I realy do wonder if that desire for and fantasy of finding the one and falling in love only to fall ever deeper in love with each other with out end is truly what women want . I hear how you ladies ethusiastically are serious about falling in love and living happily ever after. Then when it is at your doorstep you are afraid to let it in. Is the reality of two people whos only care is to make the other one happy not enough. I know my last love was happy she constanly ,heard the 3 words i love you, received love letters , gifts of my art dedicated to my love 4 her, and little things given out of my appreciation of her continual guesturs of her love 4 me . otherwise having a roof to live under, pleanty to eat and what god provided that was all we needed. If I have love I need just enough income to have a home and the nessessities and thats every thing it takes to be happy . If having real love and a home and the nessessities is all you need to be happy then i would love to talk to you and see where it goes.

Dreamy

When you dont have that "real love" then all you have is the material...

When you have that "real love" the material blurs in the background of the light of your love.

The act of falling in love makes me feel vulnerable. I don't like feeling vulnerable. I have been hurt while in the act of falling into love and it sucks more than ever. From now on I am just careful with my trust and heart, but enjoy finding love. I really do!

So...the women who told me that it was " real love " and then we wound up fighting about the lack of money were all full of sh*t???

What a shock.

dude i have three words for ya, LSD

Yes & then they get bored with you & off to the next guy

You can really fall in love and still have money issues. Like.... oh.... let me think.... my second husband spending thousands of dollars on techno toys right after we had a baby and me having to not only go back to work full time, but clean friend's houses on weekends and consider working as a hostess at a strip club, yes with a new baby. Love does NOT conquer selfishness.

I'll give you that one.

But if the bills are paid, and you have a roof over your head and food to eat....what the f*ck is there to fight about??

Most people have a hard time trusting in love and another person. We protect our hearts by not fully giving it because we are afraid of it being broken.

As pleasant as that sounds I can honestly say that I am a lady reluctant to fall in love. Mostly, because I've seen a lot of relationships go south after the "falling in love" bit is over. Including a few of my own. Though everything you say sounds lovely, peachy, poetic and just...perfect. The only issue I often find myself thinking is that I'd rather experience a few things about life before falling in love...

Does that make sense?

That doesn't mean that every woman is like that.

do trust your heart if a man confesses that he loves you for all to hear without going to bed with you first then I would have to say believe it when he does not get an attitude if you still don't go to bed him ,and still wants to see you.

Before my 1st soulmate there was this young lady that I enjoyed just spending time with. and was hurt very badely by.She was giving me a lot of attention and would say i love to me quite often along with cuddling up with me every chance she got ,well I fell head over heals in love with here and told her that i loved her and spent the night toghether asleep in the same bed, after my not making love to her because niegther of us had any condems and she wasn't on the pill .i told her that i didnt want to take any chances and possibley get her pregnant without being ready for the responsibitly that comes with having and keepin a child .well every thing still seamed to be perfectly fine between us . a few of our friends were visiting one day and she started telling everyone that she wanted to see if she could get a man to fall deeply in love with her as a way to see how bad she could emotionally devistate him just because she wanted to. yes falling in love to be hurt sucks but to be played into falling in love to be intentionally hurt out of someones desire to see how bad they could hurt you is the worst.

You do realize that a woman that does something like that is not right in the head, don't you?

Oh didn't tell you that that love didnt stop because of are parting it was because she passed away from medical complications of a pharmicutical reaction between two medications and if you have money problems before having that love you'll have them with it . I was that kid that tried to trade his best new toys for freinds so material wants are not an issue material things are not a source of happieness for me. and the more money that I had the more people wanted to take advantage of me so I litterally had myself diagnossed as permanentally dissabled So I now recieve a guaranteed monthly income and monthly food debit card and have full medical so I know that i will always have a home food and the nessessities.

I guess that nobody is ready to have a life of love because all I am hearing is your afraid of giving yourself to possibly being hurt and put up with going thru a life believing that every one lets something come before love If you say your a christen feeling this way Then you have no faith and jesus never existed how dare anyone that doesnt believe in love before anything say the are. I am not a preacher or bible thumper or regular .congrigation attende. I am one of the few that stayed open minded enough even after being a thru more pain of the heart than you can imagine .I now have a unquestioned beliefe without doubt and every thing he says he will do for those with this faith he has done along with providing the proof of an afterlife that I asked for him to give to all mankind. If you ask for yourself it wont happen ask for some else to recieve and he provides. He has been giving use scientificaly prooven evidence that is recorded dated and verified not just by the investigative team but by media corperation that sponsers the team and publicly airs the recorded evidentiual audio/video data on the sci fi channel doubt me and god then carefully watch the last four years of the reality show ghost hunters and you have a spiritual awakening and know that you dont want to live an eternity in pain.

I think the love didnt conquer the selfishness cause that wasn't love.. what man would ask a woman they love to do that while he sits on his ass...

I would love for it to come to my door. I just broke up with a guy that I thought was love at the door, and I gave it everything in me. Then he decided he wasn't ready for marriage. I wanted it to be there and it wasn't.

wait wait wait now.. you're a 45 year old man.. nothing wrong with you but had yourself diagnosed as disabled so people wouldnt take advantage of you?? thats crazy .. thats just laziness.. there is no reason you can't get a job instead of getting yourself diagnosed so people dont take advantage of you.. people have more pride than that and work for what they want.. no one deserves to just be able to sit on their ass all day and collect free money that other people pay taxes for becuase they can't say no to people who take advantage of them..

His doctors, the Social Security doctors, and a judge decide if he is disabled before he can receive Social Security.

Then they automatically turn the person down the first time.

Then one must appeal that decision with more doctors, paperwork, and possibly a Social Security lawyer.

That's how the system works.