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Topic: The Broken Heart's Club
angelindarkness Joined Sun 11/25/07 Posts: 6492	Fri 12/12/08 06:59 PM
Doing my best to cope with the help of friends who care about me and love me; doing my best to vent and process and cry in private. But, I have never been the stoic type. Patterns is what I am most afraid of repeating. I am grateful for the wise, caring people in my life and I am trying to have Faith in my Higher Power.

angelindarkness Joined Sun 11/25/07 Posts: 6492	Fri 12/12/08 06:59 PM Edited by angelindarkness on Fri 12/12/08 06:59 PM
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SharonM45458 Joined Sat 01/05/08 Posts: 5694	Fri 12/12/08 07:13 PM
Doing my best to cope with the help of friends who care about me and love me; doing my best to vent and process and cry in private. But, I have never been the stoic type. Patterns is what I am most afraid of repeating. I am grateful for the wise, caring people in my life and I am trying to have Faith in my Higher Power. I am the same, but unfortunately no friends here where I live, but the people on here have helped alot. It's not my pattern I am afraid of repeating, but waiting to see if she can change her patterns.

angelindarkness Joined Sun 11/25/07 Posts: 6492	Fri 12/12/08 08:10 PM
Well, you've got me as a friend, too. As for patterns....yes, the other has issues no one could live with. But, we have to look at ourselves to see what it is that attracts us to those that have such terrible character flaws. That is only so that we can be more aware and avoid making the same choices in the future.

SharonM45458 Joined Sat 01/05/08 Posts: 5694	Fri 12/12/08 08:16 PM
Well, you've got me as a friend, too. As for patterns....yes, the other has issues no one could live with. But, we have to look at ourselves to see what it is that attracts us to those that have such terrible character flaws. That is only so that we can be more aware and avoid making the same choices in the future. She kept her flaws pretty well hidden.

angelindarkness Joined Sun 11/25/07 Posts: 6492	Fri 12/12/08 08:19 PM
Same here....or at least the extreme severity of it....till after the move into my home. No wonder I was never permitted to visit their place.

SharonM45458 Joined Sat 01/05/08 Posts: 5694	Fri 12/12/08 08:38 PM
Same here....or at least the extreme severity of it....till after the move into my home. No wonder I was never permitted to visit their place. I ended up moving several states away, to the middle of nowhere

SharonM45458 Joined Sat 01/05/08 Posts: 5694	Fri 12/12/08 08:40 PM
My journey for now is to get over the anger.

fairycatcher31 Joined Sat 01/26/08 Posts: 3680	Thu 12/18/08 11:44 AM
My journey for now is to get over the anger. Even tho I can't get you threw the anger I hope you know you are not alone in the process!!!

AllenAqua Joined Wed 01/09/08 Posts: 3895	Thu 12/18/08 02:55 PM
trust me...you can't really get your heart broke...only bruised or stunned...it'll begin working again as soon as you begin believing in yourself... AllenAqua, that sounds good; and I only wish I could believe in it. Well... We decide what we believe in, no? And since the power to decide is ours, we can choose to believe in ourselves over others. Who knows what the other party in a relationship is REALLY thinking at any given time? We're not mind readers so we should at least know our own minds and hearts because when it comes right down to it, it's truely all we have. I was married for 19 years, together for 21, and I've been down in the mud with my confusion, self pity, rejection, dejection, disgust and anger. It really was the toughest blow I've had to endure but I sincerly am a better man for it because the lesson I learned will abide in me and serve me well for the rest of my life. "Your feelings are based on what you choose to believe, your attitudes are a result of your feelings, your actions are influenced by your attitudes and your actions determine your destiny" We , no one else, are in charge of what we believe.