I was just kiddin anyway

i don't think, in most cases, i wouldn't NOT date someone who had a disability, specifically because of their disability.

however, i'm fairly certain i wouldn't date someone who defined their very being by that disability.

I have disabilities. And I make sure I share them before the first meetings. And I only look at the heart.

I've dated disabled people. The only problem was some places back then weren't wheelchair accessible. It made date nights a hassle.

I am okay with a physical disability or a limitation of some sort. I would prefer that they not hide it from me. Some disabilities you cant such as being in a wheelchair. What would be more upsetting to me is if the disabled person was not taking care of themselves an expecting me to take on that role. I do not find that romantically enticing at all and I dont feel bad in saying that.

but sometimes it IS enticing to dress up and play nurse

Oh yeah. I had a diabetic boyfriend and I would withhold his glucose tabs unless he was "good".

hey, don't give her ideas

It would depend on the nature & severity of the disability. I doubt a physical disability would be a problem for me, but some mental or emotional ones might.I would want to know very early, but I would not want it to be the 1st topic of converstion or the main topic of conversation.

there was this guy that i dated over a yr ago he was very nice. he was in a semi accedent 8yrs ago and 3yrs ago it left his mobilty to speak and walk so he would use a walker. i didnt have a problem with that.. the problem was he couldnt emotionally support me or his ownself. and i wanted someone that was willing to be there for me. as i found out from his sister later that the issue from his accedent causes issue with his brain as where they were determind he was actually dying but they didnt know when that would happen. you think he would had told me he was dying but no i heard it from his sister..

Well he probably figured you would leave him and he just wanted someone in his life. Im not saying he wasnt being deceptive and emotionally manipulating,. but I can understand what he was doing.

I will say this, cause it just happened to me the other day. I am a terminal lung disease called Cystic Fibrosis. I told this girl that I was interested in after about a week off talking on the phone and getting to know one another. She completely turned and ran. Stating she couldn't be in a relationship with someone that would eventually die! How heartless is that?????

ummmm, aren't we all gonna die eventually anyway??

That is what I was thinkin, but when faced with something like that most people are scared.

I had a friend that had that. He did get a lung transplant but thats no easy haul. He's still going though.

going out with a person with disabilities is once again up to an individuals preference, and yes you should tell a person you have one up front.

redbeast - it was heartless that she said it, but i'm sure there are many people who would have felt that way and not told the truth. It probably hurt you very much, but she was being honest with you and with herself.


I could date someone with a dissability, but I would have to still be attracted to them physically. Of course whats inside is very very important... there's no question about that.

forgot to say... I am one of those who lives for the day and I could also date someone who was terminally ill.... it would be heartbreaking, but love and attraction are very powerful things :)

I like the Catholic schoolgirl outfit better

I refuse to have a transplant. Course the docs never thought I would see the age of 30 years old either. I was diagnosed at 3 months old.