There are lots and lots of the games and such kind of threads around here.

But don't doubt for a second that some of us really enjoy responding to posts that make us actually think a bit.

Its ok, you are allowed to rant as much as you like here.

Just not about Diet Dr.Pepper. Anything but that.

(dont ask!)

LMAO!!! Yeah. That's pretty much out of bounds...LOL

....I don't think I'll fit in on this forum....just not my style and I'm going to go try out another forum I just found....nothing personal.....you seem like a good crowd....it's just not the type of dating forum I thought it was. The topics aren't what I thought they would be.

I appreciated everyone's responses to my questions and queries and I wish everyone the best.

Bye bye! See you again real soon!

Aawwwwwwwww...man, that just sucks!!

She already deactivated!!!

[Note to self: SHUT THE HELL UP FOOL! ]

Not your fault, Scoundrel.

Apparently she didn't find us mentally stimulating.

My friend here....who dragged me into these forums says I can't leave.... ....So I'll stay. I'll just have a profile on two places at once. Ummm....if anyone wants me you'll have to knock loudly because I might be in the back.....on the other forum.

What kind of stuff are you finding on the "other" forum????? You say it's better?????

i think your going to have to "knock louder"

I have met a woman here that I consider a very close friend....and although she is quite attractive, I belive it was her inner beauty that stole my heart!!!!

There is a forum ......I'm guessing we can't mention other dating websites?....the other forum just has many more topics of dating substance and many more topics on the problems and pitfalls of dating. The other place doen't appear to allow much in the way of playful threads that I see here. I'm not knocking this place....please don't misunderstand....it's just different that's all. What you have here is a large chat room....great for getting to know individuals but I'm more interested in thoughtful discussions about relationships and such.

Good question don't know that I could honestly answer it. But I'll try to my best. I'm not one who is attracted by looks alone for sure, there has to be something though .Rather it be a nice smile or sparkling eyes there has to be something little there.
However if everyone was equal I guess I wold know no different then..
As far as the sexual arrousment part? For me physical looks has never played a part in the fact if i was more arroused or not. Inner beauty is the key for me and how they have treated me. If they are an azz and hot looking I would not be arroused whatsoever.

(I'm just quoting the last line of buttons post)

I appreciate your thoughtful response buttons and I just want comment on the last line. That part about ignoring a hot looking man that's an azz ( a--s--s? we can't swear here?) is easy for most women. The hard part is becoming attracted to a very unhot man that is everything else you want. I know of at least one man like this......I want so badly to be attracted to him...because he is a wonderful man.... but he is just to........ unattractive to me. I don't mean average....I mean I don't like looking at him. It's cruel but this is life and love...what's there do do?

Yes very much easier

its not just how a person looks....the other senses come into play too....the person's smell & how they feel when you touch them....I once dated a woman who was thin, but she had lost some 200 pounds.....she had loose saggy skin on various parts of her body & it was actually a big turn off.....people come as a total package....I don't think you can just ignore one part of the package though you can emphasize certain aspects of the other person and what you are willing to accept....

I think it depends on the person. I know my former roomate only liked woman if he could count their ribs while they were standing. *shakes head* luckily i was never THAT Thin. He thought looks counted more then personality. Probably why we no longer speak.

I for one like someone's personality more then their looks. Yeah looks can help in the initial attraction but if you arn't smart, funny, witty or kind you're not likely to keep my attention after 3 minutes.

Personally, on the topic, I think people should tend to worry about personalities first and looks later. Looks can/will fade over time but that personality that you first fell for doesn't change. Unless of course something life altering happens to them but that's getting into the nit-picky details. XD
Honestly, if they have an amazing personality, no matter how ugly they would look at first glance (If you didn't know them) they would still look like the most gorgeous person in the world to me.

Unfortunately, the appearance thing has always been an issue. We all want to be with someone we think is attractive, but after a few days, weeks, or months, the person were with tends to look average and not all that interesting to us anymore, and thats when the personality and common interests keep us together. Thats why it's important to wait a while before climbing into the sack with anyone, unless your thing is purely sexual, and you don't really want a relationship. When it comes to relationships, sightless people have it made. Their judgment isn't clouded by all the superficial crap, and they tend to stay with their mates. When I was a young man, I got bored with women quickly, and went thru GF's like socks. I wasn't keeping score, I simply got bored. I think this was only because I didn't have anything in common with any of the gal's I went out with. At 55, my focus has turned to more than just physical appearance, but it still comes into play a little, but a lady doesn't have to be drop dead beautiful for me to want to spend time with her, and these days I find communication and common interests to be the most important factors. Dennis

And I met my best friend here, and though he's quite attractive, I didn't see his pic til a month after he had me hooked.