I found that positive thinking has been a real help. It was hard to change the WAY I thought. Now I mostly think positively. Also, I don't associate with negative people any more. They just drain me and bring down your spirit. Hope this helped.

Not much you can do about the past.. It's part of your history

But what you can do is look to building a brighter future without making the same mistakes

from the past

Time alone heals nothing, It's what you do with that time that matters

I have decided to answer this one seriously . I will pause here for those who have fallen out of your chairs laughing at the thought of me be serious . I truely believe in our lives we all face moments that can truly define us . Sometimes these moments are day to day things , being dumped , job issues and so on . For some , these moments are tragic . A death , illness , serious injury .Some will just toss these moments aside and keep going as they have. Others will take it as a chance to look deep inside themselves and make some serious decisions about who and what they are . And when they emerge on the otherside , they find themselves so stregthend by the forge of life , that they know ,no matter what life throws at them they have the inner strength to face it . For on one level or another they already have .

To forget the past is difficult for me but I have severed myself from it so it doesn't keep coming back to drag me down...
The Emails go to spam
The phone number when it comes up is moved to decline
Her friends phone number is moved to decline
I moved to a location an hour and a half away and gave a false address on a package when I sent something of hers back that I found
I immediately contacted old friends so I wouldn't dwell
I opened a profile on Yahoo
I stumbled across this site
I make things happen here and now so it becomes my new "past"

I like this.

Time will only cure you it could take weeks months even a year or two depending on the situation .Just keep busy and excersise and time will cure you.

Don'T let this drag you done more the less this should be you re strength.

Also remember you are one step closer to finding the one for you.

thanks

YES you do it happend to me to I think the computer is takeing a break but thats my thaughts but I think you look nice and I would like to talk to if you want me to just tell me or you can just right me on my e-mail fkent123@comcast.net thats my personel e-mail ok.

I personally think you have no choice on what you remember. You brain pulls up things and maybe there is something you can use from it for experience but it doesn't have to define you unless you choose to make it so. If you hurt from an experience you prove two things. First you can still feel and the second is you can learn from it because it was significant enough to stand out in your mind.

If you find yourself repeating the same mistakes you need to take a little while and think about the payoff for doing that. Because I believe that is why people do things. They repeat what works for them even if it doesn't seem to work to others.

Occassionally what worked one time of our life doesn't later so maybe this is your time to change if it isn't working now.

I know for myself my worst decisions about relationships are ones where I rush into something and ignore what my instinctive voice tells me about people. Sometimes the fairest thing you can do for others is being fair to yourself and take your time to gather the knowledge about what you are getting lined to get into. If you allow people to use you it only hurts them also because it may seem like they get ahead but morally they slide further down the ladder.

HELLO yes I know im one step closer but I need someone now befor it takes to long and the end comes and I aint found no one I dont thank that will work for me if you know what I mean ok.

You'll never 4get, thats what is so hard. You'll cherish the good with the bad, but you have to store them to the side to get on with your life.

You never do forget. That is something I myself have struggled with for a very long time. There are ways to make it hurt a lot less. But forgetting is impossible. *hugz*

You have to be the one to decide this. Only you can make that decision. It is easy for anyone to tell you, but only you can decide it is time.

WHY do you let oeople walk all over you because that aint me that aint how I am im just a be by my self type of person but I do like to help people to ok.

SO im one step closer to finging someone I wander is that you or what are you talking about, SO how are you doing fine I hope ok.

WHAT di you try to use you meet 25 to 35 dont you or just e-mail me at fk123@comcast.net that one dont have a critiria so you can just use that one ok try it and tell me if you cant there hase to be some resone you cant get thru and thats the only reson you cant get thru ok.

I believe it's all mind over matter if you don't have a mind nothing matters lol. Seriously though it takes time and soul searching to realize that it is the end and you must be strong. Pain of a heartache is only momentary and shall pass. Must have faith that something or someone better is out there. Just roll with the punches and keep on keeping on. Cause you nvr know what's around the next bend that this crazy freeway of life we are on has to offer.

you know what they say best way to get over someone..

is to get under someone new