Well a woman can even claim shes a virgin. I actually met a 60 year old male virgin on this site.

i didnt think they exsisted anymore

Virgins? yes, some people it happens that late into life for religious reasons. In his case, he regrets it now and is trying to meet a woman who is understanding of it.

Phesssssssss,,I think HE might have been telling YOU that,,,but not really,,,,IS THAT!!,wink,lol

Well who knows. Its possible I guess. What would it get him?

I think sometimes married people love their spouses for the most part, but are trying to fill a need their relationship fill. Example: The spouse is wonderful, but is a complete ditz. The married person places a profile so they fill the need of stimulating and intelligent conversation.


Honey unless all the girls you sleep with are virgins, then it is sloppy seconds, period!!

We were just discussing that!

Just my perspective....

While this is a "Dating site"...I find that most of the forum hounds are here for socializing with cool people from across the country. Got several cool married and taken buddies here myself. More than once, I have heard, "If you are taken, then what are you doing here?"

What?...just because someone is married or taken they should hole themselves up and have no social interaction with anyone but thier partner? That is ludicris. I live out in the styx and if I didn't come here to chat with nice folks...I would end up at some bar...risking DUI's, the temptation of meaningless one night stands or other such stupidities.

I say bring on the married people or anyone who just wants someone to talk to...as long as this site is running...there is no reason for anyone to be lonely.

I agree with that rationale krupa. I’m also in the same situation as you where I live in the sticks (on a farm) so this is my main mode of socialization.

When did this happen

It's been said that no one person can be everything to another person. That includes spouses. That's why we have friends.

As far as anyone married being on a dating site goes, as long as the person is honest about it, then it's up to you to decide if you want to get involved. And yes, some are on here for just friends.

I am a monogamous person who believes in working on my relationships to prevent/solve problems before they become unmanageable, but I can understand why a married person, man or woman, would be here looking for something more.

Marriage is a commitment, but why does it mean more than a person's happiness and peace of mind? I have one life to live, I'll be damned if I am going to give up my happiness and forget my needs just because I made a vow. Yes, the vow is important and many do not put in the time and effort required to make it work. If you have tried, or if you are with someone who will absolutely NOT do anything to help, you have to start thinking about yourself. Yes, sometimes you have to be selfish. You, and you alone, are responsible for your own happiness and life is short.

Some people are not in the position to leave a bad marriage, yet still want love, companionship, sex, etc. I can understand this.

I was with someone who treated me well for over a year before we moved in and made commitments. Right after we did, things changed. This nice person became very verbally and emotionally abusive and withheld sex. After several years of me (and only me, by the way) trying to work on our problems, I left. If I had met someone after trying to work on my relationship, but before I had actually left, I may have gotten involved. I was not going to let a vow keep me in a loveless, sexless, abusive relationship. No vow is that important.

With all that said, you do still have to be careful. Is the marriage over, or is that what you're being told just so the other person can have fun at your expense?