broke up with me. I waited a month for him to figure out what was so wrong with his life that he could say that he still wanted to be with me but had to work stuff out in his mind. A moth went by and I found out that he had gotten engaged to that girl that he had been with the whole time. When we started dating I didnt know about any of these girls. After coming back from thanksgiving break he told me he didnt want to lose me and that he loved me so... i took him back. Then a week later I realized that there was nothing left of the relationship...I didnt trust him and there was no cxommunication so I gave up. the next day I was depressed and went to get him back and he had already started datin... get this!... MY BEST FRIEND!!!!! Somebody please tell me why that even though I know that there is nothing left between us that I can't get him out of my mind...I'm going crazy!!!!!!
(btw He has my virginity) |
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first loves - usually stay with us forever
you will realize he is not the one for you, but only you can decide when. good luck |
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Because we always want what we can't have. You know in your head this is bad for you, wait it out long enough and your heart will catch up
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Move on. Move foreward not backward. Electroshock therapy and heavy psychotropic medication may help. Seek professional medical help. Good luck.
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I'm sorry you had a bad experience with such an A*****e. Men are weird, but remember, not all men are like that. I wish you much luck.
Shelli |
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I completely understand what you are going through. My first love and I were on and off for 3-4 years. He didn't cheat on me while we were together or anything like that; we had other issues. Even though I knew after the second time things weren't ever going to work out for us as a couple, I still went back. It was a safety net; I loved the way things were when we were together and he knew me better than anyone else. We broke up for the last time in May, but we still talk as friends from time to time. Sounds like in your case, friends wouldn't be even worth it. Move on - you don't need him. You need to find someone that will treat you the way you deserve to be treated - WITH RESPECT!! Go out with friends, try new things, etc. and I'm sure you'll meet a great guy.
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Love is one of the hardest things to deal with when it fails to be all we wanted it to be. Regardless if it is your first love or down the road. When we give our hearts totally and they not only stomp on it but proceed to pull it apart as well. At times we feel we have in fact failed ourselves and will try anything to correct our wrongs. But in reality it was not something we did not do but what we did not want to admit. At times the ones we give our hearts too don't love us back the same way we love them. And within time you will see that it was not meant to be.
You can give love to another freely but you can not make someone love you back no matter what you are willing to do or give them. You see that is not what love should be about. Love should flow naturally for both it is one thing in life you should never settle to meet half way.  |
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Edited by
notquite00
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Tue 12/16/08 09:11 AM
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Drop that guy. I know he'll be on your mind for a while, but that's okay. Just try to do other stuff, keep busy.
Virginity is important, that's true, but the rest of your life is more important. Drop that guy and never look back. And if someone pulls that stuff on you again, drop him like he ain't worth a dime. There are 6 billion people on this planet - there are better guys out there. I'll give you another piece of advice: When you make someone feel like he or she is what you NEED to survive, like he or she is your ONE and ONLY, usually, you'll scare that person ****less or turn that person off. When you make those sorts of statements, you're putting the person on a pedestal, and no man or woman deserves being worshiped like that. What's more, you are worth more than that. Live your life - romantic partners are there just to make things interesting, to support you, not to...*complete* you and give your life meaning. Ultimately, you'll be disappointed if your expectations are so high. My two cents. |
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Drop that guy. I know he'll be on your mind for a while, but that's okay. Just try to do other stuff, keep busy. Virginity is important, that's true, but the rest of your life is more important. Drop that guy and never look back. And if someone pulls that stuff on you again, drop him like he ain't worth a dime. There are 6 billion people on this planet - there are better guys out there. I'll give you another piece of advice: When you make someone feel like he or she is what you NEED to survive, like he or she is your ONE and ONLY, usually, you'll scare that person ****less or turn that person off. When you make those sorts of statements, you're putting the person on a pedestal, and no man or woman deserves being worshiped like that. What's more, you are worth more than that. Live your life - romantic partners are there just to make things interesting, to support you, not to...*complete* you and give your life meaning. Ultimately, you'll be disappointed if your expectations are so high. My two cents. Wow, so young and yet so mature. I just told someone recently that no person should be placed on a pedestal in a relationship, as it elevates one above the other. You have quite a good head on your shoulders. I hope your search is short and has a happy ending. Good luck. |
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Edited by
quiet_2008
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Tue 12/16/08 09:18 AM
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oops
newbie mistake |
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Ok so I dated this guy for like two and a half months and in that time he was dating another girl I didnt find out about till the end of our relationship. He had called another girl from my phone and she called me asking for him. We "broke up" over halloween and I found out that he was messing around with a nother girl. Turns out he got her pregnant and she ended up having an abortion. Then after all of this I still took him back no questions asked and then a week later he broke up with me. I waited a month for him to figure out what was so wrong with his life that he could say that he still wanted to be with me but had to work stuff out in his mind. A moth went by and I found out that he had gotten engaged to that girl that he had been with the whole time. When we started dating I didnt know about any of these girls. After coming back from thanksgiving break he told me he didnt want to lose me and that he loved me so... i took him back. Then a week later I realized that there was nothing left of the relationship...I didnt trust him and there was no cxommunication so I gave up. the next day I was depressed and went to get him back and he had already started datin... get this!... MY BEST FRIEND!!!!! Somebody please tell me why that even though I know that there is nothing left between us that I can't get him out of my mind...I'm going crazy!!!!!! (btw He has my virginity) sounds like he's just screwing every woman he can get his hands on. Don't get caught up in games and demand he return your virginity |
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WOW this guy just sounds like a player. I think its just time to move, even though he got your virginity...be glad he didn't end up giving you something that you can't get rid of! It sounds like he is a total dawg, so why on earth would you even think about wanting him again?
There are so many single people out there thats just waiting to find that special one for them. Your guy is waiting for the next woman to hop in bed with, he doesn't want a commitment...those types come a dime a dozen!! Move on and when you look back at this, you will be very happy you did. Good Luck
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Ok so I dated this guy for like two and a half months and in that time he was dating another girl I didnt find out about till the end of our relationship. He had called another girl from my phone and she called me asking for him. We "broke up" over halloween and I found out that he was messing around with a nother girl. Turns out he got her pregnant and she ended up having an abortion. Then after all of this I still took him back no questions asked and then a week later he broke up with me. I waited a month for him to figure out what was so wrong with his life that he could say that he still wanted to be with me but had to work stuff out in his mind. A moth went by and I found out that he had gotten engaged to that girl that he had been with the whole time. When we started dating I didnt know about any of these girls. After coming back from thanksgiving break he told me he didnt want to lose me and that he loved me so... i took him back. Then a week later I realized that there was nothing left of the relationship...I didnt trust him and there was no cxommunication so I gave up. the next day I was depressed and went to get him back and he had already started datin... get this!... MY BEST FRIEND!!!!! Somebody please tell me why that even though I know that there is nothing left between us that I can't get him out of my mind...I'm going crazy!!!!!! (btw He has my virginity) sounds like he's just screwing every woman he can get his hands on. Don't get caught up in games and demand he return your virginity how do you return virginity? lol |
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thanks everyone your advice really helps reasure what everyone is telling me!
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Ok so I dated this guy for like two and a half months and in that time he was dating another girl I didnt find out about till the end of our relationship. He had called another girl from my phone and she called me asking for him. We "broke up" over halloween and I found out that he was messing around with a nother girl. Turns out he got her pregnant and she ended up having an abortion. Then after all of this I still took him back no questions asked and then a week later he broke up with me. I waited a month for him to figure out what was so wrong with his life that he could say that he still wanted to be with me but had to work stuff out in his mind. A moth went by and I found out that he had gotten engaged to that girl that he had been with the whole time. When we started dating I didnt know about any of these girls. After coming back from thanksgiving break he told me he didnt want to lose me and that he loved me so... i took him back. Then a week later I realized that there was nothing left of the relationship...I didnt trust him and there was no cxommunication so I gave up. the next day I was depressed and went to get him back and he had already started datin... get this!... MY BEST FRIEND!!!!! Somebody please tell me why that even though I know that there is nothing left between us that I can't get him out of my mind...I'm going crazy!!!!!! (btw He has my virginity) sounds like he's just screwing every woman he can get his hands on. Don't get caught up in games and demand he return your virginity how do you return virginity? lol http://www.revirgination.net/ 
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Ok so I dated this guy for like two and a half months and in that time he was dating another girl I didnt find out about till the end of our relationship. He had called another girl from my phone and she called me asking for him. We "broke up" over halloween and I found out that he was messing around with a nother girl. Turns out he got her pregnant and she ended up having an abortion. Then after all of this I still took him back no questions asked and then a week later he broke up with me. I waited a month for him to figure out what was so wrong with his life that he could say that he still wanted to be with me but had to work stuff out in his mind. A moth went by and I found out that he had gotten engaged to that girl that he had been with the whole time. When we started dating I didnt know about any of these girls. After coming back from thanksgiving break he told me he didnt want to lose me and that he loved me so... i took him back. Then a week later I realized that there was nothing left of the relationship...I didnt trust him and there was no cxommunication so I gave up. the next day I was depressed and went to get him back and he had already started datin... get this!... MY BEST FRIEND!!!!! Somebody please tell me why that even though I know that there is nothing left between us that I can't get him out of my mind...I'm going crazy!!!!!! (btw He has my virginity) sounds like he's just screwing every woman he can get his hands on. Don't get caught up in games and demand he return your virginity how do you return virginity? lol http://www.revirgination.net/ hahahaha ok well i have heard of that actually but i think i'll skip that! but thanks! hahahaha |
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madja laugh
dontcha feel better now? |
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yes thanx! that was pretty funny
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yup hes a player and i would like you all to know that his name is Glenn isnt that a dumb name... wait no offense for him it is! lol
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more advice wanted please!!!!!!!!! :D
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