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Topic: Making plans or no?
singmesweet Joined Mon 07/28/08 Posts: 26661	Fri 12/12/08 01:14 PM
Do you like to make plans? Or, are you one of those last minute kind of people? This guy that I've talked to a little bit has asked me out twice now. Both times he asked the night of. I already had plans, so I haven't gone out with him. If I wanted to meet someone new, I at least try to plan a little.. not wait until the night of. Maybe that's not what most people do, though.

justme659 Joined Wed 10/03/07 Posts: 6144	Fri 12/12/08 01:19 PM
Plans please. I consider it good manners to at least ask 24 hours ahead of time.

livelife68 Joined Sun 12/30/07 Posts: 3696	Fri 12/12/08 01:21 PM
I like to plan especially when first meeting someone. It seems to make the date go a little smoother.

voxsteven Joined Wed 05/21/08 Posts: 1813	Fri 12/12/08 01:22 PM
a bit of both, really. (This comment was planned and scripted.)

mssilverfox Joined Sat 12/08/07 Posts: 10529	Fri 12/12/08 01:23 PM
Definately plan ahead a little bit...

njmom05 Joined Mon 04/23/07 Posts: 5867	Fri 12/12/08 01:24 PM
I would have to, since I'd need a sitter. I prefer to have plans when dating someone.

RareEntity Joined Mon 09/01/08 Posts: 23676	Fri 12/12/08 01:25 PM
aye, plan ahead if its a date

singmesweet Joined Mon 07/28/08 Posts: 26661	Fri 12/12/08 01:35 PM
I probably would have gone out with him had I not been busy. But, that's been twice so far. Even asking a day in advance would be better than asking that night.

franshade Joined Tue 07/24/07 Posts: 24704	Fri 12/12/08 01:37 PM
nope I'm the spontaneous sort

Johncenawlife316 Joined Sat 06/30/07 Posts: 3403	Fri 12/12/08 02:40 PM
Well in this type of case.. I would always make plans. So then both partys have a good ideas of when we are gonna meet etc. I mean it would be rude just to call some one out of the blue inless your long time friends and have been talkin for weeks about doing stuff that's different. But yeah if it was me, I would make plans.. seeing as I work and never know at times when I might be free or not etc. So I would repesect the same out of the other person I would like to see etc.

imsingle951 Joined Mon 12/01/08 Posts: 1984	Fri 12/12/08 03:33 PM
I believe in planning ahead.

franshade Joined Tue 07/24/07 Posts: 24704	Fri 12/12/08 04:21 PM
Well in this type of case.. I would always make plans. So then both partys have a good ideas of when we are gonna meet etc. I mean it would be rude just to call some one out of the blue inless your long time friends and have been talkin for weeks about doing stuff that's different. But yeah if it was me, I would make plans.. seeing as I work and never know at times when I might be free or not etc. So I would repesect the same out of the other person I would like to see etc. this is why I like to chat and know someone prior to meeting them - we can have the confidence to pick up the phone and say, hey let's grab a bite works for me - know it doesn't work for most

buttons Joined Mon 11/06/06 Posts: 25783	Fri 12/12/08 04:23 PM Edited by buttons on Fri 12/12/08 04:24 PM
how about telling him this instead of us? and myself i'd prefer the planning of at least 3 days.... but if you told him that the first time there would not of been a second time.

Ruth34611 Joined Sat 08/02/08 Posts: 32402	Fri 12/12/08 04:23 PM
Everyone is different when it comes to this. Just tell him if he wants to make plans with you it may be better to plan something in advance. I prefer plans, but with my schedule sometimes I do things at the last minute as well. And, good luck when you guys finally do go out.

singmesweet Joined Mon 07/28/08 Posts: 26661	Fri 12/12/08 04:27 PM
how about telling him this instead of us? and myself i'd prefer the planning of at least 3 days.... but if you told him that the first time there would not of been a second time. Never said I didn't tell him. I was just curious what other people think and do.

singmesweet Joined Mon 07/28/08 Posts: 26661	Fri 12/12/08 04:29 PM
Everyone is different when it comes to this. Just tell him if he wants to make plans with you it may be better to plan something in advance. I prefer plans, but with my schedule sometimes I do things at the last minute as well. And, good luck when you guys finally do go out. Last minute isn't a bad thing and I know that planning something isn't always an option. But, we'll see, I guess.

buttons Joined Mon 11/06/06 Posts: 25783	Fri 12/12/08 05:28 PM
i assumed u didnt since he did it a second time in that case... why would he do that again? he must be doing it on purpose then cause hes chicken to meet you

franshade Joined Tue 07/24/07 Posts: 24704	Fri 12/12/08 05:41 PM
Everyone is different when it comes to this. Just tell him if he wants to make plans with you it may be better to plan something in advance. I prefer plans, but with my schedule sometimes I do things at the last minute as well. And, good luck when you guys finally do go out. Last minute isn't a bad thing and I know that planning something isn't always an option. But, we'll see, I guess. I say don't wait, invite him out unscripted and unplanned

buttons Joined Mon 11/06/06 Posts: 25783	Fri 12/12/08 05:52 PM
or if u want to see him tell him how about i take a raincheck? and then say how bout if i call you when i can go and appoligise to him and tell him it's just a busy time of the year for you

singmesweet Joined Mon 07/28/08 Posts: 26661	Fri 12/12/08 11:24 PM
i assumed u didnt since he did it a second time in that case... why would he do that again? he must be doing it on purpose then cause hes chicken to meet you You shouldn't assume .